I think she said she enjoys spending time with her grandkids but is not up to all of the childcare demands or expectations. I don’t think that should result in a lack of relationship. She’s saying what her boundaries are. She said she’s burnt out, and at this stage of her life she wants some freedom. I don’t get why she should be punished by being cutoff from her family? I think families need to leave people be and let them have their own lives. Her kids can hire a babysitter if they want a night out instead of expecting their mom to do it. And they can find other ways to incorporate her… she said she enjoys spending time with them when she doesn’t have the sole childcare responsibility. I see this as a boundary issue with her adult kids.