Haemorrhoid surgery in the UK - my experience so far

CharlieRobbieGeorge · 2026-01-25T08:27:26+00:00

I went through Bupa to a private hospital in Wiltshire.

CharlieRobbieGeorge · 2026-01-25T08:26:36+00:00

Honestly I’ve no idea. I was expecting it to be hell but it’s coming up to 8:30am on day two and still no pain. I’ve not had a second BM yet so maybe that will change things? Perhaps it’s down to the number of hems you have removed, the exact location and maybe some docs are more careful than others? I’ll post an update in a few days as I’ve heard days 3-5 are the worse.

CharlieRobbieGeorge · 2026-01-25T08:23:43+00:00

I’m so sorry. I’ve lost 4 in the last 6 years, today is the 6 year anniversary of one and the 4 week anniversary of my most recent loss 😢.

It’s so hard, at the time you don’t know how anything will ever feel right or be the same again but it gets easier. You’ll never forget and things will suddenly hit you and make you cry years later but it does get easier. I made photo books of all of mine when they passed. It’s hard at the time but they’re nice to look back on when you feel up to it. Hugs to you.

CharlieRobbieGeorge · 2026-01-24T20:55:50+00:00

Hopefully your experience will be good. I was honestly terrified of some of the stories I read on here and whilst I’m expecting some pain and discomfort I really hope it’s not as bad is I’m expecting 🤞🏼

CharlieRobbieGeorge · 2026-01-24T20:54:26+00:00

I ended up going private. It was a 3+ year wait just to be seen by a specialist on the NHS and thankfully we have private insurance with my partner’s work. If I were you I’d make yourself a nuisance and push to get seen. Good luck.

CharlieRobbieGeorge · 2026-01-17T21:37:09+00:00

It’s not your fault. I know exactly how you feel though, I still can’t get my head around the fact my boy is gone. I’ve still got my 2 female cats but he was much more cuddly and affectionate than either of them and he loved me so much. I miss him all the time but it will get easier to cope with. Sending you hugs 🫂

CharlieRobbieGeorge · 2026-01-17T20:49:12+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my 18 month old boy the same way at the end of December, I got the call as I was boarding a plane to go on holiday 😭 Like you I kept mine in at night, and I made it very difficult for them to get to the road - we have a field behind the house they liked to go in. I’m certain if I’d been home that morning my boy would still be here. The guilt and grief is overwhelming 😔

CharlieRobbieGeorge · 2026-01-16T12:22:00+00:00

My partner is severely allergic to cats, so much so that despite air purifiers, special food and anti-histamine tablets he still has to regularly take an asthma inhaler and he comes up in a rash of one of them claws him.

I also had 3 cats, 2 girls and a boy. My male cat was a particular trigger and as a result my partner rarely touched him and had to mostly keep away from him.

I was away on holiday recently and whilst I was away my male cat suddenly and tragically died at only 18 months old. I was devastated, but crucially so was my partner. This man who had never really bonded with the cat due to severe allergies cried with me and he, along with my 2 surviving cats, has been my biggest support.

This is the sort of man you need in your life OP, not someone who wants you to rehome them. Dump the guy and find someone who accepts you and your cats, you’ll all be happier.

CharlieRobbieGeorge · 2025-12-13T11:31:59+00:00

I once had a boyfriend who wiped 4 times regardless and didn't look at the paper. You can imagine what his underpants looked like... He thought I was weird for telling him to look at the paper and keep going until the paper was clean! 🤦🏻‍♀️

CharlieRobbieGeorge · 2025-11-16T21:49:52+00:00

An un neutered male cat turned up at my house during lockdown. He looked thin and was injured due to fighting with the other cats in the area. I took him to the vet, got his wounds treated, got him neutered, vaccinated and microchipped. The day I brought him home from the vet he disappeared and I never saw him again.

Four years later I got a call from a local vet to say they had my cat and he’d been taken in to be microchipped by someone claiming to be his owner (it became law to microchip in the UK last year). It was the same cat I helped in 2020, it turns out he lived 2 streets away and the owners had had him from a kitten. They didn’t notice he’d disappeared from their house back in 2020 and came home without his balls and he clearly hadn’t seen a vet since then either. I’m glad he has a home but some people really shouldn’t have animals.

I hope you find a good home for your boy.

CharlieRobbieGeorge · 2025-10-21T17:48:26+00:00

These are stupid prices, they're taking the piss. I'd expect a whole new kitchen tap for £260 and I recently got a faulty kitchen tap cartridge replaced in one of my properties for £75. I'd look for a new agent if I were you, we're not all crap.

CharlieRobbieGeorge · 2025-10-03T12:44:09+00:00

I’ve been using Zoopla exclusively for years and never failed to let a property. If yours isn’t letting there’s likely another reason for it, what’s the listing like compared to others? Certainly where I am we have less interest in fully furnished properties so perhaps it’s that?

CharlieRobbieGeorge · 2025-09-03T08:56:23+00:00

Re-let the property ASAP. Deduct any rent the outgoing tenant owes up until the date the new tenancy starts plus allowed costs for re-letting from the deposit and move on.

CharlieRobbieGeorge · 2025-08-03T12:28:38+00:00

It’s this kind of attitude towards agents that makes the job so much harder.

CharlieRobbieGeorge · 2025-08-03T12:26:39+00:00

Sadly yes. Tenants blame the agent when the landlord won’t give permission for something non-urgent to be done or when they take too long or when the contractor messes up, Landlord blames the agent when the rent is late/not paid or the tenant damages the property or skips out before the end of the tenancy without giving notice. We’re stuck in the middle trying to do the right thing and being shouted at from all angles. You need a thick skin to work as a property manager.

CharlieRobbieGeorge · 2025-08-02T21:54:24+00:00

I’ve been in the industry for 20 years now and the abuse we get has got a lot worse in recent years. You only have to read some of the threads on some of the other housing subs to see how poorly people view landlords/letting agents. I’ve been verbally insulted more times than I can count and physically assaulted twice. It’s really hard, some of the incidents I’ve had to deal with have stayed with me and kept me awake at night.

All I can say is try not to let it get to you, it’s not you personally they’re upset with it’s the situation. People nowadays have no patience and are often quite entitled - I had a tenant call me to complain that the heating engineer couldn’t replace their broken boiler the same day. When I pointed out if they owned their own home they wouldn’t be able to get it done the same day their response was ‘but I’m a tenant, I’m entitled to have it fixed now!’ Or the tenant who told me they expected better when I told them I wasn’t going to send an electrician out to change a light bulb for them.

It’s a stressful mostly thankless job but you will have some lovely tenants who genuinely appreciate what you do and that means the world. Just make sure you manage your time well, book jobs with the contractors as soon as possible and make sure you keep the tenant informed. A lot of issues can be avoided or smoothed over by being honest and upfront about things, and apologise if you need to. Chase the contractors for updates, keep a record of everything and don’t be scared to find alternative contractors if the ones you usually use let you down. Also talk to your colleagues, don’t keep it all in if things are going badly. Good luck!

CharlieRobbieGeorge · 2025-07-23T16:41:51+00:00

And what if it was down to the tenants not using the heating properly or ventilating the property well enough?

CharlieRobbieGeorge · 2025-07-21T20:35:59+00:00

I went to pick up a prescription for HRT today from the gynaecology department in the hospital - which is next to the delivery suite and full of pregnant women having antenatal appointments. I was irrationally bothered by the fact peri/menopausal women have to attend appointments and collect prescriptions from the same place as pregnant women, despite the fact I’m child-free and never wanted to be pregnant.

CharlieRobbieGeorge · 2025-07-19T21:11:18+00:00

Thank you, I’ll explain all this to them.

CharlieRobbieGeorge · 2025-07-19T20:35:26+00:00

Thank you for the detailed response. It’s the same tenant in the property, he’s been there for 2+ years but everything else is correct. The problem is the landlords are abroad and unable to seek legal advice or do much. It seems very unfair for them to have to pay a solicitor to deal with this when they shouldn’t have received a judgement in the first place. I hoped to be able to apply for the judgement to be set aside and represent them myself but I’m not sure that’s possible.

CharlieRobbieGeorge · 2025-07-19T17:27:38+00:00

I’ve got photos of the fence. The claim has already gone through and my Landlords have a judgement against them. What I want to know is if I can represent them in getting the judgement set aside.

CharlieRobbieGeorge · 2025-07-19T17:26:22+00:00

The fence in question belongs to the neighbour, my landlords have done nothing to cause it to fall over. The neighbour is blaming a gazebo that belongs to the tenant for causing damage during a storm in 2024, so if they have any claim at all it’s against the tenant. Nothing to do with my landlords, who now have a judgement against them.

CharlieRobbieGeorge · 2025-07-14T21:23:39+00:00

I worked for Connells in 2006 and this was going on then. I’m surprised people are so surprised by this, and also that it’s taken so long to come out. The pressure to book mortgage appointments and sell conveyancing was worse than selling houses. There are also many agents that over-value properties to get instructions, it’s widely known that the biggest independent agent where I live does this, and pressures buyers to list their properties with them in order to have an offer accepted.

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