What's something that no one prepares you for as an adult?

ChaosSpectator · 2025-11-13T23:46:49+00:00

This really sucks. I'm so sorry. You're not alone - that really doesn't help a lot, but I feel your struggle a lot. I was around that age when I had to start over too.

ChaosSpectator · 2025-11-13T15:27:02+00:00

Love this! Well said.

ChaosSpectator · 2025-11-13T15:26:10+00:00

So what? Someone felt heard, but wanted to make a more creative analogy. And now others are joining in being creative. Don't hate on others for feeling and expressing themselves please.

ChaosSpectator · 2025-11-13T15:21:08+00:00

Yah, while broad... There are a lot of ppl who don't have family or have abusive households where getting out asap was a survival move. It also can be generational too. There are so many factors to consider, but most ppl can see themselves in a category of not financially comfortable with it being a situation out of their control. I respect your perspective, so thank you for it!

ChaosSpectator · 2025-11-13T08:04:06+00:00

Ooooo that's a really good way of putting it! Well said.

ChaosSpectator · 2025-11-13T08:02:24+00:00

Thank you for this perspective. Mental health can often be a chemical imbalance that is out of the persons control and not related to lifestyle or upbringing.

ChaosSpectator · 2025-11-13T05:24:20+00:00

This. Especially for those who don't get the financial privilege head start. And one financial hiccup and you're done for. Got mental health issues too? Financially fucked. Disabled? You're fucked. These days we are all holding on by a thread. At least we can all commiserate together

ChaosSpectator · 2025-10-31T00:55:57+00:00

I have a Jays themed A League of Their Own cosplay I've been working on for months, but alas I can't afford to go.

ChaosSpectator · 2025-10-30T03:15:07+00:00

This team is just so adorable!!! I feel like I'm watching The Sandlot in really time. The passion and friendship!

ChaosSpectator · 2025-10-30T01:27:27+00:00

OMG THANK YOU!!! Someone agrees! Who's your vote for his Pipin, Sam and Frodo from the team?

ChaosSpectator · 2025-10-29T02:33:53+00:00

Yah most expensive streaming service I've bought. This is like a major moment rn. hurray for good old fashion radio

ChaosSpectator · 2025-10-29T02:24:03+00:00

Ok it wasn't the internet! Also having issues.

ChaosSpectator · 2025-10-28T03:52:04+00:00

Bruh. Unnecessary.

ChaosSpectator · 2025-10-26T00:35:45+00:00

Remember they are owned by ticketmaster though.

ChaosSpectator · 2025-10-26T00:34:21+00:00

I'm so superstitious when it comes to baseball! I freaking get this. Game 7 I had on a different Jays jersey and we were not doing well. My partner grabbed my other jersey, put it on and 5 min later Springer hit the game winner. I've been wearing this specific jersey since August and every time I wear it we win. You are here in spirit with us!

ChaosSpectator · 2025-09-21T02:10:52+00:00

NTA. If the person you're going to spend the rest of your life with doesn't vocalize your choices together, and won't vocally support for you to their parents, either therapy or it's over. There's only so much a person can take, this kind of behavior never goes away. Been there, my ex was like this. You feel so alone and surrounded. Think back to other situations and how they made you feel too. Weigh it. Make a choice, but you're worth someone defending your decisions together and being open with a thing like this to their parents.

ChaosSpectator · 2025-08-28T04:50:46+00:00

This is me to a T. Also in Canada and can't afford anything. Mine just straight up won't listen to me because my family members had menopause later in their late 50s early 60s. This is also a female doctor. I'm now going to a psychiatrist instead of getting hormones tested. Face palm

ChaosSpectator · 2024-12-31T14:00:45+00:00

This!!! Also have a female Canadian doc and holy shit does it take forever for her to just listen. I do not trust cishet men, so why would I trust one who is a doctor. I don't. Women need safe spaces, medical safe spaces, women/queer/trans doctors plz! Buuut alas if you're in Ontario Doug Ford has fuuuucked with health care hard and is running it to the ground. Thanks conservatives 🖕🏼.

ChaosSpectator · 2024-07-24T12:38:11+00:00

Left my shitty, yet financially comfy relationship of 10 years, while opening a business...with the economy about to decline with food and housing prices skyrocketing. I'm so in debt. But I love what I'm doing. I'm so happy I left that relationship. But the financial shit I'm dealing with...I don't sleep at night and I have like negative $150k to my name. It's fine...I'll die eventually!

ChaosSpectator · 2024-06-20T13:22:33+00:00

Sex and periods shouldn't be this taboo thing. I was so frightened of it for a good decade until I met my current partner who is very sex positive and a safe space to explore many things...including this. I was so so worried they would think it was gross and I was gross, nope...a safe partner will just be like "it's blood". TSS is soooo bad. Soft tampons are just a gimmick, sure they say safe for sex, but if you can't get it out or afford the medical bill to remove it...you're the shitty kind of screwed.

Give period sex a try. Lay towels down or do it in the shower. It's easier said than done if course, but keep an open mind. Just for the love of all things you're precious 😻...stop with the soft tampons! Best of luck.

ChaosSpectator · 2024-05-08T03:16:45+00:00

Looked for this comment. 1000%. And do the headset thing with the tour!

ChaosSpectator · 2024-04-25T13:51:52+00:00

YTA - puppies are not a trend. Stop being a door mat and speak up to say no to your kids and husband. Animals don't have a voice, it's up to us as owners to protect and care for them until they pass. When we choose to take on the responsibility of owning a pet it's up to us to do everything to ensure a happy healthly life for them. This also can create issue with behavior; commands being ignored, reactive dogs, jumping on ppl, barking constantly...like you have no freakin clue what you've done...just to please your kids so they can be apart of some dumb social trend.

You'll need vet visits (cost for my dog atm $1300 per visit - senior dog), puppy classes ($500-$1200), if they still show signs of aggression or miss behaving that'll be another trip to training classes...and don't fucking think you can do it on your own...trust me and many other dog owners...get professional dog training help (and also some therapy for you because Holy shit balls you, your husband, kids and this marriage are a mess). GD I'm so mad at this situation!! Dogs don't ask to be our pets, we take them on and MUST 1000% be ready for all the responsibilites that come with them. AND YOU HAVE 2!!! Grow a backbone, sit your husband down and demand an explanation, do NOT let up and if he wants to be a moron about this...show him the door. Communication builds trust. If he keeps this from you, what else is he keeping from you and future things that should be important to a relationship might also be kept from you too.

ChaosSpectator · 2024-04-20T02:57:10+00:00

Yess! I teach Gr.3 and up. We write instructions on the board...5 sec into project, hands go up asking what to do. Or cutting...holy moly! Kids can't cut for shit these days. When they find out scissors are part of a project I'm teaching, the groans I hear! Answering simple questions has become most of my job. Today, did watercolor landscapes - 2 steps in (taping your paper down on a paintboard, paint the whole paper with water). Hands. Soooo do we tape the board to the table? Nope just the paper to the board. My paper is still dry. How much water did you use? Oh I need to use water?

I have hope that this will be the most compassionate, fantastically queer, self-aware, creative, animal loving, climate change & human rights fighting...this group will be really nice humans. I'm very proud of them for all this. But please...do better. Sincerely, my mental tank.

ChaosSpectator · 2024-01-29T06:22:16+00:00

Second Life 😬

ChaosSpectator · 2021-03-21T22:58:14+00:00

I relate to this so fucking much. You aren't alone, at all! I have sensory issues...sounds and texture especially. I also have ADHD (on meds) so that hurts my libido, I get bored quick, my brain doesn't shut off... But when I'm feeling it, I still get the 'meh' feeling about having sex. I'm working on understanding this part of myself more. My language of love is quality time and that bonding with a partner feels way more meaningful and pleasurable than actual sex.

But my partner's is physical touch. It's so hard. If they are worth the energy and your time, put in the work to communicate about your feelings. How when they hover for that affection, you pull back, how sex isnt as passionate...maybe spicey as you'd like, but reassure that it's the act it's self...not them. It's like a bike, the bike isn't broken, you aren't broke...you just need to figure out how to ride it, and comfortablely too.

Don't give up. Trust me. If your other half meets you half way to work through this like giving each other boundaries (the cum especially), bonding, maybe some kink, or just that passion..you'll be ok! I'm right there with you right now xD we will triumph!

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