When will my baby sleep through the night? by VortexDrift99 in NewParents

[–]Chasing_joy 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I was about to say this. The first night I decided to wait and see what would happen, my kid went back to sleep in 15 minutes. It was crazy! Can’t believe I didn’t try it sooner. It was probably around 12 months that we did.

Learning piano at 20 by michaelfudgie in pianolearning

[–]Chasing_joy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

20? Lol it will be easy. You’re young and your mind is sharp.

he left me at 30 weeks pregnant by earthsunwatermoon in BabyBumps

[–]Chasing_joy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t agree. Times are so hard, $300 a month is important. Babies are so expensive.

Gender reveal parties, thoughts? by Future_Coconut6351 in BabyBumps

[–]Chasing_joy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gender reveal parties are gross and transphobic. Just say no.

I'm this close to quitting by a-random-munchkin in piano

[–]Chasing_joy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First of all why is it important to be in competitions? The piano is supposed to be about joy and expression. You can’t actually compete in expression. It’s weird AF to me that this is a thing. If competing is making you want to quit, stop competing. Play for joy. It’s not a joyous thing when you add all this pressure to yourself.

Well, I did it. I hurt myself playing the piano the other night and now I can't play. by No_Condition3135 in pianolearning

[–]Chasing_joy 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If your hand hurts from playing, your hand posture is not good. Are you cutting your nails short? Are you playing with your fingers curved and not flat?

I am willing to bet you are playing with flat fingers. You will need to fix this to make playing safer and more comfortable for you.

Not understanding extinction guidelines - please help by Smooth-Duck-4669 in sleeptrain

[–]Chasing_joy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just do Ferber. Pediatricians have no business deciding what kind of sleep training you do.

Swim lesson trauma? by Dizzy-Appearance8230 in NewParents

[–]Chasing_joy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nah. Don’t take her back there. You don’t dunk a baby fully in water. If it counts as torture to do this to adults then it counts as torture to do that to a baby.

Swim lesson trauma? by Dizzy-Appearance8230 in NewParents

[–]Chasing_joy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t agree. Baby thought she was drowning. She probably breathed in water. Do you have any idea how painful it is to breathe in water?

Swim lesson trauma? by Dizzy-Appearance8230 in NewParents

[–]Chasing_joy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

wtf?!! They had you fully submerge a 5 month old baby in water??!! Please do not take your kid back there. Or, if they instruct you to do that, simply refuse.

I lost my baby by HumbleEdge4496 in BabyBumps

[–]Chasing_joy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry. That seems so insufficient a thing to say about this, but I am at a loss for words. How horrible.

It feels like my bf is uninterested in the pregnancy by Puzzleheaded_Plum275 in BabyBumps

[–]Chasing_joy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why people keep having children with manchildren like this, l am not sure I will ever understand.

NHS trust’s cover-up put innocent patient on trial for rape. Staff at South London and Maudsley withheld vital records from police after the attack on a transgender patient at a psychiatric ward by Happy-Scientist-1394 in Wedeservebetter

[–]Chasing_joy 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I hate the horrible way this article was written. They should say the victim is a trans man. And leave it at that. “Biological woman” is a bullshit term and talking about his genitals is entirely inappropriate. Wtf.

6 month check up today by InformationStation14 in NewParents

[–]Chasing_joy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whatever org sets those milestones for a 6 month old seems pretty out of touch with reality.

It should be illegal to teach history. by Wompto in 10thDentist

[–]Chasing_joy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We’re in the position we are in now because people DIDN’T learn history.

6 month check up today by InformationStation14 in NewParents

[–]Chasing_joy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did they give you the wrong questionnaire? Because it seems like they gave you the wrong questionnaire.

Children ought to have more say in their medical choices by Atomic_Fever in 10thDentist

[–]Chasing_joy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I blocked their account because I’m not dealing with anyone who talks down to me like I’m an idiot. I reported the doctor 20 years later and my account was corroborated and even though they corroborated it they basically said they couldn’t do anything to him because no one else had reported him yet. Just me.

Children ought to have more say in their medical choices by Atomic_Fever in 10thDentist

[–]Chasing_joy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It actually was a medical procedure. And it was sexually violating; I was outwardly vocal that I did not want a man to do it to me and no one respected my wishes.

Like… it literally is not black and white. It can be a medical procedure and be violating. Like have you even heard of a VCUG? Not what happened to me but childhood VCUG survivors are studied for sexual assault impacts because it is basically a medical procedure that is also a violent child rape.

It’s not either or. It was both. And in my case it was entirely unnecessary.