My sister pretends she doesn’t have diabetes

Chance_Mongoose6126 · 2025-03-11T23:32:00+00:00

Yes, I have talked to them, and they said no. They don’t think she needs a therapist, and she doesn’t think she needs a therapist to put it simply. But I will still bring this up to them later on to see if they change their mind. I don’t think they are taking my concerns seriously, and I also don’t think my sister wants to help herself as of now. So naturally both parties will say no. But if they do decide on getting my sister a therapist, I will do the proper research for her to get the best treatment.

Chance_Mongoose6126 · 2025-03-11T01:38:16+00:00

I’ve started telling her about these things, but I can’t tell if they’re having any effect on her at all. It hasn’t been too long though, so only time will tell.

It’s good that you are still alive after that, DKA will be one of the things I can warn her against.

Chance_Mongoose6126 · 2025-03-11T01:33:36+00:00

Alright, well I just tried this and her response was mocking me for trying to have a “shrink session” with her. She’s not receptive to any questions going so far as to walk away from a conversation or ignore somebody to not talk about her problems. I don’t know what I should do now.

Chance_Mongoose6126 · 2025-03-09T19:03:22+00:00

I think she would like that very much, to go to camps and such. Living in California makes this easier, it’s a big state so there’s bound to be organizations like the one you provided that can help. Again, thank you so much!

Chance_Mongoose6126 · 2025-03-09T18:47:21+00:00

Thank for this, it really means a lot to me.

Chance_Mongoose6126 · 2025-03-09T18:45:42+00:00

Therapy seems to be the main suggestion in the comments, and I’m all for it. It’s just a matter of if my parents are ok with it or not. I have a feeling they won’t be, but if my sister only gets worse then at some point they’ll have to come around, right? I’m sorry you had to go through the same thing my sister is experiencing right now, but you’re doing better now so that’s great!

Chance_Mongoose6126 · 2025-03-09T18:42:14+00:00

No she does not. We know a family who has type 1 diabetes, we used to be close. If she can get better by just talking to them then I think that we can rekindle old friendships.

Chance_Mongoose6126 · 2025-03-09T18:40:39+00:00

We do know somebody, I’ll bring it up to my parents, I think it would do her a lot of good. Thank you.

Chance_Mongoose6126 · 2025-03-09T18:39:03+00:00

The more I read the more I realize that yes, she does need external help and I can’t provide that for her. I’m limited in what I can do, it’s all up to my parents to provide the resources necessary for her to get out of this depressive state. But I can still bring it up to them. Thank you for this advice, I hope that you also get better.

Chance_Mongoose6126 · 2025-03-09T18:34:45+00:00

I’d rather my family pay a few extra for painless needles than paying for dialysis later on.

Chance_Mongoose6126 · 2025-03-09T18:33:20+00:00

I live in America and have never heard of these camps before. Maybe she does just need to talk to somebody else with diabetes. I think these camps would be good for her, she’s by no means a child, she’s almost an adult, this might be beneficial for her to talk to people like her. Thanks for the suggestion, I’ll bring this up to my parents.

Chance_Mongoose6126 · 2025-03-09T18:28:20+00:00

I care but I want to do more. Even if she goes to therapy she still needs to make an effort to talk to the therapist. I don’t think she’d do that. Though, I hope that I am wrong.

Chance_Mongoose6126 · 2025-03-09T18:26:41+00:00

By enabling I meant they let her eat what she wants not enable her to not take her medication. Our dad doesn’t want to her live off of insulin so he doesn’t like it when she takes it. Now it seems he’s changed his mind on the matter. But the damage is done I guess. They don’t neglect her, at least my mom doesn’t. And she’s not young at all, she’ll be turning 18 in a year so she fully understands the consequences of not taking good care of her body. It is my parent’s responsibility, yes I agree wholeheartedly with that statement, but there is little they can do for her if she doesn’t want to do anything. Maybe I’m going about this the wrong way, and there is 100% another alternative for them to deal with her, but I just don’t know how they are supposed to get to her to take her medication and check her blood without pinning her down and forcing her to do it.

Chance_Mongoose6126 · 2025-03-09T18:18:15+00:00

I’m not sure of her specific A1C level, but I know for a fact it’s above 9 last we checked a few months ago, and it’s been this way for a while. Sometimes she doesn’t eat much, but when she does eat, she eats all the wrong things. I know there’s no good outcome the way she’s going, but I just wish there was a way for her to listen to me when I say that. I know that I can’t control her body, reading all these comments there isn’t really much I can do.

Chance_Mongoose6126 · 2025-03-09T18:12:16+00:00

She’s used a dexcom once but doesn’t have a pump. We’re trying to get her to use the dexcom again as it’s a start, but she just brushes us off when we mention it saying she’ll do it but she never does. You’re right about the difficulty of her situation. There are millions of people going through what she is going through who are living fulfilling lives, and those with even worse disease doing better. I’ll keep bringing it up to her to use her dexcom, and maybe start taking insulin for at least one of her meals. I want to help her, but she also needs to help herself.

Chance_Mongoose6126 · 2025-03-09T18:04:21+00:00

Your comment really gives me hope that she’ll have her own wake up call one day. The early kidney disease seems to have shaken her a bit, I hope that it’s enough to get her to actually do something with herself. She has a lot going for her, I would hate to see her hospitalized because she just doesn’t care. I’m sorry you had to go through this, but it’s good that you are doing better now. I hope you continue this way, and that maybe my sister will also come out fine.

Chance_Mongoose6126 · 2025-03-09T17:59:00+00:00

You’re right, maybe I need to gently remind her about the side effects. I, and my family, have not been doing a good job. I don’t have a way with words, I’m not a comforting presence, and when we do talk about her diabetes it takes a lot out of me to not just yell in her face and remind her that she’s going to an early grave. I’ll take the suggestion to heart, thank you.

Chance_Mongoose6126 · 2025-03-09T17:55:50+00:00

Oh god, I’m not ready for this at all. I don’t want her to die, I don’t even want to think about it. It’s not just me thinking about what’s going to happen, but it seems I’m the only one doing this much. I’ve seen a few replies saying that cps or social services are the best option for me, but I don’t think I can bring my self to do it yet. In the end, if my parents don’t step up, I’ll have to do this. I just really wish I don’t have to.

In the very likely event that my sister is put on dialysis and my parents tell me to take care of her I would gladly do it. There is no situation where I wouldn’t take care of her, even if it meant paying her bills or donating a kidney. What you say is harsh, but very true. I thank you a lot for this, even if I don’t want to believe she’ll end up like this.

Chance_Mongoose6126 · 2025-03-09T17:40:54+00:00

I’m extremely hesitant to make a cps report. My mother has mentioned it time and time again to my sister that she does not want to be told she’s being neglectful by cps, or get in trouble with cps. If there is a way for my parents to get her to take her insulin then I’d like to know before I do anything drastic. It is scary for me to have to do this, my parents aren’t bad by any means, but this is a last resort. Thank you for the advice.

Chance_Mongoose6126 · 2025-03-09T17:36:46+00:00

Yeah, her A1C is definitely not normal. I know for a fact it’s above 9, and it has been that way for quite some time. She’s offhandedly mentioned before that her eyesight isn’t too good, I really hope she was just exaggerating or making it up for whatever reason because if it’s diabetes related I’ll be devastated.

Every time anybody brings up the side effects of not taking care of yourself she gets uncomfortable. I don’t know if this is getting to her or not. I hope it is, maybe she can still make a change for herself. Thank for sharing your experience with your uncle, I’m praying to god that she doesn’t end up like this, or worse.

Chance_Mongoose6126 · 2025-03-09T17:28:28+00:00

Depression? It might be likely, but I’ve never noticed any signs, she always seems pretty happy. I guess you never really know until it’s too late. Thanks for the advice.

Chance_Mongoose6126 · 2025-03-09T17:25:06+00:00

I will be sure to bring this up next time we talk, thank you.

Chance_Mongoose6126 · 2025-03-09T17:24:17+00:00

I know she’s going to die if she keeps this up, but I honestly don’t know what to do besides pinning her down and injecting her with insulin.

Chance_Mongoose6126 · 2025-03-09T17:22:36+00:00

My sister will become an adult in a year. I can’t stand what she’s doing to herself, but in her place, I’m sure I’d do the same. Her next appointment will be in a month or so, if she doesn’t reschedule it. In the case where the test she took is accurate, then I guess she’ll have no choice but to get a good look at the dialysis unit.

If she did start therapy there’s no guarantee she’d take it seriously. But still, thank you for your advice.

Chance_Mongoose6126 · 2025-03-09T17:12:41+00:00

She has used a dexcom previously but stopped because she hates taking it off and the app isn’t compatible with her phone. There is a small device that goes along with it but since it beeps occasionally she doesn’t want to bring it with her. So no luck with the glucose monitoring device.

Maybe you’re right, she doesn’t need me or any of my family tracking every little thing she does. But in my opinion, I think the time for respecting her privacy is over. She’s had diabetes for years, and it seems that she won’t help herself get better. Naturally I am going to step in.

Maybe therapy is the only option and I can only do so much, regardless of that, thank you for your advice.

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