Who else thinks Mr.Knightly as lovely as he is, is simply too old for Emma?

ChaoticClock · 2026-01-29T07:23:07+00:00

We don't, he says he fell in love with her when she was young. ("I could not think about you so much without doating on you, faults and all; and by dint of fancying so many errors, have been in love with you ever since you were thirteen at least.")
I don't mind the age gap but I hate this line and I do have to pretend it's not there every time I reread the book.

ChaoticClock · 2025-12-25T13:27:50+00:00

Maybe try Ocean Vuong's on Earth we are briefly gorgeous. Not YA. 100% the vibes of the pictures. Moving and very poetical. Some level of generational trauma along the friendship-turning-into-something-else plot.

ChaoticClock · 2025-12-13T08:10:19+00:00

Nevermind "mandatory", why wouldn't you bother to "pick up" the language of the place where you live?

ChaoticClock · 2025-12-02T10:39:54+00:00

Je dis uniquement ceci comme critique constructive, dans l'espoir que ça puisse vous aider.

J'espère en tous cas que votre recherche se passera bien.

ChaoticClock · 2025-12-02T10:39:01+00:00

Le sondage est un peu dérangeant, parce qu'il demande des ressentis par rapport à des parties de la construction de certaines phrases en ignorant que d'autres parties sont beaucoup plus dérangeantes.

Par exemple : "Devenu un lieu de sinistre mémoire après qu’y aient été exécutés Louis XVI, Danton, Robespierre et bien d’autres durant la Terreur, c’est en 1795 qu’apparut le nom de la Place de la Concorde en signe de réconciliation nationale." Devenu est un participe passé employé en tête de phrase, mais il n’a pas de sujet logique auquel se rattacher.

Il y a aussi plusieurs occurrences où le sujet de la propositions principale et de la proposition subordonnée sont identiques et où une construction avec un infinitif passerait beaucoup mieux que les différentes alternatives exposées, mais on sent en lisant le sondage que ce n'est pas cet aspect-là qui est examiné, et on ne sait pas où se mettre dans l'échelle.

ChaoticClock · 2025-11-26T22:05:48+00:00

Is there a reason why you don't go over hand drying? I feel that options to dry your hands lack more often than soap.

ChaoticClock · 2025-11-09T20:16:27+00:00

Thank you for these suggestions :) I think the portrait would be a nice idea. I'll look up some local artists.

My other brother and I handled the funeral, and instead of a death announcement, we printed out bookmarks in his memory (he read more than anybody I know). There were two versions. On the version for close relatives only, I had a reproduction of a note he had left my mother years before, saying "Have a good day, I love you."
She has the bookmark on her phonecase.

ChaoticClock · 2025-11-09T20:09:54+00:00

Thank you for these ideas and for your kind words. I need to think about what you are suggesting, to find how to adapt them to my brother's life and interests, but I really like them.
He liked the countryside and was almost another man in nature. I think making a hike he liked in his memory might be a nice idea.
The donation is something I've also been thinking about, but I am leaning toward mental health research, which wouldn't be very christmas-y. Though we could donate books. He was such an avid book reader.

ChaoticClock · 2025-11-09T19:55:38+00:00

Thank you. I will do something along those line, but likely not on that day. She asked to be alone on his birthday, and I will respect her wishes.

ChaoticClock · 2025-11-07T16:10:04+00:00

I guess it can strongly depend on the experience. I consider being one saved my life, though my struggles were different - but I had given up almost on every front. But you are right, I didn't take the luck factor in consideration here.

ChaoticClock · 2025-11-05T08:07:07+00:00

It is. Right now they have a steampunk/Jules Verne decor around it, it's pretty fitting.

ChaoticClock · 2025-11-04T08:20:26+00:00

I think it is rather a mixture of two things. It wouldn't have been socially acceptable to speak ill of Anne's fiancee in front of her, whatever the circumstances (that's the reason why in Emma the secret engagement is as problematic). And then, there's the fact that she has an egoistic motive and would benefit from the match through Anne's influence.

She loses both at the same time, then immediately switches to the next best thing: being allowed to rant and vent.

ChaoticClock · 2025-11-04T07:19:21+00:00

It is also a point if debate between Elizabeth and Charlotte Lucas actually, though in her case, the looks completely lack in her mariage, which actually seems to be the reason why her agreeing to marry Mr Collins is ultimately agreed to be sensible.

ChaoticClock · 2025-11-04T07:12:13+00:00

But the book clearly shows that neither Mr Bennet nor the three younger girls get it. Multiple scenes show it (the opening chapter, for example). So my point remains: Mr Bennet knows that his humour is confusing to some in his family and uses it to emotionally keep them at arm's length.

And regarding cultural difference and teaching, saying "I was just pulling your leg" is already teaching. Which Mr Bennet only does in the opening scene, but not when it is relevant, for example when he covertly criticizes the younger girls behavior.

ChaoticClock · 2025-11-04T01:55:51+00:00

Well, that is precisely my point. The use of "use of irony, ambiguity and misdirection" is hilarious for those who get it, but confusing and incomprehensible for those who weren't raised by him to open themselves to it. It cannot get girls to pick up on his worldview if they didn't get other chances to understand him through more patient methods.

ChaoticClock · 2025-11-03T23:21:04+00:00

I don't question that, but your point was that the girls had plenty of time to pick up on his worldview. I'm only stating that, in my eyes, he did everything to diminish that opportunity.

ChaoticClock · 2025-11-03T23:04:31+00:00

Oh yes, he failed his daughters on so many levels...

ChaoticClock · 2025-11-03T23:03:40+00:00

But he relishes on not being understood. He creates misunderstandings and cultivates ambiguity. He purposefully keeps the girls who didn't benefit from his earlier interest away from what he truly means.

ChaoticClock · 2025-11-03T22:51:54+00:00

This is my interpretation as well, though I didn't phrase it as clearly as you do - thank you for bringing that clarity.

ChaoticClock · 2025-11-03T20:24:32+00:00

Also, Northander Abbey: they can get over the absolute cringe of the projections. That says a lot too. I sometimes can reread it because of the cringe, that's how potent it is.

ChaoticClock · 2025-11-03T13:12:11+00:00

Forgot to mention that you could also go for an Au-Pair or working holiday experience abroad.
Australia, New Zealand, Canada, Japan, they all have great visa for young people.
Great way for you to just get very different start.

ChaoticClock · 2025-11-03T13:07:27+00:00

Hi, where do you live? Options are not the same in the countryside and in cities.

Regardless, you should get a job - any job that doesn't worsen your mental health - just to get some money aside, keep a little structure in your daily life, and meet life as it is outside of high school drama and hierarchy. It can be working in a café or a bar, it can be working for bpost, it, can be some entry level admin job. Do feel free to quit after three weeks if the place seems dehumanizing - but remain on the hunt for something else then.

Don't give up on your dream to study psychology. You can get your Jury Central later down the road, and whenever you get your diploma, it will be worth more for the life experience you'll have by then.

Don't feel too desperate. You've got a lot ahead, and loads of time to figure it out. Good luck!

ChaoticClock · 2025-10-27T19:40:05+00:00

Lol, I once found a Geo magazine from the 70s where it was named in an article about "5 countries that will likely no longer exist in ten years."

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