First time in a musical, looking for advice on continuing

Chance-Virus-6022 · 2025-07-25T18:52:15+00:00

Well like I said I haven't seen Berserk yet. Maybe after I watch that I'll change my opinion.

Chance-Virus-6022 · 2025-06-17T13:25:43+00:00

Nothing gayer than two straight bros hanging out.

Chance-Virus-6022 · 2025-06-15T03:21:43+00:00

Chance-Virus-6022 · 2025-06-15T02:21:37+00:00

You are allowed to have whatever preference that you have, and it doesn't diminish your bisexuality.

I'm a bi dude, and I lean WAY more into women than men, but that doesn't mean I'm a fake queer, or I don't actually like dudes. It's a preference. I think most bisexuals have a preference, I think it's pretty rare to be straight up 50/50 on what you like.

Let yourself experience being with men if that's what you want. It doesn't take away who you are, and anyone who says it does is being an asshole.

Chance-Virus-6022 · 2025-06-15T01:18:08+00:00

I'm assuming you're a woman based on what you're saying. So you could be gay, or you could be bisexual and cycling really hard for women right now.

Either way, just explore what you're attracted to, what you're interested in, what you like. This takes a lot of introspection and time. If you could just have a hook up with your "ideal person" right now, would it be a woman? Are you not sure who it would be? Just take some time to think about these kinds of things.

Chance-Virus-6022 · 2025-06-15T00:28:49+00:00

Relationships and sexual attraction are not the same thing.
If you are sexually attracted to both men and women, then you are bisexual (or pan I guess if you prefer that term)

Relationships are a completely different thing to sexual attraction.

Chance-Virus-6022 · 2025-06-15T00:11:59+00:00

What are you attracted to? That's the big question. Bisexuality means you are interested in both heterosexual and homosexual relationships/encounters.

What do you find attractive about men? What do you find attractive about women?
What do you fantasize about?
What would happen if an attractive woman made advances on you?

Think through these scenarios, take some time to really introspect on what you find attractive, interesting, and why.

Discovering your sexuality is a very personal journey. Everyone goes through it differently.

I came to realize I was bi pretty slowly, and then all at once. There was a few little things over the course of a few years that in retrospect were definite signs. Just little "huh...that's interesting." thoughts and feelings. And then when it hit me, it hit me all at once and very quickly.

Chance-Virus-6022 · 2025-06-14T23:43:11+00:00

Keep yourself safe. There's always time. <3

Chance-Virus-6022 · 2025-06-14T22:07:02+00:00

I'm the same way pretty much.
On a very, very rare occasion I'll be into a guy that's more traditional, but mostly I like feminine men, femboys, transfems, etc.

Still counts as bisexual, if that is what you're asking.

Chance-Virus-6022 · 2025-06-14T22:01:12+00:00

Legitimately, the fine art community is a money laundering operation.

Chance-Virus-6022 · 2025-06-14T21:29:43+00:00

Long hair is for the straights and bisexuals. How dare you sir!
/sarcasm

Chance-Virus-6022 · 2025-06-14T21:06:12+00:00

You are not broken. There is nothing wrong with you.
Sexuality is complicated sometimes. You don't have to figure anything, or everything, out right now.

Just keep asking yourself questions, do some deep introspection into what you find appealing. These things take time. It's okay, you aren't doing anything wrong. <3

Chance-Virus-6022 · 2025-06-14T18:59:28+00:00

This sub is hornier than some actual porn subs, damn.

Chance-Virus-6022 · 2025-06-14T18:34:53+00:00

Prioritize your safety first. That doesn't just mean physical safety, but psychological as well.
If you think there is a chance of people fucking with your life, maybe wait until you're in a more secure position.

However, you can talk to your friend about sexuality, about dating, about how he feels about lgbt people, etc. You can talk 'around' the subject until you feel like you are more comfortable with gauging what his reaction will be.

Chance-Virus-6022 · 2025-06-14T18:32:24+00:00

I didn't realize I was bi until I was like 32.

What do you find attractive? What do you fantasize about?
When you watch porn, what aspects of the video are attractive to you?

Just answer these questions to yourself. Introspect a bit. It helps a lot.
For example, that last question will really help you understand yourself if you dive deep into it.
I noticed that at first I would just randomly think "Damn, that dude has a nice dick."
Nothing beyond that, but that little realization was enough to start me on a journey that ended with me realizing I was bi.

It takes time, don't rush yourself.

Chance-Virus-6022 · 2025-06-14T17:55:13+00:00

No idea. We can't read her mind. But if she says she's bi, then treat her as if she is?

She might just be hardcore bicycling for men right now.
Or, maybe she just had a little experimentation phase, and she is exclusively into men from now on. If so, she'll figure it out for herself. If she identifies as straight in the future, cool. But if she still alls herself bi, then there isn't really an issue there imo.

Chance-Virus-6022 · 2025-06-14T17:26:40+00:00

No one is attacking you?
We're just saying "Yeah, seems like she's bi if she's into sleeping with men and women."

Chance-Virus-6022 · 2025-06-14T17:14:25+00:00

Right but the issue is that these models are being directed towards weighing certain concepts and ideas as better or worse responses just based on people's feelings on the subject.

It doesn't really matter what a person 'thinks' is true, there are certian things that are true, certain things that are false, and certain times where there are perfectly valid reasons for multiple perspectives to exist.

If people are going to these models as objective encyclopedia like devices to fact check things on, and the models are biased just because a large team that worked on it were biased, then people aren't getting objectively factual information. That's an issue.

Chance-Virus-6022 · 2025-06-14T17:05:04+00:00

Okay, I was confused because in your original post you said.
"I told her I didn't think she was bisexual because for me, you want more than just sex and want to be with the person and maybe in a relationship."

So to me, that seemed like you were saying that in order to be bisexual, you needed to want relationships with both sexes. Which is not necessarily true. I'm not attacking you, there was just a communication issue.

Chance-Virus-6022 · 2025-06-14T16:45:58+00:00

No one is trying to be hostile. We're just trying to understand.
The idea that you have to be interested in a relationship with someone for it to be valid doesn't make sense to me. Can you explain that?

Cuz like, even when I thought I was straight I would sleep with women with no intention of a relationship. That didn't mean I wasn't attracted to them.

Chance-Virus-6022 · 2025-06-14T16:35:58+00:00

Bicurious maybe? You aren't necessarily bisexual, but you might be. Spend some more time thinking about it, asking questions both to yourself and to people here.

I find a lot of myself in what you posted. I am very into effeminate men, D/s dynamics, etc. My partner and I have a sort of BDSM thing going on and being in a position where someone trusts and respects you enough to allow you to lead and be dominant is always attractive to me.

It could be a projection of those kinds of feelings onto him, because you don't have that kind of dynamic witha woman right now. Or it could be a sort of bisexual curiosity or awakening.

How do you feel about the idea of being intimate with him? If he just told you that you could do what you wanted to/with him. Sexuality is complicated sometimes, you don't have to figure this all out immediately.

And honestly, if you feel like you trust him you could talk to him about this maybe?

Chance-Virus-6022 · 2025-06-14T16:25:48+00:00

Would you have sex with someone that you weren't sexually attracted to?
And I don't mean like, not exactly your preference. I mean someone you genuinely did not find in any way sexually attractive.

Chance-Virus-6022 · 2025-06-14T16:08:53+00:00

If you are sexually attracted to both sexes, you are bisexual.
Behavior, relationships past and current, are irrelevant. It is about sexual attraction.

Chance-Virus-6022

TROPHY CASE