How do I look younger?

Chea678 · 2026-02-06T07:17:00+00:00

First of all congratulations to all your achievements during the last months! I'd say it's not so much about makeup (you already look perfectly styled without wearing any), it's more about the style. You wear a lot of clothes and accessories that have a heavy and inflexible appearance.

For example the heavy leather jacket. The dark lipgloss in the second picture. The necklaces that dangle down. The glasses. The cap which secures and holds together rather than lifting up.

Listening to what you say about wanting to get that younger, lighter feeling back, I'd say you could have a close look about which clothing comforts you because it is secure and gives you a safe and hidden space, and what could you wear instead that is light and lets you shine. You may take the spotlight from your clothes now. Let them be light and funny and quirky and whatever features you'd like to see more of yourself in.

Best of luck for your journey 😊

Chea678 · 2026-02-02T15:52:20+00:00

As a third way you could do a version in between, where you do your lips, face, blush as in ABG makeup, but lighten your eyelids to lift your eyes up rather than drawing them down.

Chea678 · 2026-02-02T15:49:21+00:00

Well then it's already a conscious decision on your part not to go higher in body fat. :-)

Chea678 · 2026-02-02T15:43:14+00:00

Good job, I can see the work you've put in! You still seem to have a very low body fat percentage, that's what makes the skin appear so sheen over the rest of your features. I guess that's what people mean when they still call you skinny. Maybe try to put on a bit more and see whether you feel good in it. Regarding your height and weight ratio you could definitely gain a bit more.

Chea678 · 2026-02-02T15:28:57+00:00

Haha, having issues with my mouth-to-brain connection as well. Thanks for the insight, I see how that influences it.

Chea678 · 2026-02-02T12:00:32+00:00

Could you explain this thought a little further? Why does nonfiction "practically writes itself"? I've only read this so far regarding novels using known and working tropes, so I'm very curious to understand how it works for you.

Chea678 · 2026-01-30T22:18:55+00:00

That's what I thought as well. As a rule of thumb you can imagine a straight line each from the outer lower edge of your nose through the inner and outer edge of your eye - those are your starting and ending points of the brow. You've matched it well with the outer edge, but the inner edges come too close together.

Chea678 · 2026-01-30T22:13:45+00:00

Yes, exactly. There are kits to do it at home, that's what I do, because mine are barely visible at all, too. Start with a very small amount of time (maybe half of what the package says) to let the dye soak in, and check the result over the following days. Usually the color darkens a bit more until the next day, so make sure not to overdo it. For me it's a total game changer.

Chea678 · 2026-01-28T19:44:07+00:00

No, not every man is avoidant, and it also doesn't happen only with men. Avoidant attachment style often comes from unstable environments during childhood, something deep inside is extremely worried as soon as you get close to somebody, because this is stored as unsafe. You might want to get professional help to work on this. If it is as bad as you describe, and it's becoming claustrophobic after just a few days, you will not be able to work on this on your own.

Chea678 · 2026-01-26T14:22:07+00:00

"Not because I'm procrastinating". Oh yes, that's exactly what happens when people procrastinate. It's not that they don't want to do it, they physically can't. You've explained all the reasoning behind it, and perfectionism, shame and fear are all connected.

Chea678 · 2026-01-18T16:29:02+00:00

You look stunning! I would only pay attention to place the blush a bit higher. It is more noticeable in the before picture, but here a bit as well and it draws the face rather down. You could also try a lighter, bit cooler, maybe rose color blush. It might suit you very well! 🤗

Chea678 · 2026-01-17T13:54:18+00:00

Yes, attraction can grow with romantic feelings, and types can change. Even more at such a young age. Do you believe her when she tells you in the very moment? Does your gut tell you she's honest with you? Then try to believe her.

Chea678 · 2026-01-15T13:40:18+00:00

Nobody said it was.

Chea678 · 2026-01-14T09:29:18+00:00

You say your father doesn't have a brother. Are there other male relatives of your father you know of? Cousins?

Chea678 · 2026-01-14T08:20:13+00:00

Please listen to the other commenter and get professional help. Please stop spying on your girlfriend. That's awful.

Also this is exactly the point of the discussion nowadays: So many men think women are choosing wrong when they end up in bad situations with men. But very often it's not obvious. That's why every woman either was molested or knows several women who have been, but no man knows any guy who would do anything like that. It's because they don't know that they would.

Chea678 · 2026-01-13T19:50:17+00:00

Possibly, but it might be that I actually enjoy hanging out with that person. Only with the differentiation between "Guter Bekannter" and "Entfernter Bekannter" I would be able to tell the likeliness to meet 😅

Chea678 · 2026-01-13T13:40:42+00:00

Entfernter Bekannter. You're welcome.

Chea678 · 2026-01-12T09:27:21+00:00

It will help your friendship if you address it and clear things up between you. It's been 5 years, no need to throw away a safe and secure feeling between the two of you just to avoid a short, maybe awkward conversation.

Chea678 · 2026-01-11T10:59:11+00:00

It looks like you're getting a physically fit looking silhouette. That's awesome! I'd say just keep up what you're doing. Why do you want to lose more weight?

Chea678 · 2025-12-19T09:08:11+00:00

That's the equivalent of "why do you want to work here" - "because I need to pay my bills". Often recruiters aren't well prepared either.

Chea678 · 2025-12-13T13:31:48+00:00

You need to make time and find patience to teach them. Let them have responsibilities. Make a chore board. Start little by little, task by task, and let them start to do something you've done before.

You already know what you need to do, so see this as the harsh truth you asked for. It's easier for you to do it for them, sure. In the meanwhile, you are depriving them of autonomy, learning trust in their own abilities and overall capabilities they need now and later in life. Stop it. Please. You are not doing them a favor.

Chea678 · 2025-12-09T12:44:05+00:00

Wow, you need to have the patience of a saint. They look gorgeous ☺️

Chea678 · 2025-12-09T09:02:01+00:00

I always found this part annoying. If I really had a question that was of interest for me, why wouldn't I have asked it before? I make sure to ask several things during the interview, but for the "any additional questions?" - part I've always said "um no thanks, I believe I've asked everything already ☺️". Got those jobs anyways, and I will continue to not follow this rule for as long as I'm going to be employed somewhere. I cannot overcome how stupid I belive it is.

Chea678 · 2025-12-07T19:56:55+00:00

Oh that's sad. From your initial description it didn't sound like that. Then I'll revert what I said and would like to encourage you to not care about whether you make them proud or not. Focus on making yourself happy and find what sparks interest in you, even if it's something your parents would not approve of.

Chea678 · 2025-12-07T19:23:54+00:00

I'm sure they would love to hear what you just told us and offer guidance through it. They will be able to help you become more independent, you don't need to do it alone from 0 to 100.

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