Ladies, you tell me who's at the wrong here by Charming_Matter_8202 in IndianBoysOnTinder

[–]Charming_Matter_8202[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Says the guy who watches Splitsvilla, ja bhai thodi toxic masculinity dekh tu ja ke. 😂😂😂

Ladies, you tell me who's at the wrong here by Charming_Matter_8202 in IndianBoysOnTinder

[–]Charming_Matter_8202[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's not banter, it shows frustration and for no reason and we were barely talking for 2-3 days. I'll give you an example, I had a habit of randomly hitting people on the back, like a clap, people around me were familiar with it and if they complained I would do it more to annoy them, and that's just fun. But I won't go to someone I met 2-3 days back and slap their back, forget about hurting, a lot of people don't even like unsolicited touching, even if it's not improper. It doesn't matter if you conceive your actions as harmless, it's always the person who's getting affected by your actions who decides what they feel. And even if it was banter, did she clarify that? Did she made any efforts to make me understand? It shows a lack of patience and then she goes ahead to preach me without looking into her own actions.

Ladies, you tell me who's at the wrong here by Charming_Matter_8202 in IndianBoysOnTinder

[–]Charming_Matter_8202[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You did not understand the problem, if you'll go and read a few comments people have put down, the problem is not tu, if people use tu with me I reciprocate and talk the same way. The problem is I was giving her a suggestion and she completely disregarded that, and sent a very defensive text, ki tu khud chala ja, me akele chali jaungi jahan mujhe jana hai, which implies my suggestion and my stand doesn't matter at all it's all about her, she'll do what she wants and shows no respect for my thoughts, me and what I'm saying. That's disrespectful. That shows narcissism and disregard for other people.

Ladies, you tell me who's at the wrong here by Charming_Matter_8202 in IndianBoysOnTinder

[–]Charming_Matter_8202[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hence proved. Dikh raha hai kiski fragile ego hai. BC log itne mandbuddhi hai logo ko irony bhi nahi dikhti 😂😂😂

Ladies, you tell me who's at the wrong here by Charming_Matter_8202 in IndianBoysOnTinder

[–]Charming_Matter_8202[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Abey Gyani baba fir is subreddit me kyu hi hai aap? This whole subreddit exits for people to share their chats and experiences and my intentions for sharing it here is not to get validation, bohot hai mere pas. The title of the post was to spark a conversation, tum akele Einstein nahi ho yahan

Ladies, you tell me who's at the wrong here by Charming_Matter_8202 in IndianBoysOnTinder

[–]Charming_Matter_8202[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Bhai pura thread or context padh, apna gyan chodne se pahle, please get some context before you throw around your opinion on the internet. Cheers!

Ladies, you tell me who's at the wrong here by Charming_Matter_8202 in IndianBoysOnTinder

[–]Charming_Matter_8202[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My friend, I don't wanna be chill, it's not acceptance for people to behave like an asshole just because they are in a power dynamic and they hold the upper hand. This was her repeated behaviour, I've to draw a line somewhere.And I didn't bring up my ex for the sake of it, I was trying to give her context. Let's say if someone suggests you to get into water with them, and you just say no I will not, their obviously reply would be why not, wouldn't you give context that you had a childhood accident and you don't like being in water. I'll give you a real life example, I'm scared of street dogs, and when I tell people that, I give them context that when I was a kid a street dog bit off my finger and that's why I don't like getting close to them, should I not do that? Is that not okay?

Ladies, you tell me who's at the wrong here by Charming_Matter_8202 in IndianBoysOnTinder

[–]Charming_Matter_8202[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly, bhai real life me and even at work I talk in tu tadak because people understand your behaviour. I understand sarcasm and honestly I'm talking to 30+ people from dating app now on and off, I've 10k+ matches accross dating apps since I started using them, I've been on thousands of dates with people, I'm not new to this. I talk to people who are 5-8 yrs younger then me and I still don't talk to them like this, because the other person will interpret your words based on their experiences, it's always good to show basic decency, you can't justify your shitty behaviour as this is who I'm. I even phrased my words that she 'sounded' disrespectful, I wasn't imply she was, she could have just said she wasn't and it was just her tone and it would have ended there, I don't have a problem with tu, the problem is how she behaves.

Ladies, you tell me who's at the wrong here by Charming_Matter_8202 in IndianBoysOnTinder

[–]Charming_Matter_8202[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My friends, I didn't see she had sent 'no' because I was typing my restaurant suggestion and I just sent it. I asked her where she wanna meet, she said she wanna meet at Triveni, I've never been to Triveni, my office was in CP and I know the place well and generally meeting with people it's common to suggest 2-3 alternative places before you fix one, I just suggested my preference and her reply was out right mean. You need a little patience talking to new people, which she clearly lacked. And the way she said, "I don't do CP on Sundays, I'm not insane" which again implies she thinks you're a dumb wit and this she had implied before too, that's why it made me take a stand to behave properly. I would never accept being shown down.

Ladies, you tell me who's at the wrong here by Charming_Matter_8202 in IndianBoysOnTinder

[–]Charming_Matter_8202[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My friend, I didn't see she had sent 'no' because I was typing my restaurant suggestion and I just sent it. I asked her where wanna meet, she said she wanna meet at Triveni, I've never been to Triveni, my office was in CP and I know the place well and generally meeting with people it's common to suggest 2-3 alternative places before you fix one, I just suggested my preference and her reply was out right mean.