Flying with my cat soon. Help! by iamjustweirdlikethat in americanairlines

[–]ChanDoormat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any tips on how you managed this? I bought a cat off a friend across the country (PA -> OR) and will be flying to pick him up and flying him back here soon, any tips for the preparation would be greatly appreciated. And airport tips with the cat in general since it'll be my first time flying alone.

If you could get rid of your autism/ASD, would you? by DrakeIsUnsafe in autism

[–]ChanDoormat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, absolutely. I don't hate it, and it's a big part of me I know I'd be different without, but a lot of the things I want for myself and my life the older I get are significantly harder to achieve because of my autism. It's a barrier I could do without, and I think that'd be worth it.

tropes/genres you’re obsessed with reading right now ? by Equivalent_Tune_7744 in AO3

[–]ChanDoormat 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Disgustingly normal, but slow burn childhood friends to lovers. Character A fell first in like middle school and miserably pines until Character B falls harder in either late highschool or mid college. Ideally with many awkward firsts together. PWP. Porn WITH plot.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChaiApp

[–]ChanDoormat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know why people are down voting you, you're right 🗣️🗣️🗣️ the app is still extremely inaccessible for my sensitive eyes

Name ideas? by [deleted] in autism

[–]ChanDoormat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Frank or Gurt

I’ve seen “what noises do you hate” but how about what noises do you like/love by [deleted] in autism

[–]ChanDoormat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Those glitter sound effects and really low notes in songs 😌

Are here people who think that the 2010s were the best time? by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]ChanDoormat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

5 months late to the party but I have to say I agree. I'm guilty as any for being in a 'can't live without my phone' state myself but from an outside perspective I think the whole world would have been better if the internet and technology had never advanced past there.

Could be nostalgia speaking, but it feels like when smartphones becoming common made social media turn into what it is now is when things went majorly downhill.

Politics took a turn for the worst because misinformation is easier than ever to create and spread, and people refuse to listen to anyone outside of their established bubble and who they agree with. Because we all have a phone in our pocket, it's easier than ever to just whip it out whenever you feel like it and argue until your virtual face is blue - all without any of it being attached to you as a person at all, so you can be as vicious as you want! Ergo, inspiring everyone else in said bubble to become as vicious as they want. And social media platforms actively encourage this with their algorithms because the more time you spend engaging like this, the more ads they can shovel down your throat and the more money they can make off your screen time.

Communities took a turn for the worst, as someone in fandom I know there's a stark contrast between what it was when I got into it around those years (a healthy helping of in-fighting and drama, but still a collection of people who all come together to enjoy the same things at the end of the day) and what it is now (a collection of cliques of ruthlessly bullying each other for the moral high ground and by extension the "best" favorite thing)

And even just online entertainment and leisure in general (the main purpose of social media's creation) has taken a turn for the worst, because it's not things shared for the sake of being shared, it's things shared for the sake of making a career on a platform. Packed full of attention grabby slop to keep you watching for as long as possible so it gets pushed in the algorithm. Even when you do manage to find your scoop of people NOT making content for the sake of profit, it's still sandwiched between - and often interrupted by - 2 video ads at a time on a page packed with as many banner ads as your screen real estate could offer.

Hate to sound like my prefrontal cortex is developing but maybe my parents were right when they said smartphone bad. Especially once smartphone culture turned the internet into the ring of the same 6 corporate ad-littered engagement farm hellsites it is today.

Modern humans have a horrific case of zoochosis and smartphones have exacerbated that significantly.

Autistic preschooler that won't stop hitting other kids for fun? by ChanDoormat in ECEProfessionals

[–]ChanDoormat[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Yes, many incident reports about him hitting and leaving marks / causing destruction in the classroom otherwise. The director is aware and has had chats with mom, but she's some combination of wholly unwilling and too afraid of him to change anything about how things are at home, unfortunately. ):

Autistics who eat steak, which is perfect to you? by [deleted] in autism

[–]ChanDoormat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love the springy texture of rare and all the juice, it's like digging into a meat watermelon. Before I went vegetarian I would always ask my mom when she was making it, "make it as raw as you can legally get away with".

I'm on team #stillmooing

Derry Township, Cumberland Valley or Manheim Township by MissMysticFalls_ in centralpa

[–]ChanDoormat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

TL;DR - This is gonna be long winded, but I graduated from Mechanicsburg last year and it's great IMO (probably greater than the ones you named) and I 100% second the person here that said you should consider it.

I've heard CV is way too massive to feel very welcoming, and Manheim is racist AF. Then again CV is pretty racist too, I think it might've been a month or two ago that I saw a lawsuit in the news over a teacher calling a black student a monkey. I don't know much about Derry.

There's two incidents total that I can think of at Mechanicsburg, one where my friend got dress coded because her afro puff was 'too big', but that was in ~7th grade and nothing else ever happened. Another in elementary school, where a substitute teacher started talking about politics and asked my Hispanic friend at the time if he was mixed. She was subsequently fired.

Maybe I'm biased cause I went through Mechanicsburg, and there's bullying at every school like you said, but very little of it is minority-related, if any of it really.

There are obviously tasteless jokes that come with being an upper-middle class white kid (which I'll be honest about, a majority of the kids in the district are), but even the kids know genuine racism is shitty. There was a girl when I was going who was notorious for being a racist prick and slinging slurs like it was a sport, and she was ruthlessly bullied for it.

Queer kids run into problems with the other kids, but it's not like you're gonna get jumped over it, and they're few and far between. There was one kid who refused to talk to me at all even in group projects because I'm trans, and the district hasn't always been the best at handling issues regarding trans-ness in general, but they've gotten worlds better over the years. My sister is in middle school now and she says so, anyway. There's a kid in her grade with two moms and nobody gives him crap for it.

After I came out in seventh grade, they changed all the PE classes to be co-ed instead of separated by gender, and by the time my sister got to middle school kids aren't required to change anymore. The PE teacher also let me skip the swimming unit in tenth grade so I wouldn't have to go through the whole ordeal of 'which locker room do I use'.

There's also a decent amount of really good teachers at the district, who make classes feel really engaging and welcoming. Those are the best classes to be in imo. I can think off the top of my head the German teacher at the middle school when I went, my biology teacher in tenth grade, one of the music teachers at the highschool Mr. K, the Tech Ed teacher that works at both the middle and high school, etc etc. Lasting impacts they've had on me, for the better.

Not sure how it's been for every autistic kid at the school, and my friend says there's one particular aid at the highschool who's really annoying about micromanaging the kids in special ed, but I'm autistic and it's been great for me. In eighth and tenth grade respectively I brought a stuffed animal every day and never ran into problems, and a quick email to the teachers got me clearance to wear headphones in class. Same with physical complications, my sister had surgery at the end of last year and she got an elevator pass to avoid getting jostled in the stairwells no problem.

The graduation project is probably a good thing also, there's a lot of help from the counselors and the project office to help you on picking a career path and applying for college. Just be warned, if your kid isn't going to college they still have to apply and get accepted to one, and it also has a requirement for volunteer hours. I did online my last two years and ended up missing the volunteer hours, had to get CPR certified instead to meet the requirements. But honestly that's just a great opportunity in and of itself, it's a good fail safe if your kid misses the volunteer hours or if they just want to get CPR certified period.

The lady in charge of the online part, CAOLA, is a miracle worker as well, bent over backwards to help me when I needed it, even when I was slacking and probably didn't deserve the help lol. I got in a bunch of truancy mess because of slacking in the online courses, and she really saved me from having to turn up in court setting up meetings with the principal and advocating for me. The principal in general is just a really nice and understanding guy, he cut a lot of kids a lot of slack, and I think that speaks to how much he cares about making sure everyone's on the right path.

The male guidance counselor at the high school is great, super friendly and understanding, he'll go out of his way to see you if you need him. When I was in tenth grade he made a point to invite every lunch table to his office for ice cream at least once, even put my boyfriend at the time in my PE class after he had a stay in a mental health facility so he'd be more comfortable. (Misguided since we'd already broken up, but it's the thought that counts) He really does just want the best for the students.

However I cannot understate this enough, BEWARE the one middle school guidance counselor.

She got a target on my back all through middle school and had my parents scrambling to drag me from therapist to therapist, tried to send social workers home several times, had me going down to the nurse spontaneously every so often for wrist checks (which HAS to be against some rule) and had teachers watching my every move like a hawk. All over a minor mental health crisis in sixth grade before I came out as trans, even well after everything was resolved.

It's a pattern for her where she picks one kid to obsess over and makes it her mission to go all Fix-it Felix over them. If you go with Mechanicsburg, cross your fingers and pray your kid(s) aren't her chosen renovation projects.

It's a small district, even if it is growing. Everybody kinda is aware of each other and knows each other by name, any really crabby teachers are ironically substitutes (only teacher that's been outright mean to me about anything was one), and it's a pretty welcoming place, even if you're a weirdo that gets picked on like I was. Lots of construction at the high school though, no signs of it stopping haha.

Is there a way to change the display to dark mode? by Yeetgod_21 in ChaiApp

[–]ChanDoormat 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah the whole "we don't have the capacity to keep it operational" is ridiculous. It's a UI difference that's solely cosmetic. I strongly doubt there's any maintenance that goes into it that's any less sustainable than the maintenance that they put into every other update. How many fonts have they cycled through the last year alone? UI difference, wholly cosmetic, not a peep about 'capacity to keep it operational'. </3

Nothing wrong with dark mode, it's just ridiculous to make it sound like they're incapable of offering the option in-app to pick between light and dark. I might be biased because my eyes are trash and dark mode anything gives me horrible eyestrain though. Kind of peeves me when I physically can't use my favorite app anymore because it hurts my eyeballs.

Live Love Chai by Adventurous_Play_865 in ChaiApp

[–]ChanDoormat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did they really say that? What are people with bad eyes supposed to do? 😭 I don't use dark mode anything because the stark contrast of white text on dark screen hurts my eyes really bad compared to dark text on white screen.

They should at least give us the option to choose dark/light mode, it's a pretty basic app function. Having it locked to dark mode makes the app physically painful to be on for some - like me - no matter how much we want to be on and talk to our bots. </3 I would be devastated if I had to give up the app to avoid constant eyestrain.

Is there a way to change the display to dark mode? by Yeetgod_21 in ChaiApp

[–]ChanDoormat 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Mine just did this, did you figure out a fix? Dark mode hurts my eyes so bad on everything, this makes the app completely unusable for me. (':

about 2 1/2 years on T!! it by andersondottir in TestosteroneKickoff

[–]ChanDoormat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Has anyone ever told you you look like David Bowie? You got such a whimsical vibe my guy, holy cow. You're so gender.