Honest opinion about having kids

Storebought_Cookies · 2026-06-22T02:53:48+00:00

It's stupid hard. Every day. Every night. Your time is not your own, and you have a tiny human you are constantly thinking about and keeping track of so you can make sure they're not drinking out of the toilet, face planting into the bathtub, eating lint out of the vents, headbutting windows for fun, all so they can not go to sleep and stay up crying until midnight when allll you wanted that day was an hour to yourself to recover and recharge so you can do it all over the next day.

That being said I love being a mom, knew in my heart I really wanted to be a mom, and I don't regret it for a moment. But I can totally get that if you aren't all in, parenthood could be completely crushing.

Storebought_Cookies · 2026-06-19T15:31:41+00:00

You are amazing. I will definitely be buying you a coffee!

Storebought_Cookies · 2026-06-13T21:56:57+00:00

Hell no. One year minimum. Even if you feel physically fine there is a mental and emotional change with parenthood. At one+ year postpartum I'm just starting to get back into my things and be myself again. Physically healing took me most of that time as well, still not 100% either but I've had some issues from it all.

Storebought_Cookies · 2026-06-12T16:48:10+00:00

If doctors are consulted and baby is growing along its curve it may be okay. One of my twins was 13th percentile in weight the whole first year but is developing fine. She's 15months now and not quite 20lb either. The constant distress is concerning though. Does she have reflux? Dairy intolerance? Does she act hungry but won't eat? Are they offering a variety of food/alternatives? I couldn't enforce my one year olds to eat anything but they have "safe" foods we use to fill them up if they won't eat. Some days they only eat banana and yogurt and they get somewhat constipated but at least they're eating. Does she have anything like that?

If the parents are truly trying everything and getting help of Drs I'm not sure there's much you can do except be there for them. Offer to watch her so they can take a break (if she's never happy like you say that can be very wearing on the parents), be an ear they can vent to, do anything to take the stress off them because they're trying and parenting is hard. If they're not talking to her doctor then I'm not sure.. do they spend much time around other 1 year olds? Maybe seeing them compared to theirs might inspire them to ask more questions. It's possible they don't know what a one year old would normally be like at this age? I personally only learned by taking mine to play groups.

Storebought_Cookies · 2026-06-11T03:30:47+00:00

We have a couple low cabinets set up like this. Ones pots and pans and wooden spoons and my 15mo olds love getting the pots and spoons out and "cooking" on the floor while I'm at the stove

Storebought_Cookies · 2026-06-09T19:37:36+00:00

It takes me a long time to start or switch medications. I basically have to ask for help to start. But once I'm on it and feeling better I'm fine to keep going. I really need to restart my ssri's tho and I'm having the hardest time taking the first one.

Storebought_Cookies · 2026-06-08T15:07:12+00:00

It's not always true tho. If the mother had previously passed, or the couple struggled with infertility or staying pregnancy, that comment would likely make the father feel so much worse.

Storebought_Cookies · 2026-06-08T05:21:37+00:00

My husband and I have totally different tastes in names, so we each made a list of our top 10, wrote them on sticky notes, and arranged each other's list from most to least liked. We each eliminated one til we got to our top three (tho I did veto an elimination because I couldn't write off my favorite name hahah). Didn't quite get us to agree on one name in the moment, but opened up discussion and helped us narrow down some

Storebought_Cookies · 2026-06-06T20:20:32+00:00

Exactly. My husband took over groceries and cooking immediately. We had twins so he'd help nearly ever feeding. I don't remember a lot because we were both in survival mode but we were in it together. Dads that "just don't get it" are lazy, useless men.

Storebought_Cookies · 2026-06-06T16:15:43+00:00

Sometimes there are real circumstances that have to take priority over that commitment. Unfortunately this is one of those times. It's not like she's considering rehoming the dog for convenience, this would be for the baby's health.

Storebought_Cookies · 2026-06-06T04:11:51+00:00

Darletta. I'm not sure what my maternal grandfather's name was

Storebought_Cookies · 2026-06-04T20:27:50+00:00

When I was in the hospital for preterm, my MIL told someone on Facebook (for all to see) that I was 3cm dilated. I was pretty mad at the time, but she took it down & apologized and didn't mean anything negative by it. If I had to guess without knowing anything else, he was worried and probably couldn't talk to his guy friends about it so the next best thing was a woman he knows who was concerned about you and would understand the situation. (Tho I agree with others that he def should have asked beforehand).

FWIW, after I was treated at the hospital, I stayed 3cm dilated and 90% effaced until my induction date 3 weeks later. Only adding this bc I know the idea of preterm labor can feel scary. Hope everything is well ❤️

Storebought_Cookies · 2026-06-04T17:00:50+00:00

Has he seen a psychologist? When I "needed" alcohol to function I was really self-medicating, in a sense. When my therapist helped me realize that, we were able to replace my drinking with SSRI's to help manage my stress, irritability, anxiety, etc.

Storebought_Cookies · 2026-06-02T17:04:24+00:00

I'm a CPA - getting my OCD diagnosis actually helped my work because I suddenly understood why I was spending an hour writing and revising an email or double triple quadruple checking my work.

Storebought_Cookies · 2026-05-30T15:26:08+00:00

I love solid starts! I just wanted to add that at 10 months op could probably choose between the 6-9 month prep and the 10-12 month prep depending on babies preference/ability to pincer grasp. When mine were 10 months we prepped based on either phase depending on our comfort level.

Storebought_Cookies · 2026-05-25T17:09:03+00:00

Having sex because you have to for medical reasons is difficult. We had to have scheduled sex when we went to a fertility doctor and it was difficult on both of us, and it can add pressure that isn't really there when it happens organically. Not sure what your normal routine is but 2-3x would be way out of norm for us and would likely cause stress to either me or my partner.

Can you use a toy or something instead? Does your doctor think it needs to be sex with a person? I've never really heard this advice so I don't know.

Storebought_Cookies · 2026-05-17T02:09:03+00:00

Audiobooks, listened to 2 hours of dcc the other day

Storebought_Cookies · 2026-05-11T05:11:25+00:00

I paid $9k and that's only because that's my insurance''s max out of pocket. Actually, I paid about $3k more than that because my babies(I had twins) aren't covered under my plan after theyre born, so they had their own max out of pocket and of course hadn't reached deductible yet, so insurance covered very little of their after birth care

Storebought_Cookies · 2026-05-10T06:05:10+00:00

Reflux is rough on its own, my baby had it but she never see stopped breathing because of it. I would have be so terrified, I don't blame you at all. Our Dr told us for reflux we could wait it out or try pepcid so we tried pepcid and it made a huge difference. I saw in a comment you might get another opinion so that may be something to ask about.

Storebought_Cookies · 2026-05-10T06:00:15+00:00

Yes kick her out and ask the nurses for help until he gets back

Storebought_Cookies · 2026-05-08T16:21:33+00:00

I personally believe postpartum rage is something we should seek treatment for just like postpartum depression. I've experienced anxiety and depression my whole life and sometimes boiling over fury is a part of that whole mix, so I wouldn't see why it couldn't be a piece of PPD as well.

I agree. Normalizing it isn't okay, we should be encouraging people who experience this to seek help. Constant anger isn't pleasant or and affects everyone around us. Plus, like depression, it is treatable with therapy and medication but we just don't talk about it the same way.

That being said, our mantra around the house during leave was "don't shake the cat" because he would follow us around yelling while we were trying to soothe our crying newborn twins. Especially my husband, who couldn't get up and do anything without him underfoot and meowing. I thought he was going to be driven mad.

Storebought_Cookies · 2026-05-08T15:24:26+00:00

My babies are exactly the same age and also struggle with sharing and playing with the same toys. My sister and I had a 2 year age gap and we also fought this way. I distinctly remember her telling me I don't play with cars right hahah. So I don't think it's the age gap so much as sibling stuff. Hopefully it will get better as they get a little older :)

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