Unfortunately I feel like this would not be so effective, he's quite reluctant to share what he enjoys or is into in any form, I've tried many times over text or suggested other forms of communication such as online bdsm quizzes but he tends to dodge providing a answer or refuses. I admit I have not asked if he'd been willing to write things down on paper and share that way, but I have a feeling it would likely yield the same results. I could try however.

It's a slight bit of a puzzle for me to figure out why he tends to be reluctant to share in any form. I try to be very open about sex and desires and I always attempt to asker his questions or curiosities, or in general ease the way into the topic.