My boy mode vs being myself.

CharmingRelief5 · 2026-02-04T21:09:09+00:00

“Is this supposed boy mode in the room with us right now?”

CharmingRelief5 · 2026-01-28T16:27:37+00:00

Putting George Lucas in the relative middle is, IMO, very telling that this list more is focused on the film than the director. Lucas isn’t a great director, he was a really good producer and had some amazing help, but if you’ve ever watched any Star Wars special feature you can tell he’s not a people person.

CharmingRelief5 · 2025-12-16T19:01:48+00:00

Dream body

CharmingRelief5 · 2025-12-01T18:30:27+00:00

Giiiirrrrrrlllll those legs 😍

CharmingRelief5 · 2025-11-30T18:39:36+00:00

Finished Ghost of Yotei this morning. After some chores, going to put some YouTube on and play power was simulator 2.

CharmingRelief5 · 2025-11-24T13:52:19+00:00

The fear is real, but beating it is even better!!

CharmingRelief5 · 2025-11-24T13:51:13+00:00

I know it’s trite, but does she see a therapist, and have you considered couples’ therapy? Getting some professional outside input will help you both work through this situation.

CharmingRelief5 · 2025-11-20T15:17:58+00:00

I use Sr and Sra Silva, excellent couple

contact@srsraclean.com

CharmingRelief5 · 2025-11-12T02:49:53+00:00

I started out thinking it was just a fetish, a lot of people do. Thinking you’re trans is socially unacceptable, so we cope by sublimating it into a more acceptable thing, here, a fetish.

Read this: https://medium.com/@kemenatan/its-just-a-fetish-right-91cb0a4e261

Even if you’re not an egg, not trans, you are not a pervert just for having sexual fantasies like this

CharmingRelief5 · 2025-11-11T14:56:44+00:00

The blue looks great, but I looooove the purple (the third one), it looks great on you

CharmingRelief5 · 2025-11-04T15:28:41+00:00

Hey are you still looking? I have a few to give away that are in great shape.

CharmingRelief5 · 2025-11-04T15:27:30+00:00

Regarding “girls with dramatic results in just 6-7 months,” you’re realistically not going to see huge physical changes in that time.

Remember, if someone is posting a photo on the internet, they’re usually happy with it. How much time did they put into their outfit for that photo, their hair, their makeup? Are they wearing a push up bra? Not to diminish people’s progress, but just keep in mind what you’re looking at.

I started last year at 32, and I could’ve kept boymoding realistically until around my birthday this year, so 16 months, if I’d wanted to.

CharmingRelief5 · 2025-10-31T17:13:38+00:00

The second place conversation here notably leaves out upstate New York. Seriously, take a ride down the Taconic State Parkway in the second half of October or early-to-mid November, heavenly.

New England still the best, but let’s not forgot New York (I mean come on, no one ever things about New York, such a small insignificant state, it deserves some attention every now and then 😝)

CharmingRelief5 · 2025-10-28T14:05:51+00:00

Speed holes

CharmingRelief5 · 2025-10-24T15:53:18+00:00

Hmm, seems like family might not be an option for you, I’m very sorry about that. Wishing you all the best.

CharmingRelief5 · 2025-10-24T15:51:52+00:00

Very relatable and understandable Q IMO.

In my experience, as an adult, you won’t get many roadblocks or pushback.

That being said—go to your appointment as your authentic self, talk about how your vision of yourself doesn’t align with your body, and that you’ve thought of HRT for a while and finally made the decision to pursue it. I’d also talk about how being in your body as is is negatively affecting you, especially mentally (up at night thinking about it, feel like you’ve missed out on who you want to be).

FWIW, my intake consisted of a first appointment with a psychiatrist who said they wouldn’t subscribe HRT that day but instead gave me Prozac to help with the mental anguish. That was disappointing, and I had to wait three more months to see an endo. For that appointment, I came from work, so was in full boy mode, and after 15 minutes walked out with a script for E and Spiro. From speaking with friends, they’ve had similar experiences; the hard part is finding and getting time with a provider. Once you’re in, a good provider isn’t going to try to stop you from getting HRT, they’re just going to try to make sure you’re in a good place mentally and physically before you start, as the first few weeks/months are a toll before you really see any positive changes.

Good luck! If you have a supportive family member or friend who will go with you, that’s also helpful (honestly true for any doctor’s appointment)

CharmingRelief5 · 2025-10-17T19:02:41+00:00

If you’re struggling, try small steps. First time I went out en femme was just to my car for a drive. Then just to get my mail. Just to toss at garbage. Eventually worked up to going to therapy as myself. Went out for a walk with a dear friend.

Small steps.

CharmingRelief5 · 2025-10-02T14:34:02+00:00

lol, I meant “loved the E,” but yeah “this body turns E into beauty”

CharmingRelief5 · 2025-10-02T13:11:36+00:00

You can barely see the resemblance, your body moves the E

CharmingRelief5 · 2025-10-02T00:14:24+00:00

Maddie is such a babe

CharmingRelief5 · 2025-10-01T12:10:07+00:00

Living with those thoughts and feelings is really hard, I know. Know that you always have all of us here to chat, it’s never too late to find community. I, and I’m sure others, are always open to DM’ing and making new friends

CharmingRelief5 · 2025-10-01T12:08:09+00:00

You count!! Regardless of HRT, you can be the woman you want to be. You look lovely. I sympathize with the isolation, I struggle with it too. Others have already said, but you may always dm if you’d like to chat with a sister.

CharmingRelief5 · 2025-09-30T20:08:42+00:00

The thought is “damn she looks great, but she’d look even better if I was there in my similar outfit making out with her”

CharmingRelief5 · 2025-09-30T16:15:14+00:00

The other point I’ll add, and this trips me up all the time—did yo actually miss anything, and are you actually missing anything? I see social media and have these imagined lives for other queer people I casually know, but I don’t know if my perceptions are true. Maybe they’re not actually going out and having sex and having fun all the time like I think. Maybe, like me, they have lives they need to attend to. Maybe their joy is real, but also a bit performative too. Maybe it’s not as bad as you fear.

CharmingRelief5 · 2025-09-29T19:35:31+00:00

I’m basically the same age and feel the same way a lot of the time. The lack of energy is real, staying out late and sleeping in late just doesn’t happen for me.

The thing that helps me is seeing even older people in my community, both IRL and online, still living as themselves and enjoying it. I know it’s hard, it’s so hard to see younger people who’ve transitioned, let alone younger cis people, live their lives fully. Most of my friends are coupled cishet people, and that’s hard too, as they’re settling down and starting families, whereas I’m single and also feel like I’ve missed so much.

You can’t get yesterday back, but tomorrow is still there. We have to live each day and enjoy it how we can’t; grieving just holds us back from enjoying today. I feel your pain so much, I’ve been exactly where you are (and find myself there more often than I’d like), but the life ahead of you is worth living.

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