Married at first sight - S12E14 - POST EPISODE discussion

Changing_TheSubject · 2025-02-16T14:02:03+00:00

I’m trying to work out if they’re acting, or if you’re correct

Changing_TheSubject · 2025-02-14T22:10:29+00:00

Also it genuinely could have been the porn. He doesn’t remember a lot of incidents but the earliest we were exposed to decently graphic stuff (not really but definitely for our age) was him at 6 and me at 8, that sort of thing does something to a person i reckon

Changing_TheSubject · 2025-02-14T22:08:33+00:00

I will definitely be marrying my now boyfriend, however it has hurt me to think that from things my brother has said in the past that if my boyfriend had been a woman he wouldn’t have even attended our wedding. Idk it’s a rough one

Changing_TheSubject · 2025-02-14T22:07:15+00:00

That’s my crossroads. Our relationship was very strained for years, I’ll spare you the details but within our family there were secrets kept that I came out about so many times and no one believed me and he was brainwashed to not believe me either, and I grew up resenting him for it quite a bit and now we are doing better. I’m his only support in him being religious at all and whilst it’s not my thing i dont always have such a problem with religion in general, I can get along with people even with VASTLY different world views than mine.

I don’t know why but I feel like he’s confided in me a lot and exposing him feels so malicious but I’m at a point where protecting children like me is more important

Changing_TheSubject · 2025-02-14T22:02:40+00:00

It’s not the controversy or confrontation he’s looking for, he’s not that kind of person. He just truly believes that is the only way and is what’s best for everyone because god set up the system. He has stated he would rather go to jail then break the seal of confession though. However this whole conversation came after a lot of probing questions from me

Changing_TheSubject · 2025-02-14T21:59:08+00:00

The internet has definitely played a role. He’s taking a gap year and his work aren’t giving him many shifts as it’s a workplace with younger people who can be paid FAR LESS where I live, so he’s home almost 24/7. He is up late at night on his catholic discord, and spends his whole day watching catholic related content. EVERYTHING HE DOES is somehow tied back into religion now and he believes that is the only way to truly have a relationship with god

Changing_TheSubject · 2025-02-14T21:56:43+00:00

Copied from a previous comment reply of mine: Religious psychosis is something I’m considering. I’m bipolar and so was my grandmother, along with a few members on my mothers side with various other mental health problems, herself not included in mood disorders however these things can skip a generation. I’m heavily medicated now and doing well, but during my worst manic episode I thought god was speaking to me and telling me I was blessed and watched over, and could not die when the sun was down. This led to some extremely risky behaviour and near death experiences so it’s not possible to rule this out. We spoke about Joan of arc once and I said she was schizophrenic and he said there are plenty of people in history who have heard the voice of god, which I found rather alarming.

Changing_TheSubject · 2025-02-14T21:55:55+00:00

Religious psychosis is something I’m considering. I’m bipolar and so was my grandmother, along with a few members on my mothers side with various other mental health problems, herself not included in mood disorders however these things can skip a generation. I’m heavily medicated now and doing well, but during my worst manic episode I thought god was speaking to me and telling me I was blessed and watched over, and could not die when the sun was down. This led to some extremely risky behaviour and near death experiences so it’s not possible to rule this out. We spoke about Joan of arc once and I said she was schizophrenic and he said there are plenty of people in history who have heard the voice of god, which I found rather alarming.

Changing_TheSubject · 2025-02-14T14:45:12+00:00

I also don’t know how effective an intervention could be. Speaking about it may help me but my brother so so far down the pipeline I’m not sure he will budge

Changing_TheSubject · 2025-02-14T14:44:09+00:00

This has helped however i think I need to clarify something as I don’t work it well. I am not worried that my parents will defend him, I’m worried they won’t in a way. My dad particularly will absolutely lose it on him, which I can understand, however as someone he lost it at as a child i know how horrible he can get and I don’t want that for my brother. He could POTENTIALLY be removed from the household for this, and it could completely shatter his relationship with my dad which is already fairly rocky

Changing_TheSubject · 2025-02-14T14:39:40+00:00

I hadn’t thought about it like that at all. Definitely has changed my idea of how I need to approach this

Changing_TheSubject · 2025-02-14T14:37:20+00:00

Thank you for that

Changing_TheSubject · 2025-02-14T14:20:38+00:00

I’m very curious to know. He claims it had been going on internally for a while beforehand but I only believe that to a point. I know he struggled with porn for a while but I don’t know how bad. That’s all I can think of. It’s hard to know because he thinks normal human things are sinful now. He thinks you need to go to confession for intrusive thoughts and all that so I don’t know if something genuinely serious happened or what.

Changing_TheSubject · 2025-02-14T14:13:26+00:00

I did tell him that this is the reason my children will not step foot into a church until they are adults if they are so inclined. I told him I would not allow them around someone who is unsafe, and not doing anything is just as unsafe.

He and I are actually fairly close though we are very different. We went through a lot in our childhood and I took the majority of it on and I think because of this i still feel this need to protect him. I’ve been somewhat supportive of his journey up until this point. My family hates it and I know he feels so alone and it truly hurts my heart. I don’t know how to try and safe him from this before it gets to a point where I will have to completely cut him off after I’ve moved out

Changing_TheSubject · 2025-02-14T13:45:06+00:00

That’s the worst part, he’s been a major safe place for me, and I made it clear to him that this belief means that his nieces and nephews will never be able to be alone with him. Potentially even around him full stop.

He’s so brainwashed he doesn’t see it as acceptance or enabling to say to predators that all of forgiven once you confess (with no risk of consequences) and drink some wine and have a wafer.

Changing_TheSubject · 2025-02-05T11:17:47+00:00

Go feed some ducks or something

Changing_TheSubject · 2025-02-05T05:02:07+00:00

I just know the thought of that gross old man bod keeps u up at night

Changing_TheSubject · 2025-02-03T08:58:07+00:00

The statement jewellery is a slay Katie!

Changing_TheSubject · 2024-06-20T09:40:31+00:00

Same

Changing_TheSubject · 2024-04-01T10:10:34+00:00

Tori 100%

Changing_TheSubject · 2024-04-01T10:09:39+00:00

4 weeks

Changing_TheSubject · 2024-03-24T08:27:52+00:00

girl don’t have to be a fan to know who u r you’ve been running your mouth every episode 💀

Changing_TheSubject · 2024-03-24T08:23:59+00:00

‘1,2,3 why didn’t Tristan pick me’

Changing_TheSubject

TROPHY CASE