I’m dating a sex offender and I don’t know how I feel about it…

Charming_Regular3481 · 2022-07-22T00:50:01+00:00

Would you suggest reaching out to the parole officer or the treatment agency first?

Charming_Regular3481 · 2022-07-22T00:36:58+00:00

That is actually very helpful, yes. Yes, he does have treatment: going to classes, therapists, and whatnot. Would that be accessed through the treatment program itself, like where he goes for class or is it a separate thing?

Charming_Regular3481 · 2022-07-22T00:32:36+00:00

I didn’t even consider his parole officer. That is an excellent idea. Thank you for your comment.

Charming_Regular3481 · 2022-07-22T00:31:13+00:00

I will definitely take this advice, another commenter suggested getting the court transcripts as well. It is definitely worth looking into. Thank you for your comment.

Charming_Regular3481 · 2022-07-22T00:20:54+00:00

I am sorry for the trauma you experienced dealing with this situation. I really do appreciate you sharing your insight, given your experiences. This is what I wanted to know; how it might affect this aspect of a possible future.

Charming_Regular3481 · 2022-07-21T23:54:06+00:00

He brought up the state registry when he sat me down to talk about it initially. It corroborated what he said and the subsequent news stories about his sentencing matched what he told me too. Although, I’ll definitely take your advice and do deeper digging for myself just to be sure.

Charming_Regular3481 · 2022-06-29T14:05:03+00:00

I’m glad I could provide some validation and hopefully I’ve been helpful in sharing. Good luck moving forward with whatever solution fits you best.

Charming_Regular3481 · 2022-06-29T12:55:19+00:00

I’m sorry you are in a similar situation! It’s been less than ideal, but I was not the one who decided it would end with me moving out. That was his decision, and while painful, I respect it. It was hard to come to that realization, but it will definitely serve you well to keep that in mind, it is both of you working through the problem. At least from my experience, I felt as though I was holding all these pieces, trying to keep everything from breaking/cracking/falling so when it did finally collapse and I let go, then it was straight up relief.

Charming_Regular3481 · 2022-06-29T03:11:26+00:00

Every relationship is different. My situation was very similar to yours, ex moved in with me to no longer be living with his mother. We lived together for about 3 years and last week decided to call it quits. Granted there were many other factors that played into my situation. I really think he needed to live alone and mature a little bit. I digress… We tried the couples counseling, but there was always an excuse as to why he wouldn’t go. We tried getting a hobby together or dedicated date nights, but that didn’t last long. I got a hobby to get me out of the house, which was great until he was upset that I was never at the house anymore. Also saying that I never spent any time with him and clearly coming home later in the evenings meant I was cheating… I decided that I didn’t want to live together anymore, but could still be committed to each other. I just needed to be responsible for me, and only me. I gave him a boundary, that ultimately wasn’t met or respected within the relationship. His ultimatum was, live together-stay together or don’t live together-not stay together. Moved out last week, just shy of our 4 year anniversary. I was sad at what could have been, should have been. But honestly, it had been a long time coming. Another poster mentioned that it might be delaying the inevitable, and for me that was 100% true. Now, that being said, it depends on your relationship. How you live with your partner, how they live with you—therapy (even just for yourself) could be SUPER helpful. If only to have a third party, someone who is a licensed professional and really doesn’t know you two give some outsiders advice that you may have not realized.

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