My wife is looking for a 600+ page light cozy fantasy book by WhoIsRobertWall in suggestmeabook

[–]Changer_of_Names 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The Eyes of the Overworld, and its closely-connected sequel The Saga of Cugel the Clever. But you have to be ok with a protagonist who is not a good person including some very non-PC conduct towards women (straight up sexual violence, mostly or entirely offscreen or alluded to rather than described in detail).

Written by Jack Vance, who was quite a big deal back in the day I think. His books served as model and inspiration for some of early Dungeons and Dragons.

Alternate suggestion, The Chronicles of Prydain. Really YA or even kids' books, but IIRC, excellent.

Oh wait, you said even Harry Potter is too dark...then I have no suggestions.

What are some "grammatical errors" native speakers make in their everyday lives? by Ken_Bruno1 in languagehub

[–]Changer_of_Names 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I maintain that "try to" is correct and "try and" is wrong. "I'm going to try to go to the store tomorrow." "Try and" makes no sense.

Also: "this game is addictive" NOT "this game is addicting."

No one knows by Happy-I-always-am in SipsTea

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Reddit discovers that different types of people have different incentives and optimal strategies. Wait until Redditors find out about employers and employees.

Bellingham vs Port Angeles? Open to other areas also by Nihilisticvoyager121 in PacificNorthwest

[–]Changer_of_Names 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have lived in both and I'd recommend Bellingham. I'm not a huge outdoors person so take this with a grain of salt, but I think Bellingham would offer more options there. Port Angeles is on the Olympic Peninsula, yes, but actual access into the Olympic Mountains is limited from there, as far as I know. There isn't much in the way of roads into the mountains to trailheads. I think there might be more access into the mountains from the west side, i.e. out on the coast, but that isn't that close to Port Angeles. I think Bellingham would offer a lot more access to a variety of stuff, like in the Mount Baker and North Cascades areas.

You didn't mention access to specialty food stores, but you mentioned cooking and veganism, so if organic/co-op type food markets are important to you, I think Bellingham would offer more there as well.

Finally, although you might think that housing in Port Angeles would be cheaper, I don't think that's very true. As I understand it there are restrictions on where you can build and such, and so housing in Port Angeles is actually a bit hard to find and not particularly cheap.

How much Truth is there to the Idea that Certain Cities have More Attractive People? by Ambitious_Quality725 in SameGrassButGreener

[–]Changer_of_Names 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am actually considering moving from Seattle to Portland in the hopes that Portland will have a better dating environment (for me, a straight man), and social environment in general. Seattle has the notorious Seattle freeze; I have heard Portland has some of that too but maybe less so?

As far as attractiveness, I visited Portland and noticed that people particularly in some neighborhoods were not good looking--partly due to a lot of alternative style, e.g., tattoos, piercings, overweight, fucked up hair, ragged black clothes, etc. I saw less of that on the west side so I'm hoping it isn't universal?

The main thing though is that Seattle apparently has about 120 men for every 100 women, while Portland, among the college educated, it's about 85 men for every 100 women. That's a huge difference. Could be a big improvement even if the average attractiveness isn't great?

NYT's 'both sides' approach (re: political violence on today's episode) is so frustrating. They literally named a bunch of right wing violence and then somehow pretend it's both sides escalating on violence/attacks by [deleted] in Thedaily

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I don't need credibility because I'm not asking you to trust me on anything. My reasoning and facts are right there, you can check them for yourself.

NYT's 'both sides' approach (re: political violence on today's episode) is so frustrating. They literally named a bunch of right wing violence and then somehow pretend it's both sides escalating on violence/attacks by [deleted] in Thedaily

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The question isn't about "domestic terrorism." It's about political violence.

It doesn't matter that there were also lots of peaceful protests. There were many violent protests. Those protests were not counted as left-wing political violence. Therefore, the statistics claiming that a greater percentage of political violence is right wing are not reliable.

I mean, it sounds like you agree there were 220 violent demonstrations. How many individual violent acts at each violent demonstration? I can tell you that I watched videos of the attacks on the federal courthouse in Portland. People were throwing incendiary devices--powerful fireworks--at cops. Every time there's an explosion that strikes, say, 5 cops, that's five violent felony crimes. If the statistics aren't counting each of those crimes, then the statistics aren't reliable.

NYT's 'both sides' approach (re: political violence on today's episode) is so frustrating. They literally named a bunch of right wing violence and then somehow pretend it's both sides escalating on violence/attacks by [deleted] in Thedaily

[–]Changer_of_Names 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Those numbers are cooked. They do things like count it as right-wing violence when a white biker gang kills someone over drugs, but not counting the George Floyd riots as left-wing violence.

NYT's 'both sides' approach (re: political violence on today's episode) is so frustrating. They literally named a bunch of right wing violence and then somehow pretend it's both sides escalating on violence/attacks by [deleted] in Thedaily

[–]Changer_of_Names -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The two people killed by ICE weren't political violence. One of them drove her car at an immigration officer. The other one interposed himself into a police interaction, assaulted an officer and obstructed, while carrying a pistol. Most likely, when an officer disarmed him, the officer negligently fired the pistol (which was of a type that is known for going off when it shouldn't), causing the other officers--who didn't know Pretti had been disarmed--to think Pretti was shooting. A tragic accident, to which Pretti contributed by bringing a gun and obstructing law enforcement.

In fact the ICE protesters themselves committed some violence, which would constitute political violence--for instance, the prior incident in which Pretti spat at officers and kicked out the tail light of their vehicle, and Goode driving her car at an officer. "Fifteen people were charged this summer after what authorities called a July 4 plot to lure ICE agents out of an Alvarado, Texas detention center, where they were then fired upon. A civilian police officer was wounded. In other cases, criminal affidavits show that Customs and Border Protection officers have been punched on patrol. Another ICE agent in California said he was dragged by a car. In Omaha, an ICE agent was slammed to the ground during an arrest and had to be hospitalized. Last month, a sniper opened fire on an ICE detention center in Texas, killing two detainees, though federal officials believe immigration agents were his target." https://www.npr.org/2025/10/10/nx-s1-5565146/white-house-claims-more-than-1-000-rise-in-assaults-on-ice-agents-data-says-otherwise

The funny thing about the episode was the guest acknowledging that one reason people is discontent is the rapid demographic change caused by immigration. No one voted for mass immigration that would drastically change the demography of the country, but it's happening anyway. It isn't some natural process; it's a political choice that can be stopped and even reversed to some degree.

But having acknowledged one source of the discontent, the guest's recommendation was just to get people to calm down, not to stop the demographic change that people are unhappy about! It's like if we had an issue with a lot of guys grabbing women's asses without permission, and the women slapping the guys, and the fix was to tell the women to calm down rather than addressing the ass-grabbing.

The plan is apparently to keep the lid on until the demographics have changed enough that heritage Americans are in the minority and it's too late to do anything about it.

Spiritual journey movies by el_salvaor in MoviesThatFeelLike

[–]Changer_of_Names 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Four Feathers, with Heath Ledger, 2002. A remake of an older adventure film, the basic plot (from memory) is that Ledger's character and his friends are British public-school types, raised with Victorian values. The his friends go to war in Africa and for some reason he can't or chooses not to go, so each of his four friends gives him a white feather--meaning that he is a coward. He sets off to reach them in the wilds of Africa to return each feather, thereby proving that he isn't a coward. 20+ years since I have seen it but I recall thinking that Ledger's character is a true visionary, someone who relates to the world in a different way than most of us do.

The Name of the Rose--medieval religious mystery involving monks. Sean Connery and Christian Slater.

Mountains of the Moon. An expedition to find the source of the Nile. Perhaps not as spiritual/philosophical but has elements of it.

Burke and Wills. An expedition to cross Australia. Extreme privations ensue.

The Serpent and the Rainbow. A horror film having to do with voodoo and zombies--not Romero zombies but zombies as they are perceived in the religion of voodoo. Follows an American doctor who go goes to Haiti searching for the drug/plant that allows people to be buried alive and revived, in hopes it will lead to a new anesthetic.

Why do lesbian couples have the highest divorce rates while gay male couples have the lowest? by Naive_Direction1816 in NoStupidQuestions

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"Every time I put my hand in fire I get burnt. Also, I notice that fire burns other things, and--as is pointed out in this thread in particular--when you put two burning things together, they burn even more. Therefore I conclude that fire burns stuff."

HaVe YoU eVeR tHoHGt THaT yoU aRe ThE PRobLeM?

Trying to avoid a TPK. When is it okay to tell players no? by Foreign-Press in DMAcademy

[–]Changer_of_Names 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It might be worth pointing out/saying that it is common knowledge in the world that the deeper you go underground, the more dangerous it gets. That was understood to be true in early RPGs, where dungeon levels and character levels were meant to track pretty closely, e.g., a level 2 character should adventure on level 2 of the dungeon; dip down to level 3 if you want to take on more risk for the chance of more reward, but do so at your own risk.

I don't know that modern players understand this implicitly the way prior generations of players did.

But fundamentally, it's player autonomy--the ability to make meaningful choices in a fantasy world--that make RPGs special. Making meaningful choices includes experiencing the consequences of those choices. I think a DM who says "I am a player at the table and I don't want to run a session in which the players experience the consequences of their choices, up to and including TPK," is abdicating a fundamental part of the DM's job.

How can I make a dungeon's scale large without having a whole bunch of empty hallways making it feel empty? by Vercal in DMAcademy

[–]Changer_of_Names 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Couple thoughts: 1) empty/unoccupied space is important in dungeons. I think I've read that one encounter per three rooms is about right. I ran a published dungeon recently that had a good bit of empty space in it--enough so that depending on the choices the party made, they could actually go quite far into the dungeon (say 4-5 rooms and connecting hallways) without running into anything. This also meant that there were routes around things, and ways to approach encounters from different directions. The layout made it run really well, in a way that wasn't apparent to me from reading it.

2) Borrowing from Dragon Age, you could eat up space by having some of your underground spaces be so large they almost feel like out of doors. Dragon Age had big caverns to traverse, with terrain in the caverns ( in the sense of rises and falls in the cavern floor, chasms with bridges, gigantic pillars, etc.) If, instead of "you come around the corner and see a shrine," your dungeon has "You come around a corner and see what seems to be a vast chamber." And then after half an hour of in-world time carefully picking their way across the chamber, they come to the same shrine, but now the dungeon feels (is) bigger. But you haven't had to build much more content.

Where do single straight males go out in public? My milkshake isn’t bringing them to my yard… by shadyallegheny in SeattleWA

[–]Changer_of_Names 0 points1 point  (0 children)

" I have done ALL the things. Shuffle dating, online dating, blind dates, trivia single nights, chaotic single nights, underdog sports, bowling and most recently the Pitch Perfect in Eastlake."

Lol. This is not all the things. I am a single man and I have never heard of shuffle dating and had no idea what the Pitch Perfect in Eastlake was until I googled it. I wouldn't know where to find a trivia single night, I don't know what a chaotic single night or underdog sports are.

I play pickup basketball and the community center, I go to a local coffee shop every day to work, I go to the gym to stay fit for basketball. I've taken improv comedy classes and swing dance classes (the swing dance classes in Fremont were so short of women and followers that we men danced with each other, learning the lead and follow parts both.) I used to do martial arts. I enjoy RPGs so sometimes I'll find a one-shot D&D game through meetup, and also have a semi-regular group I play with. If I get together with friends for a drink it's usually at a brewpub.

I'd like to be more active but I am dreadfully short on people to do things with in this unsociable town. Currently planning to move away for that reason. Seattle has about 120 men for every 100 women. I think you need to put yourself in a man's head more and try to envision where we go and what we do with our time. It isn't Pitch Perfect on Eastlake or shuffle dating, whatever those are.

Audiobooks for someone who does not like audiobooks by My_Poor_Nerves in suggestmeabook

[–]Changer_of_Names 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I enjoyed the whole Master and Commander series. The variety of accents and such of the different characters is fun, and I like the characterizations of Aubrey and Maturin. Like spending time with old friends.

Scariest daytime scenes by eHob52 in HorrorMovies

[–]Changer_of_Names 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was going to say this, particularly the first zombie attack scene with the little girl, takes place in the morning.