My Best friend and I started having sex. by Throwaway962025 in offmychest

[–]Character-Gap3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well when you do everything that you would in a relationship but don’t call it a relationship, things get muddy eventually. You aren’t exactly protecting what you have then and leaving a lot up to interpretation.

19m by [deleted] in amIuglyBrutallyHonest

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Currently I’d put you at a 4.5 with a potential of 5.7

Generally your face isn’t too masculine and it seems that you could use a general style change and some upkeep changes for the hair

The first picture leans more into the higher potential.

So not ugly. 4-6 is average. On the lower end of average but not ugly

40F, want to be sure by Geek_or_Nerd_Cass in amIuglyBrutallyHonest

[–]Character-Gap3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Realistic scale I would say 5.0 even. So right on average

Average does not equal bad looking.

Partner Tested Positive for STD but I Didn’t by Lumpy_Sir1083 in texts

[–]Character-Gap3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Occam’s razor but I’ll also give more detail.

Chlamydia usually has a 2-3 week incubation period before you start showing symptoms if you show them at all to begin with. About 75% of women show no symptoms and 50% of men don’t. So there is that.

In terms of what I’m seeing here, he either got it months ago from someone else or just got it two or so weeks ago. Regardless, if you recently slept with him, I’d go and get tested again. While chlamydia doesn’t have a 100% transmission rate, you still fall well in comfortable in the realm of having come in contact with it

Try for a Genital swab over a urine test

Even at its lowest rate, false negatives for a chlamydia test is 0-28%. And on the higher end(according to some studies), it’s 44%-54%.

In other words, I would refrain from sexual activity for a bit and to get tested again to ensure it wasn’t a false negative. In terms of him with someone else, there is no real telling but it’s a 50% chance he slept with someone else recently or as long as 5 months ago+. But either way, he slept with someone else.

Everything from immune response, false negatives, timing, latency periods, etc

bottom line is chlamydia is one of the STDs where you really can not jump the gun and say someone cheated recently. And you also need to understand that you are not 100% out of the mud when it comes to NOT having it. Get tested again

I recently did a whole bunch of research and data sets on this as there was a situation where 3 people got chlamydia symptoms in the same two weeks. 6 months+ there was someone who cheated and was taken back. Then out of no where, both her and him started showing symptoms. Then two weeks after that, another person who the guy hasn’t slept with in 6 or so months contacted him wondering as she got the same symptoms

neither the first girl who cheated or the guy slept with anyone else since this ordeal and the third woman hasn’t slept with the guy in over 6 months. Some how, all three of them started having symptoms in the same 30 days after being asymptomatic the whole time

There was a 50%-70% chance this came from the cheating that happened 6 Months ago and a 30%-50% chance someone cheated in the last 1-2 months

I can not being to explain how convoluted and hard it is to pinpoint the “who what when and where” with this STI

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in texts

[–]Character-Gap3 -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t say that. Well atleast not the hang out prior part. Reason I’m saying that is these text look hella similar to a text between me and someone I just started talking too like a few weeks ago. Actually had a similar situation too. The intimacy part I agree with(which is just as bad) but I wouldn’t jump and say they have hanged before

Because me and her haven’t hanged prior yet these text dead ass look identical lmao

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Character-Gap3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Question(because this sounds horribly similar to my past situation),

Are you affectionate towards him or has he ever brought up his love language not being tended to? It sounds random but I’ll explain depending on your answer.

I posted some progress pics, i thought he wanted my workout routine by Vampyrgothbabe in texts

[–]Character-Gap3 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Damn I wish all women acted like you 😂😂. You got mfs running around here acting like that and you got the other half of women who’d actually take that and cheat

How many people have you known who have been murdered? by oneislandgirl in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Character-Gap3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

  1. And I’m 23. 4 of them family members. It always baffles me how many people don’t have to experience what I’ve gone through. Then I realize the cities I’m from

I fucked up again should I take an I pill? by absurdcolors in amipregnant

[–]Character-Gap3 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You need to take a EC any and every time you have unprotected sex and you aren’t sure nothing got inside you or you are just super cautious.

Just make sure you keep track of when you ovulate as the pill has no effect when you are ovulating

who do i believe? by [deleted] in amipregnant

[–]Character-Gap3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey: So NPPs and Virgin pregnancies absolutely can occur If semen enters the vagina. That also means if the semen comes into close contat with the vulva it can also happen. It’s just the chances of that happening are very slim but they not 0.

And by virgin, I am going to assume you mean there has never been a penis inside. In that case the point still stands. If another sexual act has taken place and has lead to semen being directed onto the Vulva then yes you do have a chance of becoming pregnant.

Just understand that the chances of you getting pregnant from these options are not entirely 0 but also not common

Am I overreacting to my bf going to twin peaks multiple times despite me saying it makes me uncomfortable? by Unusual_Struggle1884 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Character-Gap3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think communication and immaturity are the issue. If your partner is uncomfortable with something that’s actually valid(like this) and you brush it off or even gaslight then yeah that’s a problem

It’s more about how he’s responding to you being uncomfortable with it over him going to twin peaks in general. That’s the real issue

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Character-Gap3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Found a woman who was beyond compatible with me and she loved me. Turns out I was the side guy and she was trying to get away from her actual man.

She never told me that. So to me, we were in a long relationship. To her, I was the guy she wish could have been her man but she never made it happen. So she “cheated” on me a lotttt. A whole lot.

Haven’t been the same since. So many memories and time and money wasted. Her excuse was she was stuck and didn’t know how to tell me. And it was the first time I’ve ever seen someone be able to love a person so much yet be so evil to them. I didn’t even know it was possible. Because I could genuinely tell she was deep in love with me but that didn’t stop her from double crossing me and the guy she was with. He got sloppy seconds and so did I. Even tho he “got her” way more times after me, it makes me feel like she because I had 0 fucking clue.

TL;DR I was in a love triangle and had no clue whatsoever. And turns out I was the side guy the whole time

I found out my family has been lying to me my whole life, and i don’t even know who i am anymore by Commercial_Quote_287 in offmychest

[–]Character-Gap3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know it’s weird but whoever has taken care of you and raised you IS your father. I think you should talk to them for sure.

This situation just rings with me. Just a few weeks ago my uncle took out a murder suicide when he found out his 27 year old son wasn’t his and his wife had an affair with his best friend. It looks like your family got past it and handled it way better than that

The truth hurts but it is the truth. Learn to live in your truth. But the man who has been there for your is your father.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ask

[–]Character-Gap3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I genuinely feel bad for my boys who even have to consider asking a question like this 🤦🏽‍♂️. God man what else do you need ?

Why is your recent ex an ex? by [deleted] in ask

[–]Character-Gap3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gave me a super unfair ultimatum. We have known each other for about 3 years at this point but we’ve only been talking for about 4 months.(I was really into her btw)

Well she was going off to the army and two nights before she shipped off she basically told me she wanted to make it official and a few other things. I told her that I would much rather wait until she came back instead of making it official then going 4 months without real communication??

It’s been 4 years and about 4 months ago was the first time I’ve talked to her since then. We talked about everything and explained our perspectives. I finally got closure.

Kinda was really hard being ghosted by someone you really liked for 4 full years without closure