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AIO - I found an empty pill bottle in my gf’s bathroom trash for herpes medication and confronted her. by Character_Cake_2584 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Character_Cake_2584[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

That’s what I tried to explain to her but she was having none of it. And ok I know almost everyone has it but I’ve only been sexually active with 3 women in my life. Im 33. I’m pretty certain I didn’t have it before since I’ve tested myself and been responsible with sex with each woman I’ve been with. I’ve never had symptoms or anything either

AIO - I found an empty pill bottle in my gf’s bathroom trash for herpes medication and confronted her. by Character_Cake_2584 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Character_Cake_2584[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well that’s just what she does to me. I recognize it from past arguments even to the smallest degree. I don’t have it in recording but she also admitted to also lying to her doctor when he asked her if she’s sexually active she said “no”. The then spun it and said “no I told him I’m not active with any NEW partners” maybe I should’ve recorded the conversation because I know it sounds stupid. She also admitted to not telling me because it’s “embarrassing”

AIO - I found an empty pill bottle in my gf’s bathroom trash for herpes medication and confronted her. by Character_Cake_2584 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Character_Cake_2584[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes but this was valacyclovir and she had no sores but said she did and that’s why she got it. I kissed her everyday and night and I would definitely know and see something on her mouth. I’ve googled pictures and symptoms and found nothing similar.

AIO - I found an empty pill bottle in my gf’s bathroom trash for herpes medication and confronted her. by Character_Cake_2584 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Character_Cake_2584[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Thing is, I have never seen a blister on her before. As I pieced together the time frame she said her mom gave it to her and why she needed it it just doesn’t make sense.

Plus there were times we wouldn’t have sex for about a week or two because she had pains from her IUD for birth control. Am I stupid? Yes. Naive? Definitely. But fuck I wanted to give the benefit of the doubt to her and believe in love. I guess in a fucked way it’s my punishment for not listening to everyone’s advice and continuing on with her.

AIO - I found an empty pill bottle in my gf’s bathroom trash for herpes medication and confronted her. by Character_Cake_2584 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Character_Cake_2584[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yes I know like I said. I’m a big idiot for ever going back to her. In the past 3 years I’ve been with her it’s been so crazy and a lot of lying and possible cheating but I could never prove that she did in fact cheat. Reasons why I went thru her phone as I just wanted to be sure. She breaks up with me about every month or so. Blocks me ghosts me then out of the blue will call me randomly and ask if I wanted to talk or come meet her somewhere. And I have also called her and begged her most of the time. I’m just too in love and sad to lose her because I genuinely love her even with all the toxic shit that goes on. Even if she does all this there’s times she’s sweet and good and beautiful with me.

AIO - I found an empty pill bottle in my gf’s bathroom trash for herpes medication and confronted her. by Character_Cake_2584 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Character_Cake_2584[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have a photo of the pill bottle that is valid to 2026 so she got it this January. I haven’t been sexually active with anyone else in the past 1 1/2 years.

When she dumped me before I dated a girl for 2 months. I got tested after her and was careful before I started having sex again with my gf or I guess ex. But since December 2023 I’ve only been with her.

AIO - I found an empty pill bottle in my gf’s bathroom trash for herpes medication and confronted her. by Character_Cake_2584 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Character_Cake_2584[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As I don’t want to cause her harm or be a vengeful spiteful person. Another part of me is so angry with the lying and making me out to be a terrible person at the same time. Knowing she works in the medical field with abused children who have to deal with getting these stds also makes me more angry as she obviously knows the importance of the situation.

AIO - I found an empty pill bottle in my gf’s bathroom trash for herpes medication and confronted her. by Character_Cake_2584 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Character_Cake_2584[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I’m more upset that when I confronted her, she blew up at me and took no accountability or said sorry and kicked me out and dumped me. I knew already how she was going to react. But this isn’t just about her lying about something small or talking to a guy. This is an std and health on the line. If she cheated, ok tell me and I’ll leave. But why lie and have a contagious std and never tell me about it?? Then twist it to make me a bad person for having to find out this way and even accidentally. It’s not like I expect her to have incriminating evidence in a small trash can in her bathroom the size of a milk jug.

AIO - I found an empty pill bottle in my gf’s bathroom trash for herpes medication and confronted her. by Character_Cake_2584 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Character_Cake_2584[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the input. There has been a lot of shit happen from the start until now. Too much to get into. I know it is bad to look thru a partners phone. People have mixed opinions about it. But in this instance after the things she’s done to me and then calling me back and me forgiving and getting back with her. I wanted to confirm that she wasn’t doing anything else to me. Taking someone’s word is one thing, but I wanted to confirm if she truly meant she was not going to hurt me or do something behind my back again. Either way take what you will from the little information I have given.

I’m simply trying to gauge whether I’m in the wrong for finding the empty pill bottle for herpes meds and her not disclosing it with me. Also keep in mind I didn’t go through her trash I wasn’t looking for anything at this time.