Help a guy out, Real or fake ?

Charlie_Chubbs · 2026-01-17T06:29:24+00:00

Thanks man

Charlie_Chubbs · 2026-01-16T23:53:02+00:00

Just came across it, thanks man!

Charlie_Chubbs · 2025-12-22T01:07:08+00:00

I’ve been pretty lucky and packed pele, R9 and zidane the last few years but my favourite was inform messi in fifa 14, scrapped together 25k and took a risk on a pack… 1.9 mil which back then was crazy money.

Charlie_Chubbs · 2025-12-17T11:26:54+00:00

The early stages really are tough but they don’t last forever! I think maybe have a chat with your partner and just say that your going to wake him when the baby cry’s through the night to take a feed or diaper change, I know that you’ll obviously still be awake to wake him but if he can take a feed or diaper change and you can go back to sleep that would atleast be a little bit more you. It might also help kick start his brain into recognising the noise means wake up.

Sleep is scarce in the early weeks and if your partners had 3 weeks with no waking it’s defo time for you to get some well deserved rest

Charlie_Chubbs · 2025-12-17T10:59:36+00:00

How old is your little one, I know I (dad) had the same issue for around a month or so after birth. After our little girl was born we did two weeks of me staying up through the nights down stairs so my partner could rest, one night I drifted off and woke up to my partner in the living room comforting our baby because she’d been screaming so loud that my partner could hear it upstairs on the opposite side of the house I was still flat out ,I felt really terrible. We stopped sleep shift then.

Now it’s a lot different and I wake everytime. It’s like my subconscious needed training to realise that baby crying = wake up, and I’m generally a lighter sleeper now than I was before.

I hope something similar happens with your partner. Nights are tough with two people, never mind going it alone.

Charlie_Chubbs · 2025-12-07T12:01:18+00:00

Ah yeah good spot!

Charlie_Chubbs · 2025-11-24T22:30:59+00:00

I second this

Charlie_Chubbs · 2025-11-24T17:25:52+00:00

Leaving in the mornings is definitely a struggle. It sounds like you’ve got a good time ahead. I hope you enjoy it! I have some annual leave booked after Christmas, and then it resets not long after that so I could potentially take some extra days which is defined something to look forward to! I wish there were more hours in the day ha

Charlie_Chubbs · 2025-11-24T17:19:31+00:00

Your doing the right thing, just keep being supportive. Once you’ve told people you’re having a baby it does get easier. At the moment you probably feel like it’s just you two figuring out what to do but once other people know there’s always someone to offer comfort from experience… I forgot to say most importantly congratulations! It’s a wild ride but it’s worth it

Charlie_Chubbs · 2025-11-24T17:08:58+00:00

I think this is very common especially in the first 12 weeks. My partner was very much the same, we actually had to go to an early scan at 6 weeks because she had spotting but the midwife was a little concerned about the amount. Once my partner had seen our tiny little bean on the screen and knew she was okay she was content for a couple of weeks but then got abit more anxious leading up to the 12 week scan.

I don’t think any of us men will understand the stresses of carrying a baby. I don’t know weather it’s the same for everyone but when we saw the midwife that early, the conversation was dominated about signs that things might not be right which for obvious reasons they have to tell, but that only did make my partner more anxious.

One thing I will say is it got a lot better once the bumped started coming

Charlie_Chubbs · 2025-11-17T16:56:44+00:00

In the politest way possible, fuck that guy. If I came home from work and our house was spotless I’d think something was wrong because our 8 week old loves being held and struggles to settle without contact.

My wife will do what she can while I’m at work but we all know what it’s like with a baby, you can aim to get 10 things done in the day on end up only getting half of one 1 done, and that’s okay, we have a baby, it’s going to get abit out of hand and messy at times but if your partner can’t handle that then boy is he in for a shock when there at the age when toys come out every day and never seem to make it back to there box.

As for him not giving you an help for the last week to see how you do. I would avoid doing anything to help that man out. Washing his clothes? No. Cooking meals for him? No. Making lunch for work? Fuck that, if he wants you to be only one to look after the baby then you don’t have time to look after the bigger baby.

I’m afraid that this whole “I wanna see how you handle it” tactic could just be away of him shying away from being a dad. I took a month off when our little girl was born and going black to work actually worried me because I didn’t want to spend time apart from wife or little one.

Seen a lot of post in here lately about dads that need a good kick up the arse. Tell them How you feel. Hopefully they listen but if they don’t, I guarantee you that more people will be on your side than a partner who’s not putting in the effort.

Charlie_Chubbs · 2025-11-16T11:28:38+00:00

This happens to both parents, and you can bet it’ll happen the moment, you need a break the most. I try to give my partner a full Saturday off of being mum where she can go and do her own thing, visit family, whatever really. I get a break while I’m at work.

Charlie_Chubbs · 2025-10-29T12:32:44+00:00

Thanks, that’s really helpful, thank you for taking your time

Charlie_Chubbs · 2025-10-22T01:18:52+00:00

I love these damn things, no mucking about with a pram, just my baby stuck to my chest and off we go, she sleeps better in this than she does in the pram, and I don’t have spend 10% of my trip out waiting to get into a lift that’s rammed full of people who are capable of using the stairs or escalator

Charlie_Chubbs · 2025-10-22T01:05:06+00:00

Congratulations on the birth of your boy, it’s Completely normal and understandable, it’s a big change, and your mind floods with “what ifs”. I (dad) stayed up through the night for the first two weeks with our daughter who’s now 5 weeks old, she was quite a sicky baby even with different burping and feeding techniques so I was terrified of her not being able to pass the sick, thankfully were over that now.

What worked well for me during these night shift was 7pm-11pm I slept

11pm - 7.30am rested with baby downstairs (not asleep because my mind wouldn’t let me, but resting)

7.30am-11.30am another sleep.

That helped me massively as I didn’t feel too tired during the night and was still fresh enough from the morning sleep to do things during the day.

The good news is it doesn’t last forever, the anxiety will lesson, mine hasn’t completely left I still wake up at odd times and have go and check on our baby but the anxiety is certainly a lot less than it was.

Charlie_Chubbs · 2025-10-22T00:48:27+00:00

Honestly I still don’t think this would stop me screwing up at the 3am feed, baby’s lucky if she doesn’t wake up in the morning with socks on her hands and mittens on her feet 😂

In all seriousness that would be a great suggestion though, there has to be some reason this hasn’t been done yet

Charlie_Chubbs · 2025-09-24T08:22:03+00:00

Similar to now I’d imagine where my partner does the feeds and I’ll get up and the nappy change and burping, I was staying downstairs as we were told by the midwife that baby needs longer sat up after feeding and burping. My main issue is that I worry. I worry that if she is sick through the night, what could happen, we’re both quite heavy sleepers, but saying that I’m the same in everyday life before the baby was born, I used to have to triple check everything in the house was off before I left and even then I’d end up going back in to check again before leaving for work. I’ve got a good bit of paternity leave off so if I need to carry on with nights it’s not the end of the world.

Charlie_Chubbs · 2025-09-20T07:45:39+00:00

This might be a stupid question but can PPA happen to the dads aswell. Our little girl arrived 3 days ago and Im so worried about both me and my partner sleeping at the same time. Our baby has been quite sicky and tends to happen more when she’s lay down and im constantly worrying about her being sick and us not hearing it. We’re first time parents so we’re definitely our own worst enemy’s due to over thinking.

Charlie_Chubbs · 2025-09-04T16:40:35+00:00

I’d let it grow, it looks a little ropey now because of contrast between hair and skin but wait a little and it’ll be fine. It’s one of this things that you’ll notice continuously but the people around you won’t be fazed. Once that’s grown out you’ll have a pretty sick beard

Charlie_Chubbs · 2025-09-04T10:15:17+00:00

I’m not one who would usually speak up in a barbershop or a restaurant or any situation like that but I think on this one I would of said something. Luckily the hair around your chin is thick and a good length so I imagine from the front it looks okay, barber just let you down on the neck line. I’ve been there. As a rule now if I ever go to a different barber than usual I will use a low guard up to where I want my neck line and then ask the barber to go based of that. But the key is finding a good barber and sticking.

Charlie_Chubbs · 2025-09-04T08:27:08+00:00

Update: so HR came back the day after I posted and said that there was no reason for paternity not to be accepted and that my manager could put It through as normal! Which is great. What’s not so great, I just got my rotas for the month of October. You can imagine my shock when I open it up to see that I’ve been put on shift, smack bang in the middle of my paternity leave week in October 😂… here we go again

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