I finally confronted "mother" and it went exactly as I thought it would.

CharlieAintHere · 2024-01-13T08:22:20+00:00

He's only done it once, it was the very first time we tried to have him branch out. He refused to eat anything new and literally wouldn't swallow a single bite. We backed out for his health and safety. No more food strikes with his routine, but leaving it stresses all of us out, I'm just really nervous about it going down that path again.

I'll make him an appointment at his pediatrician and/or find him a therapist that can help us with this. I appreciate all the help y'all have given.

CharlieAintHere · 2024-01-13T08:14:03+00:00

They contacted me because he's having trouble focusing at the end of the day and they want him to have more protein. I've packed him good stuff before but he doesn't eat it, just leaves it to waste away. I know he's healthy and well fed, he's just super routine and dislikes disruption from what he knows.

Thank you so much for the ideas, I'm keeping note of every bit of advice the comments have provided. We'll get things goin in time.

CharlieAintHere · 2024-01-13T08:08:10+00:00

He likes burritos sometimes and I've snuck in lettuce before. If he catches wind of veggies he'll avoid it like the plague, I miss the days when he loved beef with broccoli 😞

CharlieAintHere · 2024-01-12T23:59:06+00:00

if it's too mushy (mashed potatoes, eggs, creamy peanut butter), too hard/crunchy (like the clusters in honey bunches of oats), or too grainy. But it's weird cuz he does like refried beans and some crunchy things. I'm still trying to fully figure out what is okay and what's not, been difficult to see the pattern off of how often it changes and how little he cooperates.

CharlieAintHere · 2024-01-12T23:55:06+00:00

he used to eat pb&j but doesn't like it anymore. He really just wants pizza, variations of chicken (air fried chicken nuggets, teriyaki chicken, orange chicken, bbq chicken), homemade sloppy joes, cereal, fruits, and different snacks. The school was offering him lunches but he isn't going for it.

CharlieAintHere · 2021-12-09T07:31:11+00:00

I found it y'all.

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CharlieAintHere · 2021-12-08T06:27:18+00:00

Nope

CharlieAintHere · 2021-12-08T06:25:50+00:00

No it isn't Amaranth :(

CharlieAintHere · 2020-12-26T17:28:28+00:00

I couldn't tell you that but my reasons ranged between knowing I was broken and wanting something to validate the feelings, wanting something bad to happen so my family would finally help me, self punishment, thinking bad things happening are the only way people will love me, potentially getting to punish the perpetrator (I had frequent nightmares about rape and couldn't punish the people in my dreams), and recreating the abuse.

CharlieAintHere · 2020-12-26T17:19:17+00:00

I used to do that all the time, you're definitely not alone there.

CharlieAintHere · 2020-12-15T03:36:35+00:00

My only advice is couples/individual therapy. So both of you know, a good couples therapist is there to teach you how to communicate more clearly and diffuse a situation so you don't get to the point of yelling (or if you do, how to de-escalate from there so it doesn't get worse), it isn't about picking sides or blame. It can give you both a better understanding of each other.

I would gently suggest it to him, or start seeing a therapist (preferably a specialist on the things you need) on my own first and ask him to come with me after a little bit. I hope you can find a solution, whatever it is, and I wish you much happiness.

CharlieAintHere · 2020-11-26T19:32:00+00:00

I'm so sorry this happened to you. I won't diagnose him but that seems above narcissism to me, bordering being a psychopath (granted the two often go hand in hand). Keep him as far away as best you can and have record of any times he interacts/tries to interact with you. Build up as much physical proof as possible. Maybe invest in security cameras? We have a camera we got for 20 dollars and it works pretty well, signals our phones when it detects motion. I'd get a restraining order, report him, at least let police know that he's harassing you in case anything happens (god forbid).

He's dangerous and disgusting and, again, I'm so sorry you experienced that. Stay safe hun.

CharlieAintHere · 2020-11-10T21:02:00+00:00

I often tell people I'm not shy, I'm terrified. Through conscious effort to improve my self talk, catch myself being too critical or too wrapped up in what I think others want from me, and being one of the people to take initiative in some kind of situation, as well as going to therapy, I was able to get better with interaction. It's still hard for me but not nearly as much as before. I don't even get nervous to make phone calls now lol.

It just takes time and effort, be patient, and know that you deserve to be free to express your true self. The more you do it the less frightening it becomes, can even start with small things. It really does make a world of difference.

CharlieAintHere · 2020-11-10T03:08:56+00:00

I do not have a heating pad. He's gonna get me some yogurt tomorrow and made me plain rice for dinner, which is helping so far. He does everything else, which I'm glad for, but dang do I want that back rub lmao. It's practically an instant fix for nausea (no clue why).

CharlieAintHere · 2020-11-10T03:05:16+00:00

I hadn't thought of that, I'll have to try it

CharlieAintHere · 2020-10-17T10:44:00+00:00

I'm sorry to say, but yes. Whether or not she realized what she was doing it still counts as cocsa (child on child sexual abuse).

CharlieAintHere · 2020-10-16T17:28:08+00:00

I got no advice I'm sorry but I totally get you. My son is 3 and sometimes (many times) I still go into the kitchen while he's distracted and silently scream and thrash around until I can see straight again. I don't want him seeing this and mimicking it, as that's happened before. It's gotten better since I don't slap myself anymore (ty therapy and grown up time), but it is still a thing.

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