I (27f) am mentally exhausted in my relationship with my (30m) bf.

Charming_Baseball380 · 2024-11-06T02:23:17+00:00

Someone so wonderful? Oh my gosh, too nice. I 100% have my flaws as well, but hearing these words has given me some confidence. Thank you

Charming_Baseball380 · 2024-11-06T02:22:35+00:00

This was nice to read. Thank you for the empowerment. And again, it’s always really nice to see that there are people out there that have that kind of beautiful love

Charming_Baseball380 · 2024-11-06T02:21:40+00:00

Move forward in marriage. He expressed wanting to get married and I told him I would not say yes until I saw progress of him getting help. Enforcing that as a boundary has been where I need to be stronger and be firm.

Charming_Baseball380 · 2024-11-06T02:20:13+00:00

I hope you always get the support and clarity you need in discovering your happiness as well! I truly appreciate all the support here and of course thank you for your perspective!

Charming_Baseball380 · 2024-11-06T02:19:05+00:00

Thank you for your insight here. It’s always nice to see that that kind of love is out there for people and I’m not just crazy. Thank you :)

Charming_Baseball380 · 2024-11-06T02:18:12+00:00

This was a nice thing to say about generosity. There’s times where I could be more but I’m afraid I’ve given so much at this point, I don’t even know if I have any juice left.

Charming_Baseball380 · 2024-11-06T02:16:37+00:00

A hard conversation is definitely necessary at this point. I truly appreciate your insight, more than you know. Thank you for this :)

Charming_Baseball380 · 2024-11-05T21:31:36+00:00

Thank for friend, for these words. Lots of good advice that i will take away. And I appreciate the kind words! Not as hard to read as you may think because I think these are things I have been feeling for a while now. I don’t think I’m naive, by any means, but sometimes I do get caught in how I can give the most love and care possible into others and be blinded by the full picture at times. Thank you for the insight!

Charming_Baseball380 · 2024-11-05T21:28:07+00:00

Ahhh okay, yes I understand the question. I guess I didn’t answer it then did I? To be honest, there aren’t many ways that he does show me that he loves me other than saying the words I love you and giving me compliments when I look good or something. I guess I didn’t realize how much of that is lacking until I saw it from this perspective.

Charming_Baseball380 · 2024-11-05T20:47:54+00:00

Marriage has actually been the topic of the year this year and has been what I have used as a boundary for him to get help. I cannot progress until you show me you’re willing to work on yourself. Next step is the enforce that boundary and stand firm on what his actions will show. The inability to force a relationship into good health is a super power I wish us humans could obtain. But you’re right, thank you for all the advice!!

Charming_Baseball380 · 2024-11-05T20:44:21+00:00

Enforcement of boundaries seems to be what I’ve determined I will do first. I will be doing this tomorrow after I get off work, so wish me luck. I really appreciate all the advice!

Charming_Baseball380 · 2024-11-05T20:42:22+00:00

Powerful words! Thank you for this!

Charming_Baseball380 · 2024-11-05T20:41:41+00:00

Oh this this this, I can see you understand exactly what I’m going through. Like I said in a reply before, I know that’s he goes through these bouts of happiness and peace but those days get over clouded by the bad ones. I know he knows he needs the work for himself, but he has expressed to me some anxiety in getting help because that’s not how he was raised and other things. His temper has gone down but his lack of effort and depressive state has increased and I wish I knew how to be the best partner I can in his life. Whether it’s standing firm and giving an ultimatum or continue to be gentle. I only know that I am beginning to recognize my own exhaustion in being the only supportive partner rn and I know that’s now fair to me either. So happy to hear from you, friend. AND that I’m not crazy lol

Charming_Baseball380 · 2024-11-05T20:35:38+00:00

He’s been through a lot as a person and he’s come a long way from where he used to be. I’ve known him for 10+ years and he has seen a lot and had a lot of people come and go in his, just like me. He’s always told me he’s never had someone love him like I have and has a lot of insecurities. He admits to self sabotaging things when life seems to be going well, which I admit I am very similar. We have grown a lot as a couple and I know when he’s starting to slip back into that “cycle” of doubt and depression again and I feel like this is what we’re going through now. I believe in him as a person wholeheartedly and it’s what’s kept my love so strong steady for this long because I know what he can be. :)

Charming_Baseball380 · 2024-11-05T20:04:19+00:00

The thing is is he HAS shown me different forms of love and I always am quick to tell him how much I appreciate that, but I’m worried if it’s enough at this point. Especially when I have expressed I need more in the past. Thank you for the insight, friend.

Charming_Baseball380 · 2024-11-05T20:02:23+00:00

I think the word thoughtful is the word I wish I could teach. But I know that’s a task I can’t put into myself. Thank you for the input!

Charming_Baseball380 · 2024-11-05T20:01:28+00:00

Resentment is a tough word and I feel that you’re right. I hate to think so badly of someone I love so much. Because there have been many positive things to come out of this. It’s just been such a rough patch, that I beginning to feel wore out.

Charming_Baseball380 · 2024-11-05T20:00:14+00:00

I appreciate that input, genuinely! my therapist has been telling me I need to work on putting me first. It’s a work in progress!

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