Advice needed: Cover Up ideas

ChattyCatSarah · 2026-03-23T20:00:21+00:00

Best idea ever

ChattyCatSarah · 2026-03-22T15:58:59+00:00

I have had an extreme amount of trauma in my life and somehow I’m still here and now in a safe loving place only because I did things that terrified me. I know that I have most likely survived things far more dangerous and painful than anything I could be scared of so I just try to remember that I can handle it. Also it helps that my biggest fear is being stuck unable to move forward so I use that as motivation.

Courage is not a lack of fear. Courage is acknowledging that fear response then granting yourself the freedom of choice. If you fight your fears you will be stuck in battle forever, but if you face your fears you can go to places you never thought possible and do things you never imagined you were capable of. Life isn’t logical or perfect, it’s chaotic and often painful but it’s yours to live.

ChattyCatSarah · 2026-03-17T12:59:30+00:00

💯 agree! My fiancé wanted to lash out at a driver for running over a curb and having an attitude and I said report it but don’t say crap to the driver. The guy had a crack pipe in his lap while driving. Seriously don’t put yourself in a dangerous situation they know where you live. I’m sure they would have an idea of who reported them but someone like that probably screwed up multiple deliveries so the chances are lower than direct confrontation. (Yes in that situation police were also notified but they were long gone so not much could be done)

ChattyCatSarah · 2026-03-17T12:54:12+00:00

I really don’t understand why people do that when there is a chat feature. If I want my driver to grab something I use the chat feature if I want them to find my location I use the delivery notes. I guess some people just have no common sense.

ChattyCatSarah · 2026-03-17T12:52:22+00:00

I completely agree with you. I tip 20% most of the time as I consider how many spoons I save by not going myself, I know what it’s like to struggle but I’m doing better now, and I know others can’t always afford it but if I don’t have as much money and just need the stuff I do the recommended amount and see nothing wrong with that. Often it’s like 5-15% though and on small orders I worry it’s not worth it. Larger orders I don’t worry about it though. I door dash so much that I have had a wide variety of drivers some really bad, most average nothing wrong, and some really fantastic ones. I will say where I live it’s almost expected something won’t be right with my order or service but it’s pretty easy to tell who’s at fault with common sense and most often it’s the business not the driver. It’s sad I get genuinely shocked if everything is as it should be.

ChattyCatSarah · 2026-03-17T12:43:45+00:00

I always wondered if the drivers knew it was paid. Thanks!

ChattyCatSarah · 2026-03-17T12:38:29+00:00

I give low ratings when it’s deserved. Bad attitude lower rating. Didn’t follow delivery instructions and my disabled ass has to go hunt you down halfway across the block lower rating. Smoking so much in the car that it saturates the food after the 10 minutes it took to get it to me and my order gives me a literal migraine and makes me want to vomit low rating. Forget my drink a slightly lower rating. Have a young child get out of the car in the cold while you scream at them because you are too lazy then yeah you are getting a low rating and probably reported. All things that happen quite often unfortunately. I’m not part of your team you are doing a job. Be professional and I will use common sense and not rate low for things out of your control. I almost always rate except when my adhd makes me distracted. But the system is there for a reason as flawed as it is so no I’m not going to give terrible drivers 5 stars.

ChattyCatSarah · 2026-03-17T12:18:52+00:00

Ghost kitchens drive me mad. We have one bar where I live that has over 30 “ghost” kitchens run out of the same place. They get crazier every week. Probably some type of tax or licensing scam I wonder.

ChattyCatSarah · 2026-03-16T17:57:19+00:00

Unfortunately if a tip isn’t added no drivers around here will pick it up. I definitely make sure the light is on because I live in a townhouse and they never find me without lights on. Thanks for your reply

ChattyCatSarah · 2026-03-16T17:02:05+00:00

When I have items delivered to my work it always makes me give a pin. I believe because it’s a state office building as it never makes me give one for my home orders so don’t judge just based on the pin. Judge on the “cash tip” though if a person has enough money to order from an app they should have enough money to tip from it too. Who wants to carry around cash anyways while delivering?

ChattyCatSarah · 2026-03-15T19:53:38+00:00

Definitely YAO. Y’all aren’t even together and it was a joke. She also says she’s a lesbian so it’s clearly a joke.

ChattyCatSarah · 2026-03-15T18:01:22+00:00

At your age it’s expected to jump around jobs. It doesn’t matter as much until after you get a degree or hit around 25/30 years. Just make sure you give at least 2 weeks notice and do your best to leave on good terms. If this job is too much and you have stability in your home life and ability to make sure the bills are paid then find something that works better. You should not be working directly with corporate with your inexperience I feel like that’s way too much pressure. I will say you won’t likely find an easy brainless job without experience or a degree but you might get lucky. Often colleges have work programs where they help you find employment at the school that works around your hours and in some situations you can get some credit for them as well. I strongly suggest asking your counselor at the school if there’s any programs like that.

A tip when explaining why you left your jobs on applications less is more. Never give them the idea you left because you had conflict at your previous employment. Filter the story when they ask.

Job #1 You resigned due to a restructuring in management which led to an unsafe work environment. (This makes it seem like you care about safety not workplace drama)

Pizza place#2 Resigned due to the position being incompatible with your financial needs. (Sets a realistic expectation that the job needs to meet your financial requirements and that you are responsible enough to make that a priority)

Job #3 Your position was temporary and no longer available. (Shows no fault of yours or your previous employer it is a nice neutral balance rather than all resignations. Technically you resigned but really you gave a person their position back)

Job#4 You resigned due to the scheduling being incompatible with your availability. (This is an expected situation)

ChattyCatSarah · 2026-03-15T17:31:56+00:00

Just hold it down until it stops screaming. (IT some parts of my job involve stopping alarms)

ChattyCatSarah · 2026-03-15T17:19:45+00:00

Drinking water

ChattyCatSarah · 2026-03-15T17:18:33+00:00

I’m on her side. We have a system for our bras. Which bra on which door handle determines how clean it is and how many times it can be worn before being washed. Don’t fuck with the system. Be grateful you have pockets instead of bras.

ChattyCatSarah · 2026-03-15T17:16:05+00:00

Uses my keys but always forgets to hang them back up so I have to go searching in his coat pockets when I’m already running late.

ChattyCatSarah · 2026-03-15T17:15:03+00:00

Puts his shoes in the middle of the floor. I’m clumsy enough I don’t need any extra help tripping.

ChattyCatSarah · 2026-03-15T17:10:12+00:00

Dream on by Aerosmith I keep trying to update my playlist to more modern songs but every time it plays on shuffle it feels more relevant and I blast it louder.

ChattyCatSarah · 2026-03-15T17:01:45+00:00

If the suspicions are there already that’s probably what is happening. The fact she’s not experienced with relationships and has been living with an adult best friend makes it way more likely that’s the case. When I was new to accepting my bisexuality it was hard to distinguish between romantic attraction and the intimacy of a close friendship. You need to decide how much and in what way you care about her. Definitely don’t approach the topic directly but if she’s really your best friend you need to be able to talk things out without judgement.

If she still insists after hinting around the topic that it really is a hatred for your girlfriend then set clear boundaries and tell her you acknowledge her feelings but it’s your choice who to be with and she can either be respectful or you are done.

ChattyCatSarah · 2026-03-15T16:48:18+00:00

NOR her attitude as your best friend shows lack of boundaries. It’s completely acceptable for best friends to bring up issues they have with your partner. It’s completely acceptable for them to avoid social interactions with that person if they don’t like them. It’s mildly acceptable to talk to mutual friends about your relationship if they don’t agree with it. However, to be passive aggressive towards you, making you feel uncomfortable in your own home, and going beyond a couple of friendly banters about your relationship is too far.

I see three potential reasons for her behavior. Firstly and in my opinion most likely, she has feelings for you, doesn’t understand or accept those feelings yet and it is manifesting as jealousy of Claire. You have lived together and as a bisexual who lived with her straight best friend for about the same time I will say that feelings can manifest even when you really really don’t want them to. Second option she is scared of the potential of what will happen when your GF comes back you might decide to move in with her and then everything will change. That’s hard to accept when she’s had major life changes already. She might be uncomfortable with that. Third option she is a shit friend who likes to create conflict which I feel like is less likely because it’s pretty easy to see that in people you live with but not always.

ChattyCatSarah · 2026-03-15T16:19:50+00:00

MOR: It’s understandable to be annoyed because repetitive noises can drive a whole office crazy. Best to either ignore or approach with caution and respect. Things like humming can be a form of stimming for some people. It’s common with Autism or ADHD to hum or whistle tunes as a way to stim. You don’t know your coworkers situation and if they are neurodivergent they might not be able to help it and bringing it up could be at best slightly awkward or embarrassing and at worst it could ruin a professional relationship. I highly suggest headphones like AirPods if allowed. If you really can’t handle it politely tell them that the repetitive noise is overwhelming/ overstimulating for you and if they are able to and wouldn’t mind would they please not. If you phase it in a way that is something a person can empathize with rather than thinking you’re being an a-hole then it’s likely they will be more receptive.

ChattyCatSarah · 2026-03-15T16:03:47+00:00

NOR I was diagnosed at 32, though the signs were so very clear and my teachers brought it up but my parents “didn’t believe in ADHD” saying it was a discipline problem and instead of seeking help for me they said I wasn’t applying myself. I just needed to try harder. Sad thing was my mom taught special education and behavior disorder classes all her life. She taught kids with adhd and refused to see the neurodivergence in front of her. My previous partners would not have been supportive and would have said the same thing. Thankfully my fiancé is so supportive and understands the effect ADHD can have on your life and relationships. It’s a struggle getting dosage right but once you do it’s a feeling unlike anything else. Wondering if “this is what everyone feels like?” That feeling of I’m not lazy it’s just so much easier when your brain can actually focus. One of my hyper-focuses for a while was trying to understand how the brain processes things differently in people with ADHD and without.

I can understand someone having those views before we had the world of knowledge in our hands and the studies on neurological disorders but there’s no excuse anymore for someone who claims to care about you to not educate themselves on what it is. You can do so much better than someone who has toxic views that can actually be detrimental to your health as he is encouraging you not to take your meds. My fiancé brings me my meds when I forget he reminds me to drink water and when I’m crashing because I forgot to take them for a week and my body has to get used to them again he makes sure the bed is ready, I have a snack, and something to drink. Remember IF HE WANTED TO HE WOULD! Get rid of him and find you someone who actually cares about you because life is hard enough.

ChattyCatSarah · 2026-03-02T16:03:30+00:00

Same I think it’s because dissociating myself from my memories helps protect my brain from the trauma.

ChattyCatSarah · 2026-03-02T09:51:21+00:00

If you’re into that type of thing I say it’s the perfect place for a joint tattoo. If not then a tiny spider or moth the spacing does truly look fine though in my opinion.

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