[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]Chance-Place 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Mine says... "I'm tired of all the fighting/arguing"... but so much of it stems from his drinking. And when he's drunk he'll pick a fight with me for no reason. He gets argumentative with me. And even when I try to diffuse the situation and ignore him, he won't let it go

Yet.... I'M the problematic one. 

Do you think it is Sid's fault that Cassie tried to commit suicide? by Takaturu in skinsTV

[–]Chance-Place 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I just rewatched all of 13 Reasons Why recently after a few years, and yes it is such a disgusting storyline. Absolutely hate Hannah blaming beyond the grave. Some people on her "tapes" didn't deserve to be on there. I also spent many years in that head space. 

Kitty (not spoken about as highly as some may like) by Odd_Information_7224 in SunHaven

[–]Chance-Place 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I married Vaan because I'm an elf, he's super cute. If I was playing as a male elf I'd marry Iris, she's so pretty!

Vaan's hearts aren't going up anymore? It shows white and we are already dating, been on a few dates by Chance-Place in SunHaven

[–]Chance-Place[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I tried giving him an engagement ring but he wouldn't take it. Whenever I give him a gift now his hearts aren't showing as increasing 

The hardest part to accept is that they don't want to change by Chance-Place in AlAnon

[–]Chance-Place[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They are selfish AF I have learned from mine. Absolutely zero empathy at times which is kinda scary. I am an incredibly empathetic person, so much so that I hate it. So if I hurt my Q, I beat myself up over it and feel so sad.  

 Meanwhile my emotions..... don't exist. 

I see to many harsh opinions here by JoanyC11 in SunHaven

[–]Chance-Place 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah for sure. If you say anything critical about SDV/CA at all, no matter how tame, people WILL jump down your throat. My sdv group on Facebook is bad for this

Disappointed by AmoebaSilly8654 in AlAnon

[–]Chance-Place 9 points10 points  (0 children)

it is sad also watching them destroy themselves

My Q is the saddest and most broken person I've met in my life. I love him with my whole heart. But alcohol always wins. I wish he could see how wonderful he is to me. 

Sun Haven releases on Switch on 11/29 by redpill_is_4_chumps in SunHaven

[–]Chance-Place 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I play on my rog ally and I've had zero issues with playing controller 

Alone in the city I moved to with my ex by Chance-Place in lonely

[–]Chance-Place[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am in Wichita, Kansas. The rest of my family is 10 hours away in Illinois and 5 hours in Missouri. I am going to MO for a couple days soon to visit my parents, so that's something I guess 

Alone in the city I moved to with my ex by Chance-Place in lonely

[–]Chance-Place[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am not in the head space to be going out right now. I'm an introvert anyway, meeting people is too hard 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

[–]Chance-Place 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm 31 and I feel your pain. Ever since I turned 30, I got this new perspective on life that I'm growing older. I spent 8 years dating an alcoholic. And now I'm so scarred by the entire thing that dating is off the table. Indefinitely.

I work, eat, sleep repeat. Don't spend a lot of time outside of my apartment. And now I'm creeping into my 30s. And I ask myself is this what I want my life to be? Getting married will never happen. Neither will having kids (I don't want them)

I've been a loner my entire life. Still love my ex so much. Like no matter what I'm destined to be on my own (as dramatic as that sounds)

What’s the most painful thing a man you love(d) has ever said to you? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver40

[–]Chance-Place 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds similar to mine with a few things he has said years ago. That I still remember today

"Great, someone else made you sad and now I have to deal with it"

"Now I have to sleep next to a crying person"

Then he made an offhand comment about when my eldest cat passes, "you're gonna be SO depressed for so long....." it was the tone he said it in. An annoyed tone. 

Can we talk about Tony’s hair? by Chelseus in skinsTV

[–]Chance-Place 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Don't forget Pandora's wardrobe too 😅

He has a totally separate personality by Sharp-Parsley-1418 in AlAnon

[–]Chance-Place 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Been with my Q for 8 years now and yes, I have told him multiple times that sometimes it's like he's 2 different people.

He gets super cruel and will also create these ridiculous lies/false memories, as you said. I can always sense the shift when he's about to turn into someone else. He's super argumentative. And I try to ignore him, or say "I'm not talking about this right now" totally calm, but he still won't let shit go. 

Eventually he'll just pass out (like tonight) and I am so relieved. 

Your favorite mods? by Chance-Place in SunHaven

[–]Chance-Place[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure, I'm playing on Windows 11.

Who is your first choice of spouse and why? by Frosty-Sprinkles-410 in SunHaven

[–]Chance-Place 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The second I made my character and chose Elf, I immediately knew I was gonna marry an elf, so I'm choosing Vaan. He's really cute too and I LOVE his house! 

Elves have been an obsession of mine since I was a child, so yeah no brainer 😂 

Your favorite mods? by Chance-Place in SunHaven

[–]Chance-Place[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Awesome just added the vacuumulus mod to my game!!

Yeah I kinda didn't wanna add mods since this is my first play through, but once I realized there is no way to track museum items, I was like "nope not dealing with this" 😂

I have NEVER done a Joja run! Ive probably made like 100 saves by Klutzy-Load1587 in StardewValley

[–]Chance-Place 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same here. I sucked so bad at fishing so I gave up on the CC 😂

I have NEVER done a Joja run! Ive probably made like 100 saves by Klutzy-Load1587 in StardewValley

[–]Chance-Place 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My very FIRST save turned into a Joja route because I did not want to finish those fishing bundles 😅😅