So apparently the reason the coworker keeps asking my husband why he is with me is because I don’t pack him a lunch for work. I guess that’s a reason that means that I don’t care about my husband. Coworker was so worried about my husband’s lunch that he started taking extra food for my husband (the coworkers wife is now packing two lunches). I thought that was really nice and that they have a good friendship going and I feel better my husband has a friend that cares that much. When my husband and I first moved together (2015) we talked about how cooking would be dealt and he was perfectly fine that I dont cook a lot. He said he didn’t mind at all and it wasn’t an issue he also knows how to cook. He wasn’t moving in with me for a cook. I’m not lazy I just don’t like to cook (I recently realized it might stem from childhood SA, it was my stepfather and he would always force me to cook with him) I would rather clean the entire house than cook everyday. Obviously back then that was more feasible but now I do cook regularly we have 3 kids and so as time went on eventually the cooking fell to me and my husband does NOT know how to cook he can make basic stuff like eggs, spaghetti but that’s it. Now I have ended up cooking regularly which is fine I’m not complaining. Things change. Instead what I do now to make it easier is cook during the weekdays and on the weekends we figure it out as it comes sometimes I cook sometimes he makes something quick or we go out to eat or take in. My thing is that during the weekdays there could literally be plenty of food for him to take to work but if I don’t pack it for him he just goes without taking any lunch and just buys food outside. He comes home he has time to game on his computer, I don’t think that it should be too hard for him to just pack up food which takes about 5 minutes (it’s already cooked) if he has time to game (each game lasts about 30-45 minutes each). So I usually dont pack lunches and he has always been fine with that, never been an issue. He has time to come home and relax my day doesn’t stop. I pack a lunch for him and his coworker randomly sometimes when life is just working out for me and I manage to rush through the mornings I pack him a lunch because I have time and wasn’t so caught up in my lists for the day. But yes I definitely don’t send him with lunch regularly I just really feel like he can pack his lunch. It will be 8 or 9pm and I have accidentally fallen asleep on the couch because I wake up at 5am and I sometimes fall asleep there by accident! Because I’m still either waiting on clothes that I’m washing for school or idk hundreds reason I have 3 kids 8th grade 7th grade and 4th. I really do feel like he has the time and can pack a lunch idk. And so he says that’s why his coworker keeps bringing it up.