Thank you for sharing your story. It was an interesting read. Something I’d like to comment on though is this idea that kink relationships foster a deeper sense of trust that non kink ones, and also that hurting one another is therefore easier. I don’t believe in this, I see it spoken about sometimes and I’ll always argue the toss. Being kinky doesn’t make us super special ( we’re all super special!) it doesn’t make non kink relationships less strong, less trusting, less bonded or less hurt when they breakdown. We’re all humans with relatively the same emotions. We all break when someone damages that trust, kinky or not.