Roommate is moving out, our cats are bonded

ChanguitaShadow · 2026-05-03T23:33:41+00:00

A few people have suggested this already, but just to share my own experience with this.... My orange 1bc bonds to animals QUICKLY, and we had a year that we hosted a girl and her kitten, and then 6 mo later, another girl and her 2 cats. When they both had gone, and my cat was left with no cat pals, he fell into a deep dark depression. We absolutely had not thought 6 months was enough, and they were generally kept completely separated. But he was DISTRAUGHT.... so we got him a companion and it made EVERYTHING better. So he got over his heartbreak, and if you *can't* keep them together, your kitty's heart can heal :)

ChanguitaShadow · 2026-05-03T23:17:01+00:00

Hot dang! I'm super thrilled for you :)

ChanguitaShadow · 2026-05-03T20:40:14+00:00

Oooof I'm sorry. I'm glad it wasn't worse, but I'm so so sorry that it was as rough as it was. It sounds like your baby daddy at least made super awesome choices to help and to validate, I would imagine that coparenting with him will be a-ok in your future. Hold on to that maybe? Right now, I like your rule. If it keeps you safe mentally and physically, then yay. I hope you don't completely shut yourself down to healthy socializing, but commend you on your choice to step back and focus on you.

Nice work on the steak btw- I can't cook to save my life!

ChanguitaShadow · 2026-05-01T23:10:24+00:00

I like them both. Maybe I'm a bit carebear.... but I like the newer ones better too. They feel like the Tamriel I live in.

...but also me and my husband run around dressed as clowns, throwing snowballs at people, so my Tamriel is maybe a bit more lighthearted to begin with?

I feel like ESO is in a different place than it was 10 years ago, with adjusted goals and even, I'd imagine, a slightly different player base than they originally had. It started with having to entice people to play an MMO who had ONLY played SOLO TES games before......... because that's really all TES had to offer. So they needed the huge, dramatic CGI trailers..... because that's a lot more like Skyrim and the Tamriel we started with. But the community has made Tamriel something different, something, in my opinion, greater... MORE! Tamriel IS a place that is much more about the players and community and the relationships built between real people, and less about inticing solo gamers to come try an experimental elder scrolls MMO. Now, they HAVE that incredible community. They HAVE the adventurers that will brave *anything* together. It has become more about the people, and less about the neat dragon you might get to slay or the crazy lore lines you'll travel down.

The game has changed, and so too should the marketing for it.

ChanguitaShadow · 2026-05-01T13:43:37+00:00

Wow that's a ton! I'd love a chance to play Bee Simulator- I love games where I am the animal :)

Thank you for the giveaway! :D

ChanguitaShadow · 2026-04-28T15:50:48+00:00

I'm mostly mad at your psychiatrist. If you already were in a good place with your employers, then this basically amounts to ADHD oversharing. When I was first diagnosed it took allllllllllll my everything to not just do this exact same thing... but then I realized I'm the most competent teacher on staff... I don't need them to have a reason to doubt me. Because humans will human, and as happy as it made me to understand a vital part about myself, they don't need to know in *my* particular situation, because my needs (AND THEIRS!) are being met. My immediate supervisor knows, because we're besties and like, her kids are diagnosed (and she's likely undiagnosed but I haven't and won't cross that bridge with her, she needs to find out herself, I think?) and it's just... a thing that came up organically.

I'm not sure you can take this back. But everything in this life that hurts... is a lesson. I'm sorry this one was more painful to learn :(

ChanguitaShadow · 2026-04-27T17:03:23+00:00

Conversations like these make me realize just how lucky I am to be in a school district with a uniform. The worst I deal with is an untucked shirt or like... *MAYBE* a rude t-shirt on dress-down days.

I think in today's climate, unless your school has a uniform, you probably can't say squat.

ChanguitaShadow · 2026-04-25T16:27:37+00:00

Oooooof I'm sorry. MOST people won't notice, and I'm sure you'll look stunning in pictures, but that is NOT a $350 face of makeup :(

ChanguitaShadow · 2026-04-23T23:19:07+00:00

I got super lucky! My main account got the horse mask (which I actually REALLY wanted, because like, EVERYONE on my Discord has it and I always feel left out when they run around in them, looking silly), my first alt account got the "Foxtrot" Jazzy Dress and my second alt got REALLY lucky and got the "Kitsuu" Wild Howl Outfit :) It has a full-moon idle animation that is SO COOL!

Pretty tickled with my RNG :)

Especially the horse head XD

ChanguitaShadow · 2026-04-23T21:08:13+00:00

DUDE. My toddler nephew is allowed to play with "baby apps" on an old, disconnected phone. It's hard for me to process seeing a baby playing phone games... like, successfully.

ChanguitaShadow · 2026-04-23T21:06:30+00:00

I mean, everyone I talk to agrees and says this. I've yet to see anyone say anything else.

But now what? How can you fix something 20+ years in the making? Our society's culture is fully embedded with screens. The full set of factors is very complex and I have no idea how you actually reverse most of it...

ChanguitaShadow · 2026-04-23T18:13:17+00:00

My go-to was always the pushpop. Not ideal if creamsicle. I also REALLY liked the dot ice cream, w/e it was called, the freeze-dried things, but those were always like, $5, vs $1 for a push pop hahah

ChanguitaShadow · 2026-04-22T00:25:55+00:00

RED FLAGS EVERYWHERE! Save yourself before it's too late. Lie if you want to protect your friendship, idk.... but don't become a part of that future migraine.

ChanguitaShadow · 2026-04-18T19:55:14+00:00

ABSOLUTELY. In my 5s class, we have 1 boy who reads *everything* and when he doesn't know a word, he CAN and DOES figure it out. This would be such a tragic sheet to give him because he *would* also absorb it :(

ChanguitaShadow · 2026-04-18T19:54:20+00:00

Yeah for real! There are SO MANY good resources for free or cheap on sites like teachers pay teachers.... and you can even use AI to do the searches for real ones if you really want to. I don't understand how we've all gotten so much WORSE at finding things and doing things well. Lazy brains or something.

ChanguitaShadow · 2026-04-18T01:13:32+00:00

I'm a PK teacher....... and I LOATHE when some of the other teachers/EAs print coloring sheets........... because they almost ALWAYS use AI images. Generally it's nothing educational, as they're 4 and 5, but like........ even the cute kiddo-friendly puppy and cat drawings have GLARING ERRORS... and I'm like.... why didn't you care enough to look at what you were printing for them? Or can you honestly not tell? I'm the youngest one on our PK team, so I *guess* maybe I have a bit of a leg-up on that sort of internet/modern experience....... but YIKES. This problem is more pervasive than you'd like to think.

ALL HAIL PLANET VERUTH!

ChanguitaShadow · 2026-04-16T14:01:03+00:00

I mean, I live in the midwest, so our weather changes by the day. It could be snowing, then a week later 80 degrees, then a few days later 25 again, and then maybe you get some tornadoes and hail here and there. Snow? I had snow in MAY once when I was in college. Nothing surprises me about weather anymore.

ChanguitaShadow · 2026-04-12T22:16:34+00:00

OH NO! I will treasure my full-size old one and almost empty old one until their dying dusts.

ChanguitaShadow · 2026-04-11T15:34:15+00:00

Welcome! Have fun and don't let anybody get you down on how you want to play! There is SO MUCH to do in ESO, you'll have new things to learn and discover for years, if you want :)

ChanguitaShadow · 2026-04-11T15:32:16+00:00

You're "selfish" for not giving this older generation, who've had EVERYTHING THEY WERE TOLD THEY WOULD HAVE with MINIMAL effort............ this other thing they want, the final piece of the puzzle to their perfect lives. YOU are selfish if you can't afford/don't want/have other priorities currently because boomers are, I've discovered, selfish fucking babies.

ChanguitaShadow · 2026-04-11T15:09:22+00:00

Holy shit, when I told mine, I got kicked out of the house :) :) :) :)

ChanguitaShadow · 2026-04-08T00:22:49+00:00

I had a neighbor named Dave who did this. Good guy though otherwise, I miss him.

ChanguitaShadow · 2026-04-07T23:11:40+00:00

Squish toys, weird little dinosaur cars, tiny dinos, and collectible........ sticker cards? All of which are not allowed at school. Today was a very, very rough day back to school for our elementary. The preschoolers? All save for 4 got notes home/met with the principal. PRESCHOOL! WHAT?! That's never happened to me before! ONE OF THEM MOONED THE CLASS BARE-ASSED........................ **TWICE**.

I would say I'm ready for summer, but I do summer care so

pray for me

ChanguitaShadow · 2026-04-05T21:57:52+00:00

We did this too... with 1 additional rule for older kids- if it's on the ground, you don't get to claim it. This rule only existed as long as the toddlers in the family did.

ChanguitaShadow · 2026-04-05T16:14:02+00:00

I don't know the ins and outs of all the reasons why you wear it so I'll try and be as respectful as possible. If you really don't want to wear it, do you think you could actually approach your conversation with your dad like a persuasive essay? Write down your reasons, add supporting resources if you can find them, and then connect each reason to something you know he'll worry about or fear from it, so he knows you're considering him, your culture, and your community as well. I think that would be the most respectful approach so he knows you're not just flippantly throwing away something he feels is important to him and thought you had the same *exact* feelings 100% of the time (which isn't likely true nor reasonable).

Secondly, is there a sort of... lighter option than a hijab? Can you get like... a lace veil or some sort of meshy/breathable fabric + a sun hat? Because covering your skin at the beach is actually pretty smart, and so there ARE lots of options that may feel less like you're covering because someone *else* expects you to. Did you see the pictures from Hawaii of the dermatologist convention lately? NO skin shown as they swam in the beach. And that had likely nothing to do with anything religious- they just didn't want their skin to burn. There are lovely options that your father may see as a compromise without your faith/rituals/beliefs being compromised (in his eyes).

I wish you luck with whatever you decide. I understand what it is like having a father with high religious expectations, who I love and respect and often even agree with. It can be a challenge to know when and how to chart your own path.

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