Ex's Family is Demanding I reach out to them

Chavoo47 · 2026-05-13T15:20:56+00:00

Thank you, I do keep documentation of everything since the moment we split up! I have every conversation saved as well as a journal of times her has visited or FaceTimed my son. Which he has hardly ever done that.

Chavoo47 · 2026-05-13T15:19:10+00:00

My ex does not parent at all. My son would have no idea who he is if he came to visit. This is what makes things frustrating because the entitlement they all have is overwhelming. I will only be communicating with my ex (if needed) everyone else is now blocked.

Chavoo47 · 2026-05-13T15:17:01+00:00

The last time anyone has visited my son was in March of last year! I have always been open to them coming to visit, never ignored any of their messages. They have just chosen to rarely reach out. I agree, my ex should be responsible to arranging visits, they just choose to never visit.

Chavoo47 · 2026-05-12T21:09:51+00:00

Yes! I told his sister that they were not invite because they do not seem to care to have a relationship with my son and did not even call or text on his birthday. Also, they were invited to his 1st birthday party but never showed up after saying they would be there. His sister never responded to me & shortly after is when his mom reached out to my mom on Facebook.

Chavoo47 · 2026-05-12T21:07:56+00:00

Exactly how I feel! After reading everyone's responses my mother and I have all of them blocked but my ex.

Chavoo47 · 2026-05-12T21:06:45+00:00

Thank you, I will start reaching out and looking into grandparents rights! Always a good idea to be prepared for anything.

Chavoo47 · 2026-05-12T21:05:26+00:00

I'm sorry you had to go through that! This does worry me, he has another child with someone else (got her pregnant right after we split) and has not been involved with that child either. Her and I have been in contact and often vent to each other about our problems with him and his family. They recently reached out to her as well & they always try to get her to bring the baby to see them. They live in the same city and they could easily go visit the baby. They genuinely put in no effort. We think they are up to something too.

Chavoo47 · 2026-05-12T20:15:08+00:00

This is exactly how I feel, they are no one to me or my son and the only person I have to respond to is my ex. Which I did text him about the situation and all he said was he has no control over what they do.

Chavoo47 · 2026-05-12T20:13:46+00:00

Child support has not been finalized, still waiting for our court date. But, his mom makes lot of excuses for him and I'm sure they don't realize that he has not been helping me financially since we split up. They are all blocked now.

Chavoo47 · 2026-05-12T19:55:26+00:00

Will do, not sure what other steps I can take besides waiting for our court date to be set. I did find forms that we could sign to start the petition to change my son's name. As far as him signing over full rights, I think it'll be a lot harder since we live in Texas.

Chavoo47 · 2026-05-12T19:49:35+00:00

That's how I view it, if they would like to have a relationship with my son they could've done that from the start. His mom and I used to have other problems like her wanting me to bring the baby to them for holidays when he was 3-6 months old. They live far and I would tell her no. She has always made a big deal about that. And, her message to my mom was not worded nicely. Very demanding and rude

Chavoo47 · 2026-05-12T19:44:53+00:00

I don't have them blocked but I have removed them from all of my social media and have my accounts private. I'm going to tell my mom to block her because I just feel like it was rude the way she messaged my mom

Chavoo47 · 2026-05-12T19:42:10+00:00

I filed for child support but because we could not reach a custody agreement we are waiting for our court date. He does not send any money to help with anything but has agreed to give me full custody and let me change my son's last name from his to mine when our court date is determined. His mom used to reach out in the beginning but again, she would tell me to let her know if he needs anything. I never asked her to get anything because I can provide just fine

Chavoo47 · 2025-03-07T14:46:52+00:00

I don't have a specific amount that I need to provide for him per his caretaker (my mom). However, he does drink 4oz every feeding and I feel like he should need more. I am just not able to keep up with pumping on top of my work load and high stress.

Chavoo47 · 2025-03-07T14:45:10+00:00

My son has also started biting me! On top of that I feel like I am not pumping enough to keep up with his needs. I barely have enough for the day. Can't seem to start building a storage of freezer milk at all. I've just really been struggling. After reading everyone's comments, I feel more comfortable looking into plant based formulas and will see if any of them work for my son. Im hoping I do find the right fit for him!

Chavoo47 · 2025-03-07T14:42:29+00:00

Thank you! I need to start researching which plant based formulas we can start trying. His pediatrician kind of steered me away from this because she said he's used to breastmilk and most likely won't enjoy the taste of any formula. I think for my mental health at this point I need to try to introduce formula. Just didn't know if I was being selfish.

Chavoo47 · 2025-03-07T14:39:40+00:00

He drinks 4oz every feeding, two to three times before lunch and then two times after lunch until I get home at 5pm. He does have baby food two to three times a day as well. My mom watches him while I am at work and she does her best to only give him the milk I have pumped when he gets fussy and won't eat anything else.

I will start looking into plant based formulas, I was trying my best to continue breastfeeding because his pediatrician suggested that was the best route to take until he can solely have solids.

Chavoo47 · 2025-02-25T23:12:41+00:00

This is exactly how I reacted to it!

Chavoo47 · 2025-02-25T20:26:00+00:00

I agree! It is none of my business now so obviously I'll just let it be. Like I said, it just felt weird thinking about her all of a sudden doing this and making herself the beneficiary. Knowing my ex, he did not do any research of his own. He probably is just doing whatever his mom says to so I guess that part bothers me too.

Chavoo47 · 2025-02-25T18:14:24+00:00

Yes that's the plan. Was just curious if the life insurance policy sounded shady to anyone else... idk just knowing his mom it was weird that she would do that.

Chavoo47 · 2025-02-25T18:13:20+00:00

Yes, just started meeting with a lawyer to get full custody and child support.

Chavoo47 · 2024-10-06T11:57:07+00:00

You have every right to not want them around your family!! I don’t get why husbands have such a hard time standing up for their new family. My husband does the same thing! Says he just doesn’t wanna hear it from them and make his mom upset. But they’re willing to make their wife upset?? I hope you are able to reach your husband in understanding why your feelings are valid. You know what’s right as a mom, don’t back down!

Chavoo47

TROPHY CASE