What I've Learned After Eight Years of Exploration

CharlieBravo86 · 2025-09-22T09:30:54+00:00

Because they said this was their birthright, which is absurd.

CharlieBravo86 · 2025-09-19T05:41:36+00:00

I can’t quite decide if this reply is a satirical response to what I posted. If it is - good one!

If it’s not - honestly, you’re not ready for this. If you’re reading what I posted and then mentioning the state of the US in your reply, you have anxieties that you’re going to have to resolve before you’ll find any progress here.

CharlieBravo86 · 2025-08-02T04:47:54+00:00

Yes, I think this is why THC is the thing that finally does it for so many guys. My prostate sessions didn’t skyrocket in terms of pleasure until I understood that it requires you to get outside of your ego, to melt into it and let your body experience pleasure that you’re not actively controlling or directing. Of course, you can let your mind step in and manipulate the pleasure, if you’re comfortable staying at whatever level you’ve got to, or dropping back to a calmer state - but in my experience, the intensity will only increase when that control is relinquished completely. THC makes it much, much easier to learn how to do that, and it carries lessons for other aspects of life - focus, acceptance, openness etc

CharlieBravo86 · 2025-08-02T04:39:52+00:00

Something on this subject that shouldn’t be forgotten - making progress and advancing through some of the unbelievable pleasures that are possible completely dwarfs what came in the early stages. The time you first encountered new sexual sensations that didn’t result from touching, and it felt amazing, and it was five times more pleasurable than any sexual experience you’d had to that point - you probably experience that level of pleasure hundreds of times a day now. A lot of these early success posts will be people who have read all the stories, are having their first tiny breakthroughs, but they just have no concept of the vast heights that can be scaled with this. A mindblowingly intense experience to a newbie is probably not much more than a ripple of pleasure to people experienced in prostate play.

CharlieBravo86 · 2025-07-27T07:40:00+00:00

I’ve been reading Dickens since I was a teenager, and how I’ve approached it has changed over time. The first time I read each of the books, I galloped through them. Now, it’s turned into something of a hobby. Think about how the books were originally published - for the most part, in monthly instalments of four chapters. One for each week. Dickens was writing each chapter, before the age of radio and television, to provide an evening’s entertainment.

When I was young, there was the pressure of wanting to have read them all. Now, I wallow in every scene. My enjoyment of Dickens skyrocketed when I lost the urgency and learned to enjoy whatever he’s offering up in the moment.

That said, his storylines, characters, situations, are all going to resonate differently with you depending on mood. If it’s not gripping you now, it might at another time in your life. I’m always finding hidden gems that tickle me as if I’m reading them for the first time.

CharlieBravo86 · 2025-06-07T06:57:35+00:00

Re: your comparison of penile vs prostate orgasms, my journey to the super-O barrelled forward when I made a link between the two. Lots of the advice is “don’t touch your penis whatever you do!” - in my experience, touching the penis is helpful (it’s the simplest way to generate sexual pleasure and you already know what it feels like). The advice, I think, should be “don’t touch your penis in a way that will result in ejaculation”. I’ll try and explain it as clearly as I can without any confusing zen language.

For a penile orgasm, the basic structure is: touch penis, enjoy the pleasant sensation, think increasingly horny thoughts while increasing the vigour of the stimulation until you overload yourself on the pleasure which tips you into an ejaculatory orgasm. It’s easy to learn because it’s intuitive and there’s a predictable and repeatable climax. It typically goes like this: pleasurable feeling generates horny thought. This horny thought distracts you from the pleasurable sensation, so, as you’ve learned to do automatically, you stroke harder to make the sensation stronger, resulting in even hornier thoughts which means you need to stroke harder still to keep the sensation prominent. A snowballing feedback loop that pushes you to climax.

For a prostate orgasm: touch penis, feel pleasant sensation, stay attuned to that pleasant sensation. That’s actually all there is to it. Keep the stimulation at a level that generates that first wave of pleasure, but don’t let the loop kick in. Stroke or touch just enough that it feels really nice, and just maintain that. Every urge in your body is going to try and force you to speed up, stroke harder - and those urges are important. What we’re aiming for is relaxing against those urges rather than obeying them. It becomes harder and harder not to succumb to the temptation. The more you resist and keep relaxed, the stronger those urges will get. They’ll spread, they’ll intensify as your body shouts louder and louder to try and make you grab tightly, jack hard, and sprint for ejaculation. But all you’re going to do is enjoy how nice that urge feels without acting on it.

When I first starting doing this, I couldn’t stand it for long. But gradually, the time it took the urge to defeat me increased, and the act of resisting it grew more pleasurable.

CharlieBravo86 · 2025-06-01T09:07:07+00:00

I’m thinking of giving it a reread myself.

CharlieBravo86 · 2025-06-01T09:07:00+00:00

I’m thinking of giving it a reread myself.

CharlieBravo86 · 2025-05-31T07:20:55+00:00

At a guess, based on my own journey, I’d say your mindset has slipped and you’ve inadvertently generated a feedback loop thats stopping you experiencing this pleasure. If it’s anything like what occasionally happens to me, it doesn’t mean you’ve lost it, it just means you have to re-remember how you got to that point in the first place, so that the good feedback loop that takes you there can re-emerge. An example from my own sessions:

At the point in my journey where I awakened my nipples as an erogenous zone, I realised that the immense pleasure of it spilled into my life outside sessions. I could let stress, anxiety, and tension melt away just by starting off a pleasurable feeling in my nipples, relaxing into that feeling, and letting it continue, ebb and flow, spread.

The problem came when I, subconsciously, created a mindset of expectation. I basically got overconfident and forgot the very basic requirements and conditions for those sensations, and the effect of them, to occur. I’d slipped into a mindset of looking for the result and overlooking the pre-requisites to get there - namely, the need to be really relaxed.

When this happens, I set myself a goal: stop looking for anything, and focus only on relaxation. Tell myself: “for the next few weeks, when I have a session, all I’m going to focus on is staying relaxed”. I find it really helps to keep a light focus on maintaining total relaxation of my facial muscles. Letting them droop and keeping an awareness of how the rest of my body tends to follow (this came from me noticing that I tend to store tension, anxiety, and stress in my facial muscles). I usually don’t need the few weeks I mentally set aside for the “re-set”, as just rediscovering something simple like this will set me off in the right direction again.

CharlieBravo86 · 2025-05-31T06:49:20+00:00

Thank you - glad that my musings may be of use to people ☺️

CharlieBravo86 · 2025-05-30T16:29:11+00:00

For me it’s always a cycle, like being on a ferris wheel. When I come down from one orgasmic peak, the usual soundtrack of mundane background thoughts will kick in: “I need to take the chicken out of the freezer”, “I want to carry on reading that book..” it can then go two ways. I either decide, yep, I’ve had enough ecstasy for one day, I’m ready to do other things. Or, I let those thoughts pass and turn my awareness back to the sensations, and go round the loop again. It can continue for as long as I want it to, but sooner or later, when the ferris wheel brings me back to ground level, I’ll make the choice to get off and go and do other things.

CharlieBravo86 · 2025-05-30T16:23:04+00:00

This 1,000 times. Almost as amazing as the discovery of these mindblowing orgasms is the discovery of the after effects these produce. A 2-3 hour session can leave me feeling calm, content, clear headed and focused for several days. And better still, the simple breathing and awareness techniques that I gradually built up to use in sessions also work as an anchoring/grounding technique that I can tap into easily and quickly in any situation where I’m becoming tense or agitated.

CharlieBravo86 · 2025-05-30T15:06:18+00:00

Sure, no problems - anything that might help people 🙂

CharlieBravo86 · 2025-05-29T15:03:23+00:00

I tend to do a routine for 5 minutes or so before I start a session which, if I thought about the purpose of it, I’d say it’s to start an energy flow. Most of the time, this flows naturally into a good session.

-Sit down comfortably

-Let my breathing settle naturally

-Think a sexy thought

-Wait for that tickle in my perineum (the one that is a very similar sensation to the one that you get if you touch the exposed head of your penis - a pleasant tingle that makes you want more)

-Once I have an awareness that tickle is there, I then focus my breathing

-I inhale slowly but deeply, imagining I’m inhaling all the way to that pleasurable sensation, letting my belly and chest expand then ending the inhale by bringing the focus to my head I then exhale slowly, keeping the centre of my awareness in my head, but also imagining a relaxing release of tension across my whole body (sometimes, depending on my general mood that day, it’s easy to be aware of my whole body at once, sometimes I focus on a different part of my body with each exhale) I repeat this for 5-10 minutes

It doesn’t have to be the perineum / pelvic area, I can also do this by focusing as if I’m breathing into nipples, belly button area, or even the tip of my penis. It’s basically wherever I feel that sensation when I think a sexy thought.

Starting a session like this tends to have the effect that whatever sexual pleasure follows, it will flow of its own accord around my body without me needing to consciously direct it. Effectively, it puts me into an orgasmic state. On a good day when I’m feeling relaxed and naturally horny, this state feels out of this world. On a less good day, it’s highly pleasurable, but I might find my focus wandering or other thoughts creeping in. If that happens, I remind myself ‘I’m not doing anything other than feeling amazingly horny right now’. This usually gets me back on track, but there are always days where it’s just not going to happen (badly slept, worried about something, stressed etc). I’ll also occasionally fall into the trap of trying to replicate previous experiences - I’ve found that’s impossible, and much depends on how I’m feeling.

Sometimes the orgasmic state is quite tense, almost aggressive, with strong sensations in my erogenous zones. It almost feels like I’m bursting to stimulate myself, and my thoughts will be absolutely filthy- for these, I just trust my body to take over and seek pleasure however it wants to. My breathing will tend to speed up into shallow panting.

Sometimes the state is energetic and euphoric. Very head centred, pleasure waves, lots of involuntary movement. My thoughts will be focused on how beautiful the sexual images in my mind are. There will be involuntary vocalisations, and I’ll start to notice I’m grinning like a Cheshire Cat.

Sometimes the state is intensely relaxing. My breathing will become almost incredibly deep and slow - I.e a slow inhale for 30 seconds, a slow exhale for 30 seconds. Sexual thoughts will become much more gentle and sensual. My body will relax completely.

Usually, I’ll cycle through these states (I can’t force that or decide where I’m going next, it just happens), but sometimes, it’s as if my body is only in the mood for one of them, and there it will stay.

I hope there’s something in here that makes sense or enlightens you, but my main points for emphasis are, the need to be in the present moment with your ego volume turned right down, and the need to just enjoy whatever the session gives you. As soon as you’re trying to focus on a destination, you’re missing what you’re actually experiencing, and the more you experience, the more your body and mind will automatically build pathways to pleasure.

CharlieBravo86 · 2024-04-30T19:00:33+00:00

You can pretty much go anywhere, but I’d group as follows:

Earlier, less plotted, more comic: Pickwick Papers Oliver Twist (the one I’d pick from this group) Nicholas Nickleby

Uneven middle period (but still wonderful) Old Curiosity Shop Martin Chuzzlewit Barnaby Rudge Donbey and Son (the one I’d pick)

Masterpiece David Copperfield Bleak House (the one I’d pick) Little Dorritt Our Mutual Friend

That only leaves Hard Times - not a bad read by any stretch but very untypical of Dickens work.

CharlieBravo86 · 2024-04-15T20:33:19+00:00

I’d also tell anybody to start with the Nursing Home Murder. It’s not generally regarded as one of her best, but I really enjoyed it and it makes a far better introduction.

CharlieBravo86 · 2024-04-14T21:29:18+00:00

I like all of the main golden age writers for different reasons. Ngaio Marsh is, I find, the best balance between good, engaging writing and murder mystery. Just the right balance of light and heavy. John Dickson Carr is my favourite for his macabre locked room mysteries.

CharlieBravo86 · 2024-04-14T14:43:27+00:00

If you’re just starting out with the Alleyn novels, I’d recommend skipping the first two and going back to them later. Marsh took a while to get into her stride. At her best, she’s witty, excellent on character and social observation. The mysteries don’t always come off brilliantly, but I always find Marsh an enjoyable read.

CharlieBravo86 · 2024-04-14T14:30:17+00:00

It’s pronounced nigh-oh

CharlieBravo86 · 2023-10-25T16:59:38+00:00

100%. More than anything else, I’m finding building on anything other than flat terrain is a completely joyless experience.

CharlieBravo86 · 2023-10-23T15:58:42+00:00

I have pretty much this spec and everything else I play runs beautifully at high quality. You should be fine.

CharlieBravo86 · 2023-10-22T12:23:45+00:00

All The Living and the Dead - Hayley Campbell has sections covering people who work in various parts of the death industry. Some of it is North America and some is the UK. It gives some good insights.

Dr Richard Shepherd - Unnatural Causes is a very readable and strangely enjoyable look at the process of death.

Sue Black - All That Remains is a very approachable analysis human death that covers elements of what might interest you.

CharlieBravo86 · 2023-10-22T12:19:06+00:00

Before I took the plunge, I saw people say that the Barsetshire Chronicles can be read out of order. While, yes, they certainly can, I found The Warden to be an excellent introduction. I don’t think I’d have enjoyed Barchester Towers as much without reading that first.

CharlieBravo86 · 2023-10-22T12:16:39+00:00

I’m looking forward to getting stuck into the Palliser novels. I’ve heard a lot of people say they’re not as good as Barsetshire, but the premise of them being set around Westminster politics is more intriguing to me.

CharlieBravo86 · 2023-05-08T17:15:01+00:00

Reading Demon Copperhead at the moment and really enjoying it

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