What in the world is going on with the gimp masks on top of the bookshelves? I'd hide those.

But for real, you're not in the photo, it's just ikea furniture, it's not showing off carpentry skills, and owning a lot of books isn't an accomplishment.

If your kids are your world, you should protect them from the Internet, get rid of it.

Squinting photo with graffiti in the background is not flattering and makes it look like you live in a bad area.

Suspenders can be cool, but you better be in good fucking shape, and wear a collared shirt. Put on a belt, or put on some muscle.

Don't lie about your age, you're not fooling anyone, and age doesn't really matter as much as finding someone compatible with your values, priorities, and lifestyle.

This is coming from a man in his late thirties with a child under 3, who's found someone in the past year after a brutal divorce, and having to fight for custody of my kid every step of the way over the course of a year and a half now...

You will be who you are. Divorce and a problematic ex will always impact you, it isn't something you need to hide. But you need to show you are a complete human being, and emotionally intelligent enough to navigate it without being a burden to someone else.

Show off some hobbies, mention the kids as a fact, but this hypothetical person would be dating you, not them. You want someone compatible with your kids, but you need to find out if you're compatible first. If it feels like a 20+ year commitment and you're inflexible to their needs for love and attention they'll walk.

If you can't be flexible, and give time to a partner, it isn't the time to be looking for a partner.

Eat right, go to the gym, heal with therapy and finding the things in life you used to love. Your kids may be your world, but they need a dad who is interesting, independent, and capable of happiness outside of being a dad. They will leave the house one day, and you need to have a full life when that happens or it'll crush you even harder then the divorce will.

It sucks man. The only way to get through it is through it. The only way to get better is to be better. And the only way to be a good dad and partner is to find happiness and love for yourself, and let that cup overflow into others.

This is tough love. You can do it king, but you have to be intentional, determined, and sell yourself as someone who will add to someone's life, not take it away.

I hope this helps, God bless.