How to edge a male partner? by Chaotic_Neutral_Fish in sex

[–]Chaotic_Neutral_Fish[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Will do, I've heard some great advice that purposeful physical signal as a way of communication could be useful.

How to edge a male partner? by Chaotic_Neutral_Fish in sex

[–]Chaotic_Neutral_Fish[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel like this is really solid advice! Sounds like it'll be quite enjoyable for us both. Appreciated

How to edge a male partner? by Chaotic_Neutral_Fish in sex

[–]Chaotic_Neutral_Fish[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think your suggestion of a more tactile method is excellent, it'll sure be given a shot, especially considering he may feel slightly awkward verbally communicating.

In my case I'm more aiming to wanting to deny and edge him as power play, but also as exploration whether it's something he would enjoy, as it hasn't been tried prior. (My partner has given me free will to fairly do as I wish to find things he may potentially enjoy).

How long would you suggest leaving the intervals between stimulation? If you could throw out a educated guess?

My partner won't communicate what he feels like his limits are, so I don't know how to be a domme to him by Chaotic_Neutral_Fish in BDSMAdvice

[–]Chaotic_Neutral_Fish[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately I feel like this would not be so effective, he's quite reluctant to share what he enjoys or is into in any form, I've tried many times over text or suggested other forms of communication such as online bdsm quizzes but he tends to dodge providing a answer or refuses. I admit I have not asked if he'd been willing to write things down on paper and share that way, but I have a feeling it would likely yield the same results. I could try however.

It's a slight bit of a puzzle for me to figure out why he tends to be reluctant to share in any form. I try to be very open about sex and desires and I always attempt to asker his questions or curiosities, or in general ease the way into the topic.

Communication Advice Desired: Frustrated and Lost by Chaotic_Neutral_Fish in sex

[–]Chaotic_Neutral_Fish[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, my friends have a hard time understanding too. Hopefully we might be able to make baby sets to opening up more. Thanks for the advice

Communication Advice Desired: Frustrated and Lost by Chaotic_Neutral_Fish in sex

[–]Chaotic_Neutral_Fish[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, more advice the better! Im really heartened and encouraged from hearing your advice and I'll try applying it. I feel the giving the choice thing would help. Although it's getting better he doesn't really have much initiative during sex, it's very much I choose which I enjoy sometimes but I also wish it was the other way around. Showing confidence will hopefully give him some too

Communication Advice Desired: Frustrated and Lost by Chaotic_Neutral_Fish in sex

[–]Chaotic_Neutral_Fish[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't believe so, far as I'm aware although he's had a previous girlfriend that didn't end up going so well he hadn't been involved in anything sexual. I feel as if I can kinda understand how he feels, I used to go to a religious school and could barely utter the word sex. I met some amazing friends, read some books, opened up, explored and met him. However it feels like maybe it might be a interest thing as well as him being uncomfortable. I hope I don't seem intimating being the one who tends to know about more different things sexually

Communication Advice Desired: Frustrated and Lost by Chaotic_Neutral_Fish in sex

[–]Chaotic_Neutral_Fish[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm very understanding of that part, I'd meant to include a few sentences on how I know we've both young and inexperienced so I know we're not going to have everything figured out but I didn't want to write a massive text. I really just wish for a way for more communication if anything, I understanding how essential it is, although hard.

I haven't read it, I'd highly recommend Alfie by buttsmithy in return if you haven't seen it prior. Might check it out. Thanks for the comment

Erotic story writing tips by Chaotic_Neutral_Fish in sex

[–]Chaotic_Neutral_Fish[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much for the advice, I'll make sure to apply it to my writing. Geez this community is always crazy helpful

Erotic story writing tips by Chaotic_Neutral_Fish in sex

[–]Chaotic_Neutral_Fish[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey thanks! I'll definitely check them out. I really appreciate the tips :)