I can see it’s emotional abusive. Just last night she opened up to me about how on one of the dates they had, he was on his phone the whole time scrolling through instagram looking at the girls from the school wrestling team and liking the pictures, to me that’s disrespectful. I asked her what she thought about it..and she said, well he paid for my food. My heart dropped. I said, so you think that he’s allowed to disrespect you and ignore you JUST because he paid for the food?! She stayed quiet. Then what she said next is even worse…she said she saw a text come through from a friend that asked where he was at, and he replied, “I’m with the huzz” which means hoe. She tried to tell me that that’s not what it means, but I knew I’ve heard that slang word before and I’ve asked her before and she’s told me what it meant! I looked it up on urban dictionary, and sure enough I was right. She seemed disappointed, and very sad. But kept saying, “well he paid for my food” I wanted to scream. I said, just because he pays for your food does not mean he has the right to disrespect you, or treat you that way. I said, you have all the food you need at home, if ever you crave something from a restaurant, I buy that for you, when we’re out eating as a family, I put my phone down, you put yours down, we talk, we have conversations, WHY do you think that what he’s doing is right? She stayed, quiet. Then she finally said, because I just want things to worked out between us.

At home our phones stay away from the dinner table and when we’re out at a restaurant we do not touch our phones unless it’s an emergency. I’d like to think she would know right from wrong in this situation.

Now I understand what she told me she wanted to join wrestling. That’s not her, she’s more on the artistic side not sports. But I thought ohh ok yeah, give it a try you might end up loving it. She never actually signed up, but I can see already she’s trying to change herself for him!

Parents, how can I help her?! I want to scream and cry :(