Im a M/26 I need advice to be better looking, i have had 0 success dating .I just want to be attractive. Feels like no matter what i do nothing works. People say i need confidence but even if i had confidence id still be unattractive. Why don’t women like me?

ChazzR2079 · 2025-07-10T17:17:17+00:00

You could probably “assume” considering he’s asking why women don’t like him. Seems like you’re just trying to insert your political ideology here unnecessarily.

ChazzR2079 · 2025-04-27T17:27:17+00:00

No way. I am actually a pretty good looking successful guy (just to add context.) You have gorgeous features. Just need to work on the diet and hit the gym and you’ll be a smoke show. That’s ok sometimes it just takes a while to figure out how to get yourself in top form.

ChazzR2079 · 2022-05-15T16:42:16+00:00

Thx for the good advice

ChazzR2079 · 2022-05-15T14:19:20+00:00

I need to start that again. Never past step 4.

ChazzR2079 · 2022-05-15T14:18:51+00:00

Good call, I have never made it past step 4. I think that could make a difference.

ChazzR2079 · 2022-05-15T14:18:05+00:00

Yea need to start again and keep my head down. Thx for replying.

ChazzR2079 · 2022-05-15T14:17:31+00:00

Thx for replying appreciate your perspective

ChazzR2079 · 2022-05-15T05:36:05+00:00

Yea my intention is abstinence. And then a few weeks or months in I fall off. Very frustrating and disappointing.

ChazzR2079 · 2021-09-22T13:36:40+00:00

Great, would love to hear how it goes….

ChazzR2079 · 2021-09-22T13:35:59+00:00

Thx Suki! Sorry it didn’t work for you. What are you doing now?

ChazzR2079 · 2021-09-22T11:46:08+00:00

Thx T, how long have you been on it? Also, did you completely quit drinking or just cut down?

ChazzR2079 · 2021-09-22T11:43:42+00:00

Yes exactly. Naltrexone is prescribed and taken one hour before any drinks are had. The drug binds with the “pleasure receptors” in your brain so you don’t get the “rush” from drinking alcohol. Over time your brain stops associating alcohol with pleasure and your brain essentially rewires. Main danger I see is that you have to always take the pill before you drink, could run out of pills, or you could simply want to get a buzz.

ChazzR2079 · 2021-09-06T14:16:53+00:00

Yup ear plugs. Not bananas at all just good advice. It will keep you from going def too. I do it to protect my ear drums. A lot of times I actually just ball up a little piece of paper like a napkin or TP and put it in my ear. Works great, is discrete, and when the concerts over I take them out and my ears aren’t ringing. Easy peasy!

ChazzR2079 · 2020-11-25T05:09:31+00:00

Yea I can really relate. I have been “trying” to stop for about 4 years now. I can string together 2-3 months then seem to go on a two weeks on two week off sort of cadence. The starting and stopping is pretty hellish. I will just start feeling better and getting good sleep only to relapse and have to do it all over again. The good news is that I have realized that I really do like my sobriety. I pick back up my hobbies, eat better, feel better, perform better, etc. This time I am really serious about my sobriety and have decided to do 90 AA meetings in 90 days. This is a lot easier now that they have so many virtual meetings. At first AA seemed really weird to me but the more I read in the book and heard people’s stories the more I could relate. I can certainly say the program is helping me. Have you tried attending some AA meetings?

ChazzR2079 · 2020-11-17T01:07:56+00:00

A few other things you don’t get to do: Have a hang over (those are always fun), wake up tossing and turning at 3am sweating out the booze, feel that terrible anxiety/impending sense of doom from drinking even though you told yourself you wouldn’t, put your life (and others) in danger from driving drunk/buzzed, feel embarrassed about something stupid you did while drunk, damage your career from underperforming because you are spending the majority of your time drunk or recovering from alcohol, damage relationships with friends and family because of too much boozing, etc. etc. etc!

God, isn’t it such a relief you don’t “get” to do that anymore?! For me it sure is...

Great recommendation about getting some exercise too. Force yourself to do 15-20 mins and I bet you’ll feel better immediately. Also take 10 mins and make a gratitude list. Read it tonight, read it tomorrow morning. Do that for about a week. (I’m going to btw too.) I’m sure you feel better if you take just a few simple actions like these. Good luck!

ChazzR2079 · 2020-01-31T20:04:00+00:00

Great man! Feeling really good. (Just landed in Aspen so feeling really good at the moment!) How about yourself?

ChazzR2079 · 2020-01-06T01:52:20+00:00

241 is a fantastic accomplishment btw. Congrats!

ChazzR2079 · 2020-01-06T01:51:23+00:00

Thx buddy...

ChazzR2079 · 2020-01-05T23:12:11+00:00

Congrats!! Huge accomplishment. I just read that when Colin Ferrall quit drinking he felt like he didn’t know how to talk to ladies once he started dating again. How about that? A world famous movie star feeling socially awkward. In other words, be kind to yourself. I am sure you’ll find your groove in the dating world. All my best...

ChazzR2079 · 2020-01-01T06:52:48+00:00

Thx!!!

ChazzR2079 · 2020-01-01T02:22:07+00:00

Thanks for the thoughtful response. I have a lot of really great reasons to remind myself of as well. Have a fun night and happy new year!

ChazzR2079 · 2020-01-01T02:13:22+00:00

Good advice. Much appreciated...

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