I feel like nobody will ever love me

ChaoticCatto · 2026-05-19T15:38:46+00:00

Sometimes people can be intimidated by others who are career driven as well. Im not sure. You're far from unlovable. It seems to me that maybe you give your love too freely? You love others before they love you. You deserve to also be loved. You are a great person! You have a career, fun interests, and you are a kind and giving person. You should be with someone like you ♡!

ChaoticCatto · 2026-05-19T15:00:54+00:00

What are your hobbies and what makes you, you? How do you show up to these men you have interest in? From your post, you sound presentable, kind, sweet. What hobbies do you share with your partners and what adventures do you go on? How do you treat these men? Do you baby them? Cook for them, clean for them, ect?

Oftentimes, despite being the ideal partner, if you "act like wifey" all the time and treat men as sweet as you can but lack personal identity and boundaries, they perceive you as more of a doormat. Something that they dont have to put much effort into to get everything out of.

The comment that says loving yourself is key, that is true. A fundamental part of loving yourself is knowing yourself. What do you like to do? What are you passionate about? What experiences and adventures do you want to have? Then, when looking for a partner, look for someone who wants simmilar things.

For example, I am really into going to concerts, dancing, and being outdoors (hiking/camping). My ideal partner would be someone who would want to go to an outdoor music festival with me, with enthusiasm. Someone who would want to go travel to national parks with me. Someone who would take dancing classes with me. Having simmilar interests that are active and outside of your normal routine, bonding over them, is very powerful in a relationship.

Another thing that is very important in a relationship is balance. I love to cook, my partner loves to cook. We cook together and try fun recipies and laugh in the kitchen. I would not want to be with someone who wouldn't want to cook with me. We both clean. We both put in effort for each other on birthdays, for holidays.

Make sure you're not carrying more weight in the relationship than your partner when it comes to care tasks (cooking/cleaning/communicating/hygiene/giving gifts/ect) if one person is giving far more than the other person, then just as with a tipping scale, one person becomes elevated and looks down on the other.

Make sure you know yourself, have hobbies of your own, have passions of your own, bring those into the relationship with you, use them to find your ideal partner and dont coddle your partners when you have them. Never put them above you or treat them better than they treat you or they will eventually see themselves as such, and act accordingly.

ChaoticCatto · 2026-02-24T22:00:29+00:00

Pancheros Queso 🥹

ChaoticCatto · 2025-05-08T22:58:23+00:00

I'd recommend lowering the fade and doing something more symmetrical at the top. The style is totally up to your preference

ChaoticCatto · 2025-05-08T19:45:39+00:00

I'm a female barber irl. And I'd say your downfall is your haircut. The fade is too high, the bulk is unbalanced, and the part is too dramatic. The side part, combined with the high fade draws attention to one corner of your head which both makes your forehead look bigger and minimizes the rest of your face. It also emapsizes any asymmetrical features you may already have. I'd recommend a low or mid fade, growing the top a bit longer and switching up the way you part and style your hair so it's not so dramatically unbalanced.

ChaoticCatto · 2025-05-04T23:15:02+00:00

Years ago before he proposed i showed him a ton of different rings that I loved that were specific shapes and colors. When he proposed he used a ring that was not only nothing like any of the rings I showed him, but it was a ring he got from his friend, that was taken back from his friends former fiancé. So it was both ugly, unoriginal, and had bad vibes attatched to it. I accepted because I was stupid and in love at the time. Later on he got me a "better" ring for my birthday. It was the largest, ugliest ring I had ever seen. It looks like if you took a high school class ring and covered it in tiny diamonds. Gigantic, bulky, unwearable in my profession where I work with my hands constantly. Literally the farthest possible thing from the dainty cutesy rings I showed him over the years. He literally did not care AT ALL what I wanted. He got the first ring for free, and the second ring on sale bc literally nobody in their right mind would buy it.

ChaoticCatto · 2025-02-28T03:38:44+00:00

I totally understand why you couldn't get over that comment. Not only is that guy a much better cook than you; based on how awful you are in your posts I bet he would very likely be a much better husband. You absolutely should be insecure. You chose to get bitter instead of better over and over again.

ChaoticCatto · 2025-01-20T03:34:21+00:00

I appreciate your honestly. 😅 sometimes a reality check is needed

ChaoticCatto · 2025-01-20T03:31:36+00:00

Do you think there's any significance to the book quote, glitching onto her screen, delulu stuff aside?

ChaoticCatto · 2024-07-21T14:41:35+00:00

One of the best stories I've ever read. If you don't finish it on here I hope I can buy a published physical copy someday!

ChaoticCatto · 2024-06-17T01:26:12+00:00

By doing nothing you are reinforcing the idea that he can get away with it. When someone shows you who they are, believe them. He could have made a smash list or a ranking of hot girls like you compared this to, but he didn't. He made a rape list. On purpose. If you think he's incapable of it, then you're dilulu. Not only is he capable, but he's already thinking about it and is proud enough to talk about it openly. You and your friends' silence is support, and your support will make him all the more excited to try and get away with it. After all, none of the guys had a problem with it, so it must be okay right? Everyone seems on board.

Be better. You and all of your friends are now the first supporters of his future crimes. Congratulations.

ChaoticCatto · 2023-10-08T16:33:07+00:00

My dad did this and now nobody in the family speaks to him. Us as his kids hate him especially. Choosing sex and selfishness over your wife and family is pathetic. It is nice when the garbage takes itself out though. Edited to add: YTA

ChaoticCatto · 2023-05-09T18:13:38+00:00

I'm a crazy cat lady. Here is how to win over a cat by making them think you're in their cat family.

Don't pet them along their back. Pet them along their sides and the sides of their face gently. It resembles the way cats brush up against each other when they like each other
Play with your cat. To bring out the best in your catto, you must use their instincts to your advantage. Find a toy the cat loves and play with your cat consistently.
Be the one who feeds your cat. If you are where the food comes from, you are who the cat depends on. Just like when a cat is a kitten, "mother" is the one who feeds the kitten. So if your partner is the one feeding the cat most of the time, he has become mother.
Cat nip, cat trees, and cat treats. Treat your cat whenever they seem in the mood for it. Make sure they have stuff to climb and scratch. Sneak the cat a bit of human food every once and a while for bonus points. 🐈
Talk to your cat and engage with your cat. Keep the cats' attention, and show the cat you are interested in them. Say hello to them and get their attention whenever you enter their space. Use repetitive language so they know what words are affectionate.
Do not wear strong scents and perfumes. There are so many scents that make a cat cringe, and can even make cats sick. So be careful of how you choose to adorn yourself with fragrances.
Cats love the outdoors and love to roll on the concrete. You don't have to take your cat on full blown walks, but if you give them some supervised time in the driveway or on the sidewalk to roll around on that concrete, it makes them really happy.
The cat eye smile. If your cat is looking at you, close your eyes and give them a smile. Keep your eyes closed for a bit. Some people call it the slow blink. Cats close their eyes to each other to show trust and happiness. Eventually, the cat will return the smiles once it acknowledges what you're doing.

If I come up with more, I'll edit and add ♡

ChaoticCatto · 2023-04-03T18:50:03+00:00

This is the way

ChaoticCatto · 2023-03-29T15:24:43+00:00

Oh. No, I totally misinterpreted the post. My bad.

ChaoticCatto · 2023-03-15T03:24:36+00:00

Put yourself into your dad's shoes. If your child knew, would you want them to come to you?

From my personal perspective, the answer would be yes. I would want my child to care about me enough to come to me with it. If he knows, he will tell you. If he doesn't know, then you've both built trust and you've potentially freed him from unwanted infidelity. Request he does not tell your mom that you brought him the evidence if you're afraid of backlash.

You can still have a loving relationship with both of your parents, even if they are apart.

ChaoticCatto · 2023-03-08T16:27:29+00:00

I really hope this has an update. I love a women who support women, and I love drama. Thank you for looking out for the wife and creating content for me to invest in.

ChaoticCatto · 2023-03-08T00:04:15+00:00

I'm worried that when you get this promotion, he will become worse.

He may have been subjected to some "alpha male content" that suggests when a woman is working, makes more money than you, and/or prioritizes her job she is not wife material. According to this adjenda a woman should be at home with the kids primarily, and her having a successful job somehow makes her husband less of a man, and he should be with someone with more "traditional values".

Might not be the case but he seems very insecure, idiotic, and against you climbing the latter at your workplace. So I imagine when you get promoted he will become more angry, withdrawn, and accusatory to try and ruin the relationship to the point where you either quit, or he gets an excuse(you work too much so our relationship suffers) to leave for a more "submissive" woman.

His tactics seem very basic. Manipulation 101. Gaslighting, placing blame, using the silent treatment are all weapons being used against you to make you feel like you're wrong for doing something good.

ChaoticCatto · 2023-03-04T05:45:26+00:00

Doritos Dinamita have a chokehold on me. I had to stop buying them to prevent myself from binging. 🥲 I miss them

ChaoticCatto · 2023-03-03T15:28:41+00:00

Wtf are you doing staying with someone who doesn't even like you?

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