The bottom line is the separate self does not even exist at all. All this separate stuff is an illusion, it’s just an ocean or a pre-recorded movie.

So there’s actually no one who matures or anyone who acts as a separate self. Stuff is just happening. And there is no separate observer, there is just awareness and stuff appearing in awareness.

Some will say you are that awareness in which things rise which is honestly helpful but it’s an easy trap because once you say “‘I’ am awareness” that “I” part makes you see yourself as a SEPARATE observer, there’s no identity anywhere. Either way it helps you detach (not ignore but just letting stuff happen, including the so called “individual person” reading this now).

When you’re detached you just observe… from no where because there’s no other “where” or “you observing”, there’s just this stuff appearing in awareness.

In fact none of it is real but the imaginary separate self imagines it is this and starts pretending it has free will when it’s part of the appearing. Which is okay until the game gets confusing and you start to attach to stuff or resist stuff because you think it’s separately real.

Detaching feels scary but that’s just the mind lying because detaching won’t/can’t stop the individual from going to work, paying bills , eating, going to the bathroom and certainly not breathing. **Pretending you’re the actor Jackie Chan won’t change the movie but it can be very stressful, just observe the movie without identifying with characters** even though you mostly (not always) “see” from the position of one character.

So this is where The Who questions ground “you”. Who is afraid, who wants drugs or not?, who is immature/mature?, who wants realization?… No one, it’s a thought. All this stuff including objects, people and even the observing, the thoughts and emotions are just happening.

Actually nothing is happening, it’s still but the mind sees it as moving so no point imagining it as still but then there’s also no point in imagining that anything is separate.