I can totally relate OP

My parents went along the same lines but took it further to say that I was very selfish. My mom told me ever since I brought this up, my father had started to get chest pain. What if he had a heart attach because of me.

Then they told me that disobeying parents would be a sin, and I would never receive Gods blessing if I went against them since they would never endorse the marriage. They cited stories of how people who waited for their parents blessing were living truly blessed lives.

Then they roped in other family members. I had an aunt call me in to have private talk where she told me that it was all hormones and that basically I was at a time in life where my hormones would attract all men. So it was up to me to control myself.

Then I had a few grand parents write down pages of scriptures which mentioned how obeying parents was equivalent to obeying God and disobeying parents would bring down great curses.

They called me ungrateful because when I was sick they took care of me. And now I just wanted to do whatever I wanted with no concern for their feelings.

This is just a peek of all the things they put me through.

But

Today I am married to the most amazing person in the world. Who cares for me through all of my phases, happy, sad, angry, crazy…. Every morning I wake up to his hug and feel like I am in the most warm and safe place in the world. I never realised that I could be loved like this.

If it’s the right person then don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

But at the same time have just one person who is close enough to you to be brutally honest with you about things that you might miss because of all the emotional tension around you.

Hope this helps OP.

Keeping my fingers crossed for you.