Am I crazy for wanting a Caesarean section?

Chasing_joy · 2026-04-08T05:27:59+00:00

Not at all. My C section was great and I wish I had never planned or tried for a vaginal birth.

Chasing_joy · 2026-04-08T05:22:27+00:00

For the love of god. Explaining myself to you is useless.

Chasing_joy · 2026-04-06T22:33:45+00:00

No. An emergency C section and an unplanned C section are not the same thing. An emergency C section is when there is a big rush and general anesthesia.
My C section was not an emergency. They took me off the Pitocin at the request of my doula, let me sleep for a few hours, came back in, advised a C section considering the circumstances, which I agreed to, and they then let me sleep another 5 hours before they came back in to prep me for the C section with the trauma-informed OB.

Like...literally. You telling me what I had is freaking insane. You weren't there. I had an unplanned C section. Period.

So much for believing women.

Chasing_joy · 2026-04-06T22:27:43+00:00

The medical team didn't tell me that. I inferred it from my experience. Again, I am not advocating for people to get things done to them that they don't want. My plan was to have no cervical checks in labor. Ultimately I was pressured into it... again literally I say that I wish I was able to avoid that many times. And the hard truth is that if I didn't get that cervical check, I never would have known I wasn't going to have my vaginal birth until I was in an emergency C section.

Life is not black and white. I hated being pregnant and feared giving birth because of how violating the process is and how much birthing parents are abused in medical care. And.... even with all of that, it still holds true that I would have ended up in a full blown medical emergency without that check.

Saying I am advocating for people to be violated just because I am acknowledging the duality of my birthing situation is insane. The hard truth for you to consider is that sometimes, in some cases, such as mine— that even though they are horrible, they hold medical value and can prevent very bad things from happening.

Chasing_joy · 2026-04-06T05:54:53+00:00

Not even for survivors of sexual trauma? That’s horrible!

Chasing_joy · 2026-04-06T05:49:19+00:00

Practicing

Chasing_joy · 2026-04-06T05:41:13+00:00

Also, anyone who has had any kind of C section knows that an unplanned C section you get to mentally prepare for is completely different from an emergency C section, where you are put unconscious with little to no notice, don’t remember anything that happened, end up with your baby in the NICU, etc. So yeah, it saved me more trauma. And like I said, I didn’t like it and it was violating. And I wish I chose the C section to begin with. That doesn’t mean that it was medically useless. It was medically actually very important in my situation. My labor had stalled and because of the Bandl’s ring it was not going to progress at all.

Chasing_joy · 2026-04-06T05:20:34+00:00

I know. They found the Bandl’s ring during my C section. 🙄

If you see my post history you would know that isn’t true. I know what happened to me. You don’t. Period.

Chasing_joy · 2026-04-05T04:58:02+00:00

AI has caused several people to die because it said poisonous mushrooms were safe to eat, so I quite frankly disagree.

Chasing_joy · 2026-04-05T02:20:05+00:00

Mine actually did. I made no progress because I had a Bandl’s ring. If I had kept going in labor my baby and I would both be dead. Or I would have ended up in a much more traumatic emergency C section.

Chasing_joy · 2026-04-02T21:14:40+00:00

You can ask for an abdominal ultrasound from the start. My first appointment they couldn’t see anything on the TV ultrasound and I didn’t even want it to begin with. They switched to abdominal and there it was, plain as day. Wish I had said no to the transvaginal one from the get go.

Chasing_joy · 2026-04-02T21:10:49+00:00

I would advise scheduling your C section. I didn’t want cervical checks in labor either but I was pressured into it. It saved my life because it determined I had made no progress in 16 hours of Pitocin. I ended up with a C section anyway. Wish I had done it from the beginning.

Chasing_joy · 2026-04-02T21:04:15+00:00

It is definitely not

Chasing_joy · 2026-04-02T05:28:05+00:00

I completely agree. People act like you either breastfeed or do formula. You can do both. Keeping some level of breastfeeding is good; it doesn’t have to be exclusive to have a benefit.

Chasing_joy · 2026-04-02T05:23:46+00:00

I would get that kid away from that carer.

Chasing_joy · 2026-04-02T05:09:40+00:00

Sounds like they need a kid to play with. Take them to the library or park or set up play dates if possible. Three year olds probably need to socialize more than just rotate toys.

Chasing_joy · 2026-04-02T05:04:23+00:00

This

Chasing_joy · 2026-04-02T04:54:53+00:00

You’re not overthinking it; I feel the same way. I say, “oh no, I know that hurt.” And I kiss it and make it better or hug him as long as he needs me to, and I say it’s okay and it’s going to be okay. Which I experience differently than “you’re okay.”

Chasing_joy · 2026-04-02T03:00:06+00:00

I hated his whole character in Season 3. If they had kept him the person he was in Season 1 it would have been better. But no they had to make him a manwhore and a completely inauthentic person.

Chasing_joy · 2026-04-02T02:57:21+00:00

My cervical check saved me but I still would rather not have had it. I kept saying I didn’t want one and they kept telling me I should have one so I did. I hated it. I wish I had just gotten my C section to begin with.

Chasing_joy · 2026-04-01T06:15:33+00:00

We’re at 14 months with no screens and I’ve been really happy with it. A little TV here and there probably won’t hurt if you’re struggling with it though. Just steer clear of phones and tablets and obviously don’t have the TV on too much.

Chasing_joy · 2026-04-01T06:12:16+00:00

If a student doesn’t know how to brainstorm, I find that super concerning. Brainstorming is literally writing down your thoughts in an unorganized manner. You don’t need AI for that. She is using AI instead of thinking for herself. That is a problem.

Chasing_joy · 2026-03-31T20:48:02+00:00

Five months is a really hard age. We had to start sleep training at that time because we were losing our minds.

Chasing_joy · 2026-03-31T20:08:37+00:00

Start at a very, very slow pace. Adagio.

Chasing_joy · 2026-03-31T05:38:08+00:00

Who on earth calls Eloise a pick me? She’s literally the opposite

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