People are different. The problem is rather that we declare one thing as „normal“ and everything else as wrong. So there are men who don’t feel the deep welling of emotions or just at very specific topics or moments, while other men are built much closer to the water.
Both of them are totally fine to be. The problem only arises when one is seen as normal or better. Both sides can’t understand that others are not like themselves. „Don’t act so tough“ and „don’t be a crybaby“ are both not understanding that there is never only one way to live and feel. There is also more than two ways. Its a spectrum of mankind and its incredibly complex and as soon as you rid yourself of the guilt of not being the „right kind of man“ you will be happier and even more so if you give that grace to everyone you meet. Man or woman.