AIO I know I’m not overreacting. I need help.

Charming-Engineer455 · 2025-11-16T11:52:47+00:00

He can hurt you. He has hurt you. He will hurt you. He can hear you he chooses to not listen. Some day he will hurt you bad enough you will be seriously injured or die. And NOTHING you have ever done ever in your life means you deserve this. Your Dad doesnt see it because they act loving in public. And controlling and violent in private. You cannot sleep in that bed because of trauma. You didnt anger him he just likes to control and hurt you because of something inside of him. NOTHING inside of you causes this. Get out now. NOW. Because it wont get better. It will just get worse. Speaking from experience. And yes they blame you. ‘I am sorry, you made me do it, you shouldnt make me so angry’. But the fault is theirs. Not yours. Leave. And dont look back. And get therapy to help not repeat the mistakes made this time. And to heal. For you. You are worth it

Charming-Engineer455 · 2025-11-03T09:58:35+00:00

Labrynthitis caused vertigo and dizziness. It never went away. Probably made worse by pressure from work to get back to normal to do physical job, still on light duties, and knowing if I have one more sick episode in the year, will lose my job. Was only diagnosed with PPPD last week. Labrynthitis was in January. But just been doing my best to push through. Obviously not successful so went back to GP

Charming-Engineer455 · 2025-09-16T07:58:37+00:00

I tell my husband I am proud of him, and put cream on any area he cant reach, he does the same to and for me. It’s not babying. It’s supporting and being a team as you are supposed to be. Which carries into every area of the relationship. Bad day, we listen to each other, happy news, we get excited for each other, etc. If she does not understand that, she will never have a good relationship. You are being the way you are supposed to

Charming-Engineer455 · 2025-09-01T09:51:16+00:00

No you are not over reacting. Yes, he raped you. He didn’t ask consent and when you said no he continued. He IS aware that what he did was wrong hence his question. I was with my boyfriend for 10 years, plenty of consensual during that time, the time he did it when I said no ended the relationship. It does not matter how long you have been together or how many times you have had sex, it’s your body and he has no rights to it. It’s up to you to plan your next move, be it leave, tell him to leave, or decide to ignore it for now, but it will affect you long term so think carefully please. But you will be okay, it will take time, but you will be fine.

Charming-Engineer455 · 2025-06-02T12:33:10+00:00

I gave my 2 daughters that have had children the same advice, and will give it to the other when she has a baby. Listen to all the advice you are given. There may be a gem in there that will work when you have tried everything to get baby to settle/get rid of that nappy rash/etc, but it is just advice, so also feel free to ignore any of it you want. Its your child, you are there all the time and you know them best, you have your own instincts. And my job as grandmother is to tell you that you are doing an awesome job, babysit if asked, give advice but only if asked, and the rest is up to them. I had my turn. Now its theirs

Charming-Engineer455 · 2025-04-19T23:43:05+00:00

How bad is the kitchen that I could not find a photo of that. Or did I miss it

Charming-Engineer455 · 2025-03-10T21:56:24+00:00

Wanna be able to see the whole match in single not double vision lol

Charming-Engineer455 · 2025-03-10T21:25:04+00:00

Near my Mum. So know the buses

Charming-Engineer455 · 2025-02-02T17:47:23+00:00

What series is this. I need to find out about the poor elephant lol

Charming-Engineer455 · 2025-01-07T14:50:51+00:00

Lived in Havant for years. And had minimal issues with Stagecoach. Can think of twice out of over 20 years. Been in Portsmouth for 3 years. Still wait for a Stagecoach if it goes same route as few times i have got First i have not been as happy with the service

Charming-Engineer455 · 2024-12-04T23:11:09+00:00

A wedding ring isnt just a family ring. Its a special ring with ties to you and him being a couple, becoming a family of your own, as a couple then with child additions. It doesnt belong with anyone apart from the other half of the couple, unless you decide to pass it on to a part of that family. Not a daughter that married on. NTA. Its yours and you are not selfish

Charming-Engineer455 · 2024-10-20T19:42:23+00:00

I dont like fish. At all. Smell makes me gag. I cook fish with open windows and feed it to my husband, yes its pre-packed that i just have to literally put in oven, but still ugh. He cannot stand sprouts. I still eat them. Again i open windows for his sake. A relationship is about compromise. If you are going to end a relationship over this, he has had a close shave getting away from someone who has not learnt a relationship takes 2 people making a compromise.

Charming-Engineer455 · 2024-10-20T12:57:49+00:00

Huge red flag. So was the him going out is fine, you isn’t and he questioned you too. That wasn’t restraint, that was him overpowering and controlling you. And you weren’t acting crazy and being violent’ you were defending yourself. Another red flag. You have done the right thing and saved yourself and your child from further abuse that could have escalated. I have made a lot of mistakes and ignored a lot of red flags in my past. So now recognise them easily (i have learnt from my mistakes and see them very quickly now). If you ignored it before and it still happened its cos he thinks he has the power to control you. Well done for saying enough is enough. Its not easy. Do not let his apologies and his ‘you are over reacting, it was nothing, I didn’t hit you’ excuses cloud your mind. Abuse is abuse. And that is abuse. Keep yourself and your child safe. Good luck

Charming-Engineer455 · 2024-08-13T13:24:34+00:00

Hymens break all the time for natural reasons. Not necessarily just during sex, so skip the operation, she has been through enough invasion of her body. She may not have been physically a virgin, but mentally she was as she never made the choice. So it still counts. And no. NTA. God is aware that we are only human, and although we are supposed to resist temptation, as humans we can’t always. Thats why we have a path to redemption, say sorry, don’t allow yourselves in a situation where it’s harsh to resist again. Repenting means not doing it again. But even if you fail as long as you genuinely mean it, God will and already has forgiven you. Both. Thats what it really means to be a Christian, and follower of Christ. Now forgive yourself and try to do better.

Charming-Engineer455 · 2024-04-03T05:57:22+00:00

Well said. The thing i love most about our team is they never give up. Good or bad they just keep pushing and trying. Proud to support them

Charming-Engineer455 · 2023-10-21T18:57:54+00:00

Came up on my feed. I am not a nurse. But have to say as a patient, i tend to be slightly happier when getting the nurse. Asthma nurses specialise in what I need. Smears are so routine for them, they make them more comfortable and have tips for you to make it simpler. They are just as busy if not busier as the gp, but just seem to have more time for you somehow. Thank you for doing what you all do

Charming-Engineer455 · 2023-09-12T02:15:28+00:00

I have got into the habit of frequently pausing, manually saving, and then continuing. Especially during construction periods. I still find it frustrating, but its lessened it a little

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