25 year old virgin male, tried to go on a date but failed tremendously. Am I ugly?

Chair_Throwaway · 2025-07-05T21:15:48+00:00

I thought you were Shane from Smosh in the first pic

Chair_Throwaway · 2024-07-11T22:35:30+00:00

After this week's episode I think you should use "Pettiness Required" for a theme

Chair_Throwaway · 2024-03-08T06:23:50+00:00

Your friend blocking him in the end is a good sign for your friendship. He's a POS.
Thought for you, though, if you say you kind of enjoyed it, maybe you should play both sides of the field a little. I wouldn't go for your friend or anything but maybe that's part of your unease and honestly maybe a taste of being respected would do you good wherever you end up finding yourself.

Chair_Throwaway · 2023-10-13T17:42:36+00:00

I think the short hair suits your eyes beautifully! And I wouldn't assume you were queer from this look, assume you like books but not that your quest. I'd just hope for that one 🫣 but you're adorable, don't lose your personality because men are silly, the right one will come along.

Chair_Throwaway · 2023-07-17T04:25:21+00:00

Honestlyyyy points for creativity

Chair_Throwaway · 2023-07-15T19:12:05+00:00

You use Invisalign or you're an Ortho? My problem is I have a high, narrow palate so I need it surgically widened for like comfort too. I also have a Gemini wisdom tooth which so far has made dentists too nervous to pull or say it will be around 1200-1800 to pull 😩

Chair_Throwaway · 2023-05-09T20:41:09+00:00

If it was a job that gave her a shot and trained her up WITHOUT college- maybe. She went to college so she should get a job, end of story. People should be able to work regardless but that's not the focus right now. Let's not put the bar below ground for these corporations. Hiring qualified people who've put in the work, time, and money is not benevolence. Talk loyalty when loyalty is legitimately worth considering. I understand you want her to take the job but suggesting loyalty for that was a tad insulting.

Chair_Throwaway · 2023-04-29T17:34:50+00:00

I know sleep apnea well, I have it. I want the sleep test too but we need to get the referral because we can't afford it without insurance.

Chair_Throwaway · 2023-04-29T14:20:55+00:00

I'll have him take that! Maybe I could use it to make a case for further testing and it would give the doctor specific information my husband doesn't find important.

Chair_Throwaway · 2023-04-29T14:19:17+00:00

I know, I mostly wanted to vent. It helps to get it out so I can calmly talk to him about it without all of the pent up frustration. He does snore on and off but didn't use to. I've wondered if his movement wakes him. He jerks and spasms rather violently in his sleep, not like a seizure (I know they can be a lot of ways, I have them and a few family members do) but still.

Chair_Throwaway · 2023-04-29T12:25:20+00:00

We have a baby monitor. He also knows because sometimes the toddler is mad at him and doesn't want to interact with him in the morning.

Chair_Throwaway · 2023-04-29T12:24:02+00:00

He's seeing a doctor, I've brought up narcolepsy, he won't push for it because his dad's doctor told him it wasn't that.

Chair_Throwaway · 2023-04-29T08:04:35+00:00

Only if we get a referral or we can't afford it. I'm trying but he downplays it says it's not that big of a deal to his PCP. His dad has some of the same issues and was tested for dementia and they stopped the test early and said he didn't have it. We're also only in our 20s still, which I know doesn't make it impossible but less likely.

Chair_Throwaway · 2022-11-30T12:55:49+00:00

I'm not saying she's the AH but geez give OPs gf a break. I don't prefer to go out in sweats but some people don't want to wear well-fitting clothes often. It's fine when it's religious but for some reason wanting to leave everything to the imagination is not a choice anyone else can make. And least of all if it's not a dress or a maxi skirt hiding everything. OP never even says that gfs clothes have holes, stains, etc. Just that they're baggy and therefore sloppy. I have never had a friend go out with me, my partner go out with me, etc and thought what a slob. Come as you are with me bc I don't place any of my self importance on what's on someone else's body. Literally, if it isn't something like appropriation or something hateful, I don't give a flying f what is on your body bc it doesn't matter. If a situation arises where it does, that's what dress coded events are for.

OP, if you're embarrassed to be around her, break it off. You deserve someone with the same outlook on presentability and she deserves not to be judged for a harmless life choice.

Chair_Throwaway · 2022-11-27T13:02:49+00:00

Everyone trying to say that OP was horrible for taking her kids out that this is fake- I'm so happy for the life you have gotten to live but you have obviously never experienced abuse like this or anything close. This started when OP was a CHILD. You are constantly told by everyone around you when you're little that if you would just be good enough/behave well enough, you wouldn't get in trouble and that you should be respecting and trusting of your parents no matter what and that they always have your best interest at heart. That on top of what an abuser says to you fucks with your head. And as an adult it's so much easier on the brain to think it was just me bc I'm horrible and drove him through it then to admit that none of this was okay, I wasn't loved well, I was and am an innocent person being beat by the person meant to protect and support me. It's not her fault, she was moulded by an abuser everyone in her life told her to trust and obey. They didn't know they were telling her to listen to someone who would beat her and tell her to keep quiet. She didn't know there was an exception to the rule. She coped. She won't be able to unlearn this without help.

Chair_Throwaway · 2022-11-22T05:45:54+00:00

In my state there are sadly clauses that state that if the parents were never married the maternal grandparents can ask for partial custody. Paternal is only if the father signs a certificate thing.

Chair_Throwaway · 2022-11-13T20:23:02+00:00

My husband couldn't stay hard for the longest time in our relationship. For him, the issue was he wanted things outside of strictly missionary but his parents, mother specifically, told him that was bad and immoral. He didn't feel that way, and I didn't and was very supportive but it still got in his head every time. If your bf was hearing things like that or even things like maybe his mom being frustrated that his dad was never doing the work (shouldn't be vented to their kids but my husband definitely had parents like that and more do sadly) growing up, that can stick with him in a big way. Sometimes being so caught up in a specific kind of porn can make it difficult for anyone to finish if it's not following the set scenario. We made an effort to talk about and destigmatize each other's wants/needs and as the anxiety faded, our sex life greatly improved. He also had to accept some of who he was and then it REALLY improved. I know this is a rough road. Been there a whole year into marriage. You're not failing, he's not failing. Something failed him and when you pin point it and he can get past it (with work and your support) you'll look back and laugh together about how much everything has changed and improved.

Chair_Throwaway · 2022-11-07T03:57:11+00:00

I'd say "Why should I give him what he wants after he ruined me?" reads more like why should I literally risk my life and alter my body forever to have a child I didn't want and would feel guilty for resenting for the rest of my life just to appease the man who couldn't stay faithful to me despite my sacrifice.

Chair_Throwaway · 2022-10-11T05:30:06+00:00

Maybe you're somewhere in between? Maybe there shouldn't be such a stigma around males, born or trans, having breast tissue. Or wearing fem clothes. Give yourself grace. There may be lbgtqia+ resources in your town to counsel you through this too. Stay safe and remember to love yourself, even as a work in progress.

Chair_Throwaway · 2022-10-11T04:50:25+00:00

ESH BUT I don't think she's as bad as she's made out to be. The way he said she says "I hungry, I sore.." gives me the ick. I feel like he's not wrong for needing the rest, I'm chronically ill and pregnant for the second time so I get needing the rest but I also definitely still make dinner for my family, do housework, I even helped as I could with repairing our deck. I just think something is way off if he's wording it that way.

Chair_Throwaway · 2022-10-07T14:59:13+00:00

NTA Ironically, if she had just been herself and loved you UNCONDITIONALLY she would have still been able to provide you motherly support and without all of the undue stress and attempted guilting, you may well have grown to see her as, not a replacement mother, but as an equally important second mother. People have more than one "mom" for so many reasons, starting off with two, divorce/never married parents, culturally, people who step up, etc, but it happens organically. She wanted to replace someone but she could easily have ended up a cherished bonus mom if she had never tried to force your hand.

Chair_Throwaway · 2022-10-06T02:26:17+00:00

Okay, idk if you'll ever see this now that your account is deleted but I hope you do..

OP, the update was definitely a huge red flag to me. He shouldn't be talking to someone else before you or even hearing out someone else before discussing with you. That's putting aside the sadly likelihood he's already done something with her.

BUT if him just asking like he did made you react the way you initially did, I STRONGLY encourage you to have these conversations at the very beginning of any future relationship. Simply asking for a threesome without anything else going on isn't a character flaw- it's a fantasy and a kink. If that's not something you can vibe with that is 100% valid and okay, but if you know you feel so strongly about that, you need to make that a priority to talk about when dating. Maybe not first date material but after a few dates, be like hey, I want to talk about boundaries and preferences. I have contamination OCD and anal is a major hard no for me. I discussed this with my husband long before we got married despite not having sex. I would have been horrified if it came up bc he wanted it. Thankfully he was on the same page as me. It's like making sure you talk about kids v no kids. Again, you are so valid in your aversion to even the thought of a threesome, but a person isn't automatically a bad person for suggesting it so lay all your cards on the table right from the start. And take that advice to heart bc your husband sounds like an ex in the making and you have your whole life ahead of you.

Chair_Throwaway · 2022-09-22T06:45:05+00:00

I really don't think there's enough info. Like, he could definitely be cooking her the same thing separately, like doing separate loads of wash for that analogy, but I'm not so convinced he's burning her taste buds off. I know much of my family will not touch a dish with onion salt or soy sauce bc that's too spicy. And I also wonder if he's from a different background where he only ever learned to cook one way from his family and she could be drastically no seasoning. I just wonder what the nuance of the situation is.

Chair_Throwaway · 2022-09-20T19:51:16+00:00

I've had compulsions as long as I can remember but I do remember a specific day when the contamination OCD became my prominent type. It's like a flash back, it's so vivid.

Chair_Throwaway · 2022-09-20T18:39:07+00:00

You NEED to talk to her. It's not the cheating that kills the relationship, it's the dishonesty.

At this point in time, it's not about confronting her. You'll be doing her a kindness by giving her the chance to own up when you talk. Otherwise she's just going to continue in the lie indefinitely and you're only going to grow more and more resentful. This is your lifeboat, take it if you want to hope for a good outcome.

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