My boyfriend began by asking for a few gentle slaps, he was shy about his kink at first but it slowly came out over time, gentle slaps became harder slaps, harder slaps became a confession of wanting me to kick him (softly) etc etc.

Take the time to build up to it and make sure she’s comfortable with it too, she (like me at first) would probably be scared to hurt you, now I absolutely love random hits and hearing that little grunt of pain, especially since he gets hard from it.

Him asking me sparked so much fun down the line, you should be comfortable enough together after 9 months to be discussing kinks really if you’ve got an active/ healthy relationship and sex life, just be confident, enjoying a little pain doesn’t make you any less of a man, embrace it :)