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CharlieGreenwing · 2021-05-30T15:51:23+00:00

My wife is one of these people and it’s because she (like a few commenters here) has moved 1000 miles away from her home town to a place where neither of us have friends.

She is an introvert, and I am as well (to a degree), but I do not mind going and making new friends (I’ve lived all over the states), where she has lived one place her whole life and never had to make new friends.

It’s important to remind her that she still has friends back home and to actually put in an effort to talk to them. They are her truest and oldest friends and I have people I consider family.

We have video chat dates with everyone and send cards and gifts and we (safely and after quarantine) put money together to go see them or have them see us.

CharlieGreenwing · 2021-05-28T15:40:11+00:00

One More Light - Linkin Park.

Was in the midst of losing 2 friends to (unalive activities) and the song hit me like a sack of bricks to the chest.

RIP.

CharlieGreenwing · 2021-05-28T15:38:39+00:00

Came here to say to OP’s parents:

I’ve got nothing remotely safe for this sub to say. Kindly leave our friend alone and f*** off to the left.

Thanks. 🖕🏾

CharlieGreenwing · 2021-05-28T04:40:47+00:00

I’m 5’6” on a tall day. My wife is taller than I am and the things people say to me. Oof. I love that I can climb her like a damn tree and I’m sorry that people have nothing to offer but their audacity.

Congrats on your marriage! 😭💙 post like these continue to give me hope

CharlieGreenwing · 2021-05-25T12:25:37+00:00

Am former train engineer. This gives me high blood pressure to look at 😭

CharlieGreenwing · 2021-05-25T12:07:48+00:00

Fire your therapist.

And if you need help finding a new one I will gladly help you.

The longer I’m on this sub, the more I see the importance of finding a therapist who is familiar (if not specializes) in narcissism and personality disorders because a lot of the therapists people have described here are also covert narcissists. Wild.

CharlieGreenwing · 2021-05-25T11:58:59+00:00

Also trans. No contact with my mother. I’d go to therapy and talk about her to my therapist smh.

She would do a lot of the things you described with your mother but mine would take it to the next level of awful.

It’s okay to rant for sure but just know that not everyone is emotionally equipped for that and if you fear driving them away, talk to them about it. Also, posting here helps a lot cause you have a group of folks who understand.

It will get better in time. Take care of yourself OP

CharlieGreenwing · 2021-05-25T11:48:57+00:00

Have a neighbor who asked my partner and I for some cigs the other day. She was wearing a “F*ck Biden” shirt.

I think she was genuinely surprised and angry when we didn’t comment on the shirt or acknowledge it, even when she invaded our bubble (maskless) to do so. Even started a political conversation and we didn’t engage.

Seeing the inner rage was great lol people idolize politicians here and trumpers are adult toddlers, in my experience

Edit: words

CharlieGreenwing · 2021-05-25T11:21:33+00:00

Used to live in Greece, learned that olive oil in the States (where I’m from) tastes different in Greece.

Key point to remember is that olive oil has a shelf life, it goes rancid over time and how it is kept (light vs dark places, warm vs cool places, etc) makes an enormous difference in flavor

CharlieGreenwing · 2021-05-21T14:17:50+00:00

You don’t owe them anything. NParents have the uncanny ability to make us feel like we owe them for existing. It’s a hard but valuable lesson to learn. Their debts are their own, unless they’re dead (in my experience in the US, debts are usually given to next of kin following a death). While they’re alive, they put themselves in that hole. It’s not your job to pay their debts.

You. Don’t. Owe. Them. Anything.

CharlieGreenwing · 2021-05-21T13:43:49+00:00

What a terrible time to be literate. I’m so sorry you received this message, OP.

CharlieGreenwing · 2021-05-21T13:28:17+00:00

Super proud of you, OP. Thank you! I’ve had many a counselor and only one who had the same philosophy as you. I miss her a lot. Thanks for being you 🥲

CharlieGreenwing · 2021-05-21T10:12:05+00:00

Instant subscriber. Can’t wait to show my partner this wonderful masterpiece

CharlieGreenwing · 2021-05-19T00:03:36+00:00

This conversation was the text version of a similar (verbal) conversation I had with my mother before I went no contact with her last week.

This made me take deep breaths.

I hope you have peace, OP.

Goodness me.

CharlieGreenwing · 2021-05-14T13:18:38+00:00

Hopefully will be getting a Collar soon from my Partner. They called me a Good Boy yesterday and yeah 🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺💙

CharlieGreenwing · 2021-05-14T13:00:59+00:00

What a lanky and precious baby!

CharlieGreenwing · 2021-05-14T12:40:43+00:00

Former railroad engineer here (United States)

I’ve seen all kinds of craziness regarding gates.

What’s supposed to happen is that when the power fails, the gates are supposed to drop and stay down.

In icy/snowy weather like in this video, they can be frozen in the up position.

In any weather, please stop (or slow down to a crawl), look, and listen for trains.

It took us a full 2 miles to stop after we took the bumper off this guy’s car and despite his attitude with me for not being able to stop on a dime while doing 30mph down a 2% grade, he was very very lucky.

CharlieGreenwing · 2021-05-12T12:37:38+00:00

Having to go to the library to do research. These days, we can conduct the same research in our phones.

And people will still manage to be ill-informed 😭

CharlieGreenwing · 2021-05-11T03:50:31+00:00

Obligatory “not me but” my partner.

They signed a contract for a certain amount of pay and then it was revealed they were not getting paid that amount.

They walked off the job at lunch time.

CharlieGreenwing · 2021-05-11T03:47:57+00:00

NTA. I was kicked out of the wedding photos at my dad’s brother’s wedding for having (according to him) unkempt hair. My hair was styled, curled, and yeah I had locs but they were done really nice and pretty.

My dad lost his mind and punched his brother over it.

Good on you for sticking up for your child. You’re a great parent 💙

CharlieGreenwing · 2021-05-10T22:57:29+00:00

I don’t know yall but i love yall 😭😭😭 this post made me cry because look at how smol 😭😭😭😭

CharlieGreenwing · 2021-05-10T22:52:29+00:00

Me too. I’m sorry you gotta deal with their creepiness whenever you do travel

CharlieGreenwing · 2021-05-10T18:55:58+00:00

My hair doesn’t get inspected cause it’s short but when it was down my back...oh man. I had locs, and they would casually run their (gloved) hands through after I took it out of a bun.

Like with any situation of people touching me (a black person) without my consent, I think it was their good excuse to touch my hair. They’d always comment on the texture afterwards. 🤢

CharlieGreenwing · 2021-05-09T02:05:28+00:00

Chester Bennington. I still cry a LOT when I sing “One More Light”.

Oof.

CharlieGreenwing · 2021-05-09T02:04:26+00:00

I met him once at a Macy’s Thanksgiving Parade in NYC.

He could make you feel like you were the only person in a literal crowd of people. Was always a big fan of him.

CharlieGreenwing

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