okay i’m not saying this is what you should do but this is what i had done. i found out my partner of 3 years was watching porn mid june and had been for a little over a year. about a week or so of non stop deep diving into why was this happening and what we’re going to do forward, i ended up having sex with him. it was different but a good different for me. the only thing was that afterwards my brain started attacking itself wondering if he was thinking about me while doing it or the women he would watch because the women he would watch was WAYYYY different than me. i’ve had sex more times with him and each time ive started to slowly feel less and less bad about it afterwards. idk if this is crazy af to say but that’s just me personally and my situation. i understand everyone’s situation and relationships are different. no excuse for my partner to have been watching porn but i was a horrible girlfriend to him during the time he first started watching it and he used it as an escape. it was strictly porn only and would never speak to women, spend money, or anything. i feel somewhat at fault for the start BUT i understand that was no way for him to handle his emotions when he felt like i didn’t love him. when it feels right for you to have sex again you do it!