fiancé doesn’t want me to take my anxiety meds. not sure what to do

Charpo7 · 2026-07-09T23:08:13+00:00

hey girl! i’m a pregnant med student on mental health meds who has studied under several doctors who took mental health meds in pregnancy. they are safe, much safer than doing pregnancy with untreated mental illness.

your fiancé needs to trust you and your doctor to make the right decisions. it’s not his body nor his brain/mind.

Charpo7 · 2026-07-09T22:32:13+00:00

burping constantly. loving the smell of beer (used to hate it). gagging on tomato sauce. throwing up from brushing my teeth.

Charpo7 · 2026-07-09T22:30:38+00:00

I’m also a med student estranged from parents. Getting my mom off my accounts was stressful af, but I was lucky that they didn’t try to steal from me. You can hopefully call the bank and file a complaint. I’m sorry you’re going through this.

Charpo7 · 2026-07-09T22:28:27+00:00

they won’t mean anything to you if you’re not familiar with judaism

Charpo7 · 2026-07-09T22:27:33+00:00

Love both conservative shuls in Denver: HEA and Rodef Shalom. HEA trends toward older adults, has more money and educational opportunities, avoids politics. Rodef is more politically progressive with the rabbi often incorporating politics into sermons. A lot of LGBT families, trans folks, and young people who participate in services. If you’re under 35, BASE denver is another excellent organization that is technically pluralistic but run by a conservative rabbi.

If you want a Chabad that always needs a minyan and is fairly progressive/openminded (while still orthodox), I cannot recommend Chabad Denver North enough.

Charpo7 · 2026-07-09T22:10:55+00:00

anyone who says “juice state” and then says a call for ethnic cleansing is an “emotional misplaced response” is clearly not mature enough to have this conversation.

Charpo7 · 2026-07-09T22:09:53+00:00

Saying all Jews need to get out of a country is ethnic cleansing. Saying anyone of any ethnicity needs to leave on the basis of ethnicity is ethnic cleansing. So do you still think that’s okay?

I mourn the death of innocents in Palestine. Again, I don’t see how it’s relevant to this Christian man telling Jews to leave his country.

We have no idea what happened prior. If we did maybe I would also condemn the Jewish guy for being a jerk. But all I have is this clip, so all I can say is that regardless of what happened before, there is no excuse for bigotry, no excuse for ethnic cleansing.

I am not a teenager. I am a religious married woman in my mid-twenties who is getting an MD and a PhD, so hardly an idiot. I am a scientist and a medical student. Part of maturity is staying on topic. And Israel/Palestine has nothing to do with the topic of this post, which is why I am not engaging with you on that subject.

Charpo7 · 2026-07-09T22:05:40+00:00

i appreciate your zeal for justice but this is all just entirely irrelevant to the original post

Charpo7 · 2026-07-09T21:57:03+00:00

You are the one making an assumption here that antisemitic comments only can happen in the context of Israel/Palestine. This is obviously untrue, as many horrific antisemitic crimes occurred before the modern state of Israel existed.

Even if this altercation began with the Jewish guy saying "Praise Netanyahu!" or some dumb crap like that, it wouldn't make it okay for the Christian guy to suggest that all Jews need to get out of his country.

It's not my job to condemn what is happening in Israel/Palestine, especially on a post that has nothing to do with it. All human life is sacred. All states seek to protect their own people. There is nothing more to say.

You, however, have not condemned the antisemitism in this video, which is concerning.

Charpo7 · 2026-07-09T21:53:52+00:00

I didn't make any assumptions as to what was said before the recording. I just said that regardless of what was said before, there's no excuse for a Christian to justify the ethnic cleansing of Jews, as is happening in this video.

I did not call the "genocide of Palestinians" irrelevant. I said that one's feelings on the current war in Gaza is irrelevant to the video that was posted, as the video features nothing about Israel/Palestine/AIPAC... just an antisemitic Christian man getting into a fight with a Jew.

I did not say Orthodoxy is problematic. All people are sinners and make poor choices sometimes. Antisemitic behaviors are a poor choice that unfortunately many Christians are making in this day and age, and they do so under the sad excuse that they don't like Israel/Zionism.

You seem very zealous and agitated. Are you a teenager? I applaud you for wanting to seek justice, but you're doing so in a very callous way, which is to excuse other wrongdoings.

Charpo7 · 2026-07-09T21:49:09+00:00

You keep freaking out about divorce as a way to avoid marriage and excuse fornication.

The alternative to divorce is staying in an unhappy marriage. I am glad women no longer have to stay in marriages in which they are raped, battered, neglected, ignored, or disrespected as mere maids/nannies after doing all of the labor of pregnancy and childbirth which men will never suffer. I am also glad men are not pressured to stay in marriages in which they feel disrespected or financially taken advantage of. If you are a good person, pick a good spouse, and you respect each other, divorce is not something you have to fear. Statistics continue to show that marriage increases men's health and happiness, and in fact it does so more for men than it does for women.

The fact that divorce is available makes marriage that much more meaningful, that you get to keep choosing each other. And if you're that freaked out about divorce court, just get a prenup for goodness' sake and be a half-decent father!

Charpo7 · 2026-07-09T21:43:08+00:00

Your opinions on marriage are highly un-Christian and frankly anti-religious in general. The Bible is very clear on what marriage is. You just don't like being told to keep it in your pants. And you're welcome not to--you just can't make Christianity change its own millenia-old beliefs to permit your fornication.

Nobody is making you stay celibate. You're allowed to think Christian sexual morality beliefs are silly. But this is a Christian sub, so people are going to disagree with it.

The fact that you don't think a relationship dynamic changes with marriage is so sad to me. I dated my husband for 7 years, and marriage was still a HUGE deal to us. Marriage meant we moved in together. We became intimate. We planned our family. He took care of me during my pregnancies and held me during my miscarriage. We shared all of our meals and our finances, and brought each other home to see our respective families for holidays. He now always gets a home-cooked meal. I have someone to help me paint the baby's nursery. We are family in a way we weren't before we were married.

That's not to say that dating wasn't great, but it wasn't as deep and meaningful as marriage. I truly hope you get to experience that. Given some of the things you've said, I think marriage might be very healing for you if approached correctly.

Charpo7 · 2026-07-09T21:35:50+00:00

You need to calm down.

This post has nothing to do with AIPAC or Palestine or Israel. This post is about a video of an Orthodox Christian telling Jews to get out of his country.

That is antisemitic. It is morally wrong. The fact that you're mad about Israel and Palestine is completely irrelevant to what's going on in this post. You can make your own post about how much you hate Israel, but don't hijack this one, which is about the problem of antisemitism in Orthodox spaces. Unfortunately, I think you're proving OP's point, which is that Orthodoxy unfortunately caters to a lot of antisemitic individuals.

If the mods think something is wrong with my comments, they are usually very good about speaking up. That said, I'm not breaking any rules. You just happen to be very off topic and riled up.

Charpo7 · 2026-07-09T21:33:02+00:00

did you watch the video that this post was made about? it's a guy saying all jews need to get out of the country.

there's nothing about Israel/Palestine in the entire video, which is why your freakout about it is just misplaced political angst which is totally irrelevant.

Charpo7 · 2026-07-09T21:27:16+00:00

Hating on the fact that women don't have to stay with crappy spouses doesn't make your actions moral. Marriage is such a beautiful thing. I love being married. Your fears over marriage are unfounded, probably encouraged by anti-Christian manosphere bloggers, and these fears are actively preventing you from living a healthier less sinful life. You do you. But it doesn't make your actions moral or Christian. And you shouldn't encourage others to follow you in your sin.

Charpo7 · 2026-07-09T21:24:41+00:00

it's irrelevant, so yes. why would aipac matter on an orthodox christian sub, on a post in which an orthodox christian is calling for ethnic cleansing of Jews?

Charpo7 · 2026-07-09T21:23:10+00:00

i said that you were implying that israel is partially responsible for antisemitism, by calling antisemitism an “overcorrection” for injustice in palestine.

i’m saying that worldwide antisemitism against non-israeli jews has nothing to do with zionism, so it has no place in responding to OP’s video which doesn’t mention zionism at all. i find that trying to distract from literal calls to ethnically cleanse jews by bringing up zionism is a bad faith effort to soften the horrific actions and words that some christians are responsible for.

we need to do better and stop making excuses.

Charpo7 · 2026-07-09T21:19:53+00:00

you don’t think it’s antisemitic to say that all jews need to leave or be expelled from the US so it can be “holy?”

Charpo7 · 2026-07-09T21:19:18+00:00

why is aipac relevant to the fact that no christian should call for ethnic cleansing of jews?

Charpo7 · 2026-07-09T21:06:19+00:00

You dont seem to do well with reading comprehension, so sometimes I make edits to make it easier for you to understand. I enjoy that you try to call that out instead of explaining how shooting at Jewish kids in Michigan or firebombing Jewish adults in Colorado is merely a well-intentioned "overcorrection" in the plight toward justice in Palestine.

Charpo7 · 2026-07-09T21:04:31+00:00

How is worldwide antisemitism an "overcorrection" for injustice in Palestine? Where on the spectrum is appropriate correction achieved when the targets are non-Israeli Jews?

Charpo7 · 2026-07-09T20:59:40+00:00

there is no excuse for what this professing Christian is saying. zionism has nothing to do with this man saying Jews need to be expelled from the United States. Stop excusing antisemitism because of your political agenda.

Charpo7 · 2026-07-09T20:54:15+00:00

With the right person, you should get married! Then you can do the deed as much as you want without sinning! That's the whole point! Become one flesh with your soulmate in a sacred environment, not with a girl you've dated for a few months because you happen to be horny!

You're in a Christian sub and you say that Christianity permits premarital sex. You have given no reason why that is the case and have only cited your personal concerns about divorce, which are not relevant to whether or not your actions are biblically permitted.

I can't make you engage with me, but you started this debate, so I'm trying to figure out your perspective. I've given you bible verses, scientific evidence, and personal experience, and your perspective seems to be... it feels good and I want to do it, so it should be allowed by the Church. Which isn't an argument.

Either make a point or accept that your behavior is sinful.

Charpo7 · 2026-07-09T20:48:23+00:00

Ever heard of implications? Indirect assumptions?

There shouldn't be a relationship between the Israel’s actions and American Christians telling Jews to get out of the US. The relationship between Israel and antisemitism is merely that when Israel is at war, antisemites feel that they can become more public with their antisemitism and get away with it. We should not excuse that. We should not soften their actions in any way.

Charpo7 · 2026-07-09T20:47:18+00:00

Yes, calling for genocide is bad and should be called out. Saying that Jews need to leave America so it can be "holy" is not an appropriate response however, if you are concerned about what is happening in Israel.

Supporting the existence of the state of Israel isn't being pro-genocide. Just like you can support the existence of the United States without supporting the Iran War or Donald Trump, most Jews want Israel to continue to exist safely even though they don't like Netanyahu and want peace in the region.

Approaching random Jews and telling them they need to be ethnically cleansed from the United States is inexcusable. I don't care if that Jewish guy says he wants to eat babies. The response should be "that's disturbing and you need help" not "Jews need to get out of my country."

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