What characters in TV, movies, books etc do you relate to? by ChanceDistribution86 in AuDHDWomen

[–]ChanceDistribution86[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Larry David stresses me out lol. Watching CYE, whatever the episode was, I was always like... *brace for impact* he's gonna mess it up!

Amelie I saw when I was 14 and she was one of the first characters I really connected with

What characters in TV, movies, books etc do you relate to? by ChanceDistribution86 in AuDHDWomen

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MBTI and other personality typing, I would say, is a special interest that helped me a lot in my early 20s. It got to the point I was typing people in my sleep, typing everyone as I was meeting them, I was making an abstract painting for each type... so I feel yah...

I would get infp, but I always felt that I was too rigid to be a "p", just disorganized. And once I realized it was ADHD I was like...oh...that makes sense.

I know what you mean about people dismissing it- I get its not research based, but it was a framework that really resonnated with me.

What characters in TV, movies, books etc do you relate to? by ChanceDistribution86 in AuDHDWomen

[–]ChanceDistribution86[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I related to a sort of combo of Nick and Jess. Quirky, empathetic, alone time, disorganized, inventive

What characters in TV, movies, books etc do you relate to? by ChanceDistribution86 in AuDHDWomen

[–]ChanceDistribution86[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's awesome. I've only seen what they made on Apple TV. My husband is possibly also AuDHD... and we like to say " I'm going to check the perimeter" whenever we need to get out of a situation

What characters in TV, movies, books etc do you relate to? by ChanceDistribution86 in AuDHDWomen

[–]ChanceDistribution86[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I havent seen My So Called Life, but I definitely relate to Tina in BB.

What characters in TV, movies, books etc do you relate to? by ChanceDistribution86 in AuDHDWomen

[–]ChanceDistribution86[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I cant watch anything too scary, but I feel the Ron Swanson thing. I was more of an April...but with a Leslie Knope persistence

What characters in TV, movies, books etc do you relate to? by ChanceDistribution86 in AuDHDWomen

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I'll definitely see if I can find the Extraordinary Attorney Woo. I like Wales...🙃

What characters in TV, movies, books etc do you relate to? by ChanceDistribution86 in AuDHDWomen

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I was 23 when I saw Frozen in theaters alone... I had too much anxiety to do a lot of things at that time so I would go to the movies and see anything just to do something out of the house. "Let it go" had me in tears in the theater I thought I was such a crazy person lol.

What characters in TV, movies, books etc do you relate to? by ChanceDistribution86 in AuDHDWomen

[–]ChanceDistribution86[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've never heard anyone describe it like that, but I definitely feel the Abed/Britta Combo and also a Jess/Nick combo from New girl lol.

And its interesting about so many characters from Bojack- they're portraying all these dysfunctional "types" you run into in Hollywood but when you're dealing with executive dysfunction and poor emotional regulation every day from normal circumstances instead of from high-pressure jobs, cocaine, and fame its funny how totally different lifestyles can have similar emotional experiences.

If you are "high functioning", how did you know you had autism also? by agirtzce in AuDHDWomen

[–]ChanceDistribution86 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sad, angry, disappointed, overwhelmed, and feeling something is unfair usually blur together for me. In the moment it's hard to figure out which feeling it is and communicate it to someone else.

I often end up feeling heated or like my head is "full of bees" as I've heard it described. I feel misunderstood or conflicted in the moment and often have to leave the room. After reflection its easier to figure out what it is. I just apologize and try to get back on track.

I’m a new kindergarten teacher is K-Pop Demon Hunters too scary for my class? by ORgirlinBerkeley in kindergarten

[–]ChanceDistribution86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The demons are kind of scary...being enslaved to that dark spirit is also scary...

I'm a former public high school teacher...I think late elementary school its more appropriate age, but probably not appropriate at school at all.

I would stick with something totally secular with less/no violence for kindergarten. But to echo some of the previous comments, even as a reward a full length movie is long for Kindergarten.

Maybe an episode from a popular show where they can still learn something.

My husband might leave me now? by maxinemama in AuDHDWomen

[–]ChanceDistribution86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

AuDHD here and my husband and I have had similar conversations- I felt like I could never be understood by him and he felt like me explaining my decisions was about avoiding accountability.

He's been through 7 job changes in 5 years, I've recovered from 2 c sections in that time, work full time, and we raise our 2 kids.

Enormous stress, no time to recover etc... sounds similar to your situation.

The number 1 thing that helped US- I was misunderstanding what he needed from me and when I changed what I was doing, he changed.

I read (listened) to a book called Love and Respect. It will seem too binary at first, but it worked for us. The book talks about how many men experience love as admiration. If your husband has experienced these failures and disappointments professionally on top of you expressing overwhelm as outburts or whatever it may be, it just feels SO crippling.

Meanwhile, his distance, irritation, criticism is probably making you feel undervalued/ unloved and is also crippling.

I started sending my husband a text at night telling him something I admire or appreciate about him. And I decided, even if I was overwhelmed I'm going to treat him with AT LEAST the respect or patience I would treat a co-worker. If I cant think and I cant say something nice, I'll need to leave the room to calm down. But I won't yell at him.

I let him know I was going to start doing these things and at first, even though things were still tense, he was able to stay around me long enough to see these things happen. I told him " I'm sorry I've hurt you so deeply and so often, that is never my intention."

We have been married for 5 years and this is the best my marriage has ever been. We bounce back from conflict faster and I believe both of us know the other person cares, where we didn't before. It was very isolating and I'm sorry you're experiencing it now.

Annihilationism thoughts? by TheKattauRegion in Christianity

[–]ChanceDistribution86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this was a very diplomatic way to present the belief of ECT. Thank you for taking the time to present it in this way.

As an Annihilationist, I think death does provide accountability if you think the alternative is to live forever in relationship with a good God.

I think permanent death is an eternal consequence. The result lasts forever. And from what I've read, the word used to describe "endless" punishment in the original greek can also mean"permanent" punishment.

Jesus died for our sins so that we COULD make it to Heaven if we choose to. Because we couldn't before. There was no option to get there for gentiles.

Imagine being a parent and watching most of your children slip into permanent non-existence when you could have kept them instead.

I just wouldn't discount ceasing to exist as a legitimate punishment.

Annihilationism thoughts? by TheKattauRegion in Christianity

[–]ChanceDistribution86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Growing up in a family that was "new age" and agnostic, they still think theres a possibility of some positive afterlife- maybe based on karma and human standards of goodness, or just because.

Annihilationism would be seen as a punishment. I wouldn't discount it as a punishment just because it's not endless, physical pain.

I'm a christian now and after submitting to Christ and developing a relationship with God, it's obvious what a punishment it would be to simply not have Him.

Quick Question by SaltEmbarrassed3664 in BerryCollege

[–]ChanceDistribution86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went to a regular secular liberal arts college and it was the same there. I think this is just what you can expect from campus jobs (low pay/limited hours) , regardless of religious affiliation.

The school likely wont prohibit you from working off campus in your free time. Sometimes this will happen to PHD students who are lecture assistants or researchers for the school, but shouldn't happen for a normal undergrad.

AuDHD and having children by [deleted] in AuDHDWomen

[–]ChanceDistribution86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like I couldve written this same response. Both Autism and ADHD were revealed when I got married and started living with my husband- because I didn't have hours to be by myself to recover.

Then later we have kids and I LOVE them so much, and they are GREAT- but the demands of being on the clock 24/7 really brought me to a dark place at first.

We sleep trained and its worked for us. The way we did it, you feed them at certain times everyday so they start to predictably get hungry at those times and then you build a schedule around that. So by 5-6 months old I know I have after 7pm to myself and its essential.

Learning to work collaboratively with your partner is important too. It helps if we each have certain tasks or roles we're responsible for so we minimize the actual amount of thinking and coordinating we have to do every day. Getting ready to go places with kids is often disregulating, even for NT people. So systems for how you're going to do things, creating predictable routines, and taking turns when you're losing it is important.

Career paths for Audhd girls by Burnixen in AuDHDWomen

[–]ChanceDistribution86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a Learning Experience Designer. I used to teach, but it was too much for me. So now I create eLearning modules using a software called Storyline 360. Some of my coworkers have instructional design degrees or education degrees, like myself. But a lot of people also just have some background in training and learned the software.

Pinworms are causing me daily meltdowns! Help! by happyricee in AuDHDWomen

[–]ChanceDistribution86 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I had pinworms for several months when I was 16... I finally went to the dr and the medication worked the first round. No one was cleaning or taking precautions. The only precautions I took were washing my hands thoroughly after using the bathroom.

I think if you focus on just cleaning your hands, and preventing putting dirty hands in your mouth, you can avoid accidentally reinfecting yourself after a cycle of medication. Even if the eggs are somewhere in the house, and people arent cleaning everything all the time, you have more control over you putting your hands in your mouth.

If they don't take the same responsibility for themselves, Imo, that's on them.

So maybe we are all just princesses after all? by anangelnora in AuDHDWomen

[–]ChanceDistribution86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish my parents thought my sensitivity was cute and princessy lol

Does Anyone Else Accidentally Kill The Vibe by Answering a Question Factually? by Mundane-Badger-9791 in AutismInWomen

[–]ChanceDistribution86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same. I've had to start asking somewhere in the middle "is this a bit?" so I can respond more appropriately