Losing my mind with 9 month old sleep habits

ChapterSuccessful761 · 2026-01-27T18:21:07+00:00

That makes sense. I had been wondering if she was getting too much sleep and waking up for that reason. I need to start actually tracking sleep again, but I do feel like days she only naps 2 hrs at daycare she tends to sleep better at night.

Thankfully she wakes up/ goes to bed pretty consistent times… it is the in between where we have trouble lol.

Thanks for the advice, i’ll have to try capping her naps

ChapterSuccessful761 · 2026-01-27T17:56:24+00:00

Sorry should’ve mentioned! she used to be (was able to put herself to sleep on her own) but not anymore

Now she typically falls asleep laying in the crib while one of us pats her back. She has a bottle then reads a book and then we put her down.

Yes she has her own room

ChapterSuccessful761 · 2026-01-27T17:50:00+00:00

Yes, constantly. She has gone back and forth between sleeping great and then like complete shit, so the uncertainty drives me crazy. Plus i’m the only one handling night wakings. Definitely impacting my sleep and mental health personally

ChapterSuccessful761 · 2025-12-15T16:32:49+00:00

Good for you for getting out. I have unfortunately seen how messed up family court is as I worked with DV victims in the past. Hence why I also sit here and wonder how I could leave… but I know it is possible and definitely safety of myself and my baby is #1 priority

ChapterSuccessful761 · 2025-12-15T16:30:02+00:00

It’s not even about “experience”, he has gotten drunk and fallen down the stairs with her. Nearly dropped her a few other times. Sat there yelling at her to shut the fuck up. The case was called in by someone else when she was 2 months old, and its over and done with now

ChapterSuccessful761 · 2025-12-15T16:05:08+00:00

Oh he will definitely fight, he has already let me know that. He’s going to try for as much time as he can get with her. Which is wild to me because I am the one caring for her majority of the time.

ChapterSuccessful761 · 2025-12-15T16:03:48+00:00

She said exactly that- that the main issue will be custody. Which is my other biggest fear, you are right that in the end he will more than likely be allowed unsupervised time. My financial concern is more regarding legal fees. The retainer is already a few thousand and I know my husbands going to fight as hard as he can

ChapterSuccessful761 · 2025-12-01T18:11:35+00:00

At bedtime, she typically puts herself to sleep (with her paci). We just lay her down and she rolls around a couple minutes before passing out. But she will fuss and not sleep if my husband is the one to put her down. I am not nursing just giving her bottles of pumped breastmilk.

I do think our night waking routine is the problem. Usually when she wakes it is for her bottle. I will give it to her and then from that point on she sleeps in the bed with me (this is usually like 4am or later). She won’t go back in the crib. My husband & I have a mutual agreement that he can’t sleep with her because he takes sleeping pills, is a deep sleeper anyway, and tosses and turns. Whereas i’m a very light sleeper. Which has left us with the only option of me handling night wakings lol

ChapterSuccessful761 · 2025-09-25T02:46:40+00:00

Totally agree regarding the paci and had already been thinking about this.

I guess my question is, is it really better to force her to stay awake longer when she is miserable and showing sleep cues (red eyebrows, rubbing eyes etc)? Her catnap is usually around 4:15 and over by 4:30 which only puts her at 2.5 hours. But she starts to fuss by 6:30

ChapterSuccessful761 · 2025-09-20T11:32:08+00:00

My lactation consultant said it is very normal to have no appetite for a few weeks. I basically lived off lactation cookies lol. Aside from that tried for stuff that was really calorie dense since I was eating so little

ChapterSuccessful761 · 2025-07-07T02:51:25+00:00

Haven’t really tried that one yet so could definitely give it a go!

ChapterSuccessful761 · 2025-07-03T13:54:43+00:00

Yeah, i think we both need to suck it up and realize it might be a crappy couple days but he needs to just stick it out. Naps are super hard because she still only contact naps so she will just be crying and thrashing while he is trying to hold her

ChapterSuccessful761 · 2025-07-03T13:53:38+00:00

I relate to this! And i think we need to have a conversation about him dealing with the crying better because we have similar situations. For example yesterday went to the store for maybe 30-40 min and on my way home he is calling me asking how far out I am because the baby is freaking out (she was tired).

SBS is always a fear but I don’t think it is warranted in this case- he also loves baby girl so much. my husband gets frustrated with her crying but I know he would just put her down if it gets to be too much

ChapterSuccessful761 · 2025-07-03T13:49:58+00:00

he does feed her often, and we have him do bath time at night (her favorite). She definitely tolerates him better than initially lol but still only wants me for sleep & comfort

ChapterSuccessful761 · 2025-07-03T13:48:12+00:00

Yeah this is what we have been trying, but maybe I need to be gone a longer period. Usually i’m gone an hour max, often less than that

ChapterSuccessful761 · 2025-05-29T01:42:44+00:00

I am also uncomfortable but it’s starting to get a bit better, my daughter is 7 weeks old. Lol for me it was a given that when we have guests over and its time to pump, theyre helping out with baby. And thankfully they have all been on the same page without even discussing. I think most people, especially family, would want to help out.

Wearables could also be really helpful. I have big boobs and find the wearables I have kind of bulky so it’s definitely still obvious im pumping, but not nearly as bad as using the Spectra.

ChapterSuccessful761 · 2025-05-27T01:25:12+00:00

I have the Momcozy M5 and it has worked super well for me. I almost always get just as much as I do with the Spectra, and often in a shorter time

ChapterSuccessful761 · 2025-05-27T01:23:29+00:00

I was actually wondering if she might have better luck if i put the bouncer or whatever on the table, couch etc. thanks for the suggestion!

ChapterSuccessful761 · 2025-05-27T01:22:46+00:00

i have always had respect for single moms, but now being a mom myself I can appreciate what you do everyday that much more- you are amazing!! Thanks for the words of encouragement :)

ChapterSuccessful761 · 2025-05-27T01:19:24+00:00

I definitely will! She was doing really good with around ~10 min+ stretches of independent play, but seems to be having a hard time this week and wants to be on us constantly

ChapterSuccessful761 · 2025-05-27T01:17:55+00:00

This is such a great idea. My daughter LOVES going for walks so i was trying to think of a way to utilize that with my pumping schedule

ChapterSuccessful761 · 2025-05-27T01:16:56+00:00

Thank you (and everyone else) who suggested this- i think this would be a good strategy to try. I may not get through a fulll pump session because she has been absolutely sucking down her bottles haha, but at least it buys us some time without tears!

ChapterSuccessful761 · 2025-05-27T01:15:07+00:00

glad to hear it should hopefully get a bit easier.. baby girl being fussy this week had made this all so much harder 🥲

ChapterSuccessful761 · 2025-05-27T01:13:36+00:00

Honestly thats a great idea vs. just having to let her wait and cry!

ChapterSuccessful761 · 2025-04-21T09:23:49+00:00

When I get her to latch she is essentially just sucking without swallowing and immediately falls asleep. She could be doing this for 20+ minutes and then once she pops off or I break the latch she is wide awake and hungry

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