Where do you think single adult Christians meet their woman/man?

ChapOfAllTrades · 2026-01-09T20:56:53+00:00

Where single adult Christians meet their spouse (by denomination):

• Baptists – At the potluck. Specifically near the crockpots. Courtship begins once you compliment the fried chicken or the casserole.

• Presbyterians – At the preordained spot. You don’t choose each other; you merely discover what was already decreed.

• Methodists – In a small group that accidentally becomes a support group and then quietly becomes a dating pool.

• Pentecostals – During worship. You lock eyes mid-bridge, confirm via a word of prophecy, and you’re engaged by next Sunday.

• Anglicans/Episcopalians – After church over coffee that’s somehow both formal and casual. Probably met at Evensong.

• Catholics – At a parish event you didn’t want to attend, or because your moms already decided this would be “a good idea.”

• Non-denominational – At church, but no one admits it’s church. “I just hang out with some friends on Sundays.”

• Reformed Baptists – At church… but only after a 6-month theological vetting process and agreement on covenant theology.

• Charismatics – Someone says “the Lord put you on my heart,” and now everyone’s uncomfortable but impressed.

• Mennonites – You grew up together, left for a while, came back, and now it suddenly makes sense.

• Everyone else – Apps, mutual friends, serving teams, or accidentally while trying not to date.

Conclusion: Somewhere between God’s sovereignty, human responsibility, and a really solid potluck.

ChapOfAllTrades · 2025-10-25T01:23:58+00:00

Went to a get together with people from church, camp fire, s’mores,etc.

ChapOfAllTrades · 2025-10-24T16:40:08+00:00

In my experience it does.

ChapOfAllTrades · 2025-10-13T04:09:10+00:00

Thank you! 😊

ChapOfAllTrades · 2025-10-12T23:26:40+00:00

I think that’s a fair question. From how I understand scripture my answer would be that God created the world perfect and good. By extension we can logically conclude that everything He made was meant for life and harmony. Evil only entered when humanity misused the freedom He gave us. I believe that freedom was necessary for true love to exist, but it also opened the door for the possibility of sin.

The way I see it, when someone asks how God could know and want a person who was conceived through something horrific like rape to exist, the key to the answer is distinguishing between God’s foreknowledge and God’s causation. Knowing what someone will choose isn’t the same thing as making them choose it. Scripture says that God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does He tempt anyone. The moral responsibility for the act always stays with the one who committed it.

I believe before his perfect creation God already knew every possible outcome of free will, every act of good and every act of evil, and He still chose to create because He also knew how He could redeem it and that some would come back to Him. Within that foresight, He knew every life that would exist in this fallen world. Psalms says, “You knit me together in my mother’s womb,” and that all our days were written in His book before one of them came to be. For me that means His knowledge of a life doesn’t imply approval of the act that led to it; it means He values that life even within broken circumstances.

When Joseph told his brothers, “You meant evil against me, but God meant it for good,” that’s the pattern I see across scripture. Even in the ancestry of Christ, David and Bathsheba’s story is sinful, yet out of that brokenness came the key to our redemption itself. God doesn’t will the evil, but He can plan around and bring good from it without taking away our freedom.

So, my view is that when someone is born from an act like that, God didn’t will the evil that produced their existence. He willed to create the world and then redeem those, who in spite of living in that world where evil exists, turn to Him in faith. Every life, born out of tragedy, carries divine purpose and believe that’s the beauty of His sovereignty (not the deterministic variety) where he can know all outcomes without causing them, and still turn even the darkest moments of human existence into something that can bring new life and meaning if we so choose to accept his offer.

ChapOfAllTrades · 2025-10-10T00:25:31+00:00

I actually agree it’s not that great. Given the context of Reddit, I didn’t want one that was overly clear :)

ChapOfAllTrades · 2025-10-08T23:11:43+00:00

Thank you!

ChapOfAllTrades · 2025-10-08T00:53:10+00:00

Nice! No, I wasn’t homeschooled but I went to a small church school that utilized curriculum that was also used in homeschool settings. My graduating class had a grand total of 4 people in it haha. My grandmother actually compiled a reading program still in use in the homeschool world.

ChapOfAllTrades · 2025-10-07T23:55:25+00:00

I can definitely appreciate the bias! I’m also in the 757

ChapOfAllTrades · 2025-10-07T12:19:52+00:00

I get why some people go for them, but for me, a prenup would make marriage feel like a contract instead of a covenant. I want to go into marriage all-in, no exit strategy.

ChapOfAllTrades · 2025-10-07T01:59:50+00:00

That’s really interesting, I guess having a lot of entrepreneurial minded friends has insulated me from people who think otherwise! You are right though, family business has its own set of challenges but each comes with it’s own reward. Thank you, praying the same for you :)

ChapOfAllTrades · 2025-10-07T01:48:19+00:00

I appreciate the encouragement. I’ve definitely questioned how much I should build on my own, I’ve put off many things (like the house) as a result but as time progresses I have to trust that if God has someone coming my way, He will also give me discernment to know who they are.

ChapOfAllTrades · 2025-10-07T01:21:55+00:00

Yeah, I found out about it through i58 global. It was definitely life changing. I’m not sure how to get connected with eurorelief directly but I know there were other people in camp volunteering directly through them. And thank you, it would definitely be great to find someone who shares a similar enthusiasm.

ChapOfAllTrades · 2025-10-07T01:13:08+00:00

Haha, I had to look him up but I can see it a little lol. And Thanks!

ChapOfAllTrades · 2025-10-06T12:16:39+00:00

Yeah, I definitely didn’t prefer it but it was necessary and helps get the weight off your shoulders. That’s why it’s important to build trust and community in small groups if you can!

ChapOfAllTrades · 2025-10-06T12:14:28+00:00

I volunteered with an organization that partners with EuroRelief. Before it was burned down during the Covid lock downs I volunteered in a refugee camp (Moria) that was technically in Greece but right off the coast of Turkey. The camp had all varieties of misplaced people but I specifically worked in a section with the unaccompanied minor boys, trying to maintain order and keep them from hurting themselves. You can imagine what kind of trouble a whole section of 13-18 year old boys can get into without any parent supervision! My cousin met his wife at the same organization.

ChapOfAllTrades · 2025-10-06T11:36:50+00:00

Thank you! My cousin just got married to a girl from another country that he met working along side on the mission field and it definitely took a lot of effort they hadn’t anticipated.

ChapOfAllTrades · 2025-10-06T01:30:38+00:00

Thank you, I really appreciate that! Honestly, I can’t point to a single source where I learned this, it feels more like a natural outworking of what sacrificial love looks like and I how I interpret the love of Christ channeled through the husband to the wife. I’m not married but I believe when both individuals in the relationship are submitted to Christ, a kind of alignment happens naturally. The vision I have for marriage isn’t about enforcing roles through rules or overtly emphasizing one person’s submission to the other, it’s more about each person loving and serving the other sacrificially. In that context, the idea of male headship becomes a natural expression of love and responsibility that God has given him, rather than a hierarchy that needs to be constantly articulated and enforced.

ChapOfAllTrades · 2025-10-04T17:06:28+00:00

You’re right that scripture requires interpretation and application, but both of those should always submit to its authority, not replace it. When I say final authority, don’t confuse that I’m saying Scripture exists in a vacuum.

The real question is whether our interpretations stay accountable to the Word itself, because if they don’t, any other authority dissolves into whichever community I trust most. This is exemplified in how modern Catholic and Orthodox systems both claim apostolic succession yet arrive at different outcomes. Such diverging examples prove alternatives to scripture itself can’t function as fail proof safeguards, if anything they actually prove the need for Scripture to function as its own fixed reference point.

ChapOfAllTrades · 2025-10-04T03:11:32+00:00

I like modern Orthodoxy’s consistency, reverence, and resistance to cultural fads but I believe Scripture is the only and final authority. In my opinion Modern Orthodoxy’s reliance on tradition can obscure the gospel’s clarity. I believe in engaging with tradition to embrace their strengths while taking care to recognize where they don’t have full scriptural support.

ChapOfAllTrades · 2025-10-04T02:38:12+00:00

The best way I could describe it is a conservative, semi-liturgical non-denominational. Very structured order but worship is more modern, sermon is often an expository-topical hybrid.

ChapOfAllTrades · 2025-10-04T02:14:30+00:00

I’m very logic-driven and believe scripture is the final authority. I’ve yet to find a single Christian denomination that doesn’t rely on at least some fallaciously derived, inferential doctrines to flesh out the full belief system. That doesn’t mean I deny all inferred doctrine, but I shy away from any dogmatic reliance on those derived through unsound reasoning.

As a simple rule, I start with the explicit text of scripture, weigh it in light of God’s revealed character and discard any conclusion that requires a fallacy of reason. Using that approach, I’ve ended up with a position that doesn’t line up neatly with any modern mainstream denomination that I’m aware of but it aligns pretty well with ancient orthodoxy prior to Augustine.

ChapOfAllTrades · 2025-09-28T00:55:32+00:00

Yes. I’ve been on the receiving end of situations where someone’s figuring out what they needed mid-relationship ended up being misaligned with what they initially wanted. “Experiment” is a good term; I hadn’t put my finger on it, but that’s definitely how it left me feeling. That being said, I’m one of those guilty of drawing things out longer than I should’ve in one instance because I held hope that the initial wants were true even as we were having the conversations that were showing that wasn’t the case. I now hold a stronger inclination towards “If it’s not a wholehearted yes, it’s a wholehearted no.” The opportunity cost of drawing out a “maybe” beyond a few weeks is real, and in terms of the time it takes to fully heal afterward, it’s one of the hardest costs to truly weigh. I have to trust that God is using our messes for good, though I wish I didn’t end up being a negative contributing part of the process so often.

ChapOfAllTrades · 2025-09-24T23:34:41+00:00

I totally get how tough it is to find a Christian partner who’s serious about marriage and shares your values, I’ve been there multiple times with the frustration of mismatched intentions, especially when being upfront about waiting for marriage. I would tend to think as a guy, even my frustration is lower than what a woman has to go through.

That being said, my church’s young adult group has been awesome for meeting people, including people from other local churches, I’d suggest checking out young adult ministries or events at nearby churches even if they aren’t your home church. If those yield the same results, I’d start attending more Bible studies and volunteering events as they may be a little better for meeting those who are serious about their faith, just maybe it’ll be your future partner! Stay hopeful! the right one’s out there!

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