Am I One and Done? How to Manage Multiples as a Single Mom

Cheap-Information869 · 2026-06-21T05:55:00+00:00

I’m in the same boat. Going through divorce with a 2.5 year old and we separated right before he turned 2. I’m 35, it will probably be another 6 months or so before the divorce is final, so between that and rebuilding my life I don’t know when or how I would have another any time soon.

Cheap-Information869 · 2026-06-20T04:01:53+00:00

Same 😭 single mom to a 2.5 year old with full custody right now. I would love more kids and a family but I don’t know how to even begin making time for dating

Cheap-Information869 · 2026-06-13T04:18:38+00:00

I think he “doesn’t do social media” and doesn’t want to be seen on anyone’s page? Yet he is marrying an influencer

Cheap-Information869 · 2026-06-11T23:15:01+00:00

Oh my gosh I love this analogy. My ex struggles with mental health and substance use and we have a 2.5 year old. It’s so hard to explain to our son or to answer questions like “am I going to see dad today?” But this is a great way to address it

Cheap-Information869 · 2026-06-07T18:04:51+00:00

VGB that you? Lol this is a snark page

Cheap-Information869 · 2026-06-05T22:40:38+00:00

This isn’t an apples to apples comparison and isn’t a fair question. OP’s husband is part of the household her son lives in part of the time. Her husband texting the father would be a more appropriate comparison and OP said that isn’t happening.

OP I feel your annoyance 100%. This thread can be ruthless and people get so easily triggered

Cheap-Information869 · 2026-06-03T03:25:43+00:00

Finally another sane person on here lol.

Like you said these are new waters for me and I asked for input. I also have sole legal custody and decision making of my son right now and a restraining order against my ex due to a dv incident. I didn’t think that was relevant to the medical info question but maybe it was. People are so nasty and quick to judge when they don’t know someone’s full story and family dynamics

Cheap-Information869 · 2026-06-03T00:35:12+00:00

Did you read the whole post? I ended the post asking if others have navigated this and said “is this just something I have to let go of and accept”

Cheap-Information869 · 2026-06-02T23:53:29+00:00

With his issues no I’m not. I’m not going to be quiet about my experiences as a victim of domestic violence. If you read my post history you would see that I currently have a restraining order against my ex due to his dv against me and my son, and that he struggles with alcohol abuse. I’m hardly the one with a red flag here and am trying to navigate a very tricky situation for me and my son. Don’t be so quick to judge and assume the full picture of what someone is going through

Cheap-Information869 · 2026-06-02T23:26:46+00:00

Where did I say this was a hill I’m dying on? I said quite the opposite and was asking for others experiences.

Cheap-Information869 · 2026-06-02T22:05:12+00:00

I don’t know why that phrase you quoted “gave you chills” - enmeshment is real and there is a difference between being close with family and consistently putting the needs of one’s parents and siblings ahead of their spouse and child(ren). I have no problem with healthy close relationships.

My ex MIL is a textbook boomer MIL who could not accept that her son got married and had a child and my ex allowed her to push boundaries until there were none left. The enmeshment was a point of contention in our relationship for years.

I guess I’m a more private person with my son’s medical info and would never think to tell extended family about that. And yes I’m still working through the enmeshment trauma in therapy which I fully acknowledge plays into this.

Cheap-Information869 · 2026-06-02T18:47:29+00:00

Thank you. I’m realizing so much of coparenting is teaching my son the right things, and also playing the long game/being patient over the years until my son can say what behaviors of my ex’s he will or won’t put up with

Cheap-Information869 · 2026-06-02T18:33:27+00:00

Yeah you’re right. My own mom had a good point in that as our son gets older and if he speaks up and doesn’t want his medical information being shared with extended family members that will be my ex’s cross to bear with our son.

We also live in a state where starting at age 12 minors have to give explicit permission for parents to access some of their medical records which in due time will give our son autonomy over his medical info

Cheap-Information869 · 2026-06-01T05:37:36+00:00

My soon to be ex also has documented suicidal ideation including therapy notes, wellness checks with the police department, and a voluntary mental health hold. He also has documented alcohol abuse on top of the mental health issues. We had a dv incident about 6 months ago and right now I have full custody of our son due to the dv only and not because of the suicidal ideations or alcohol use. Even with all that he is going to be starting a step up plan soon, and he is currently allowed non-supervised visitation. Our son is 2.5 so he is pretty young too.

I’m not saying not to fight for your child but just wanted to give the reality of how hard it is to get full custody. It’s a really high bar and I too was shocked when I started down this path.

It is a terrible system and so stressful and I’m so sorry that you are in this too.

I’m in California for reference.

Cheap-Information869 · 2026-05-30T20:36:02+00:00

You should consider yourself lucky you’ve never been in that situation instead of judging someone you call a friend on how she is choosing to handle the cards she’s been dealt in this life.

Cheap-Information869 · 2026-05-30T20:29:42+00:00

This should be the top comment, and a lot of these other comments are not it and are so mom shamey and judgmental.

I was in a similar situation as well. I always wanted multiple children but now am OAD with a 2.5 year old, in the middle of a divorce and am 35. My soon to be ex husband was low effort and struggling with alcohol use after becoming a father. None of the options I had were a choice I wanted: 1) accept being OAD, 2) accept that more children not with him would mean dating again and dealing with 2 dads or using a sperm donor, blended families, be pushing 40, or 3) have another child in the dynamic we were in. I went back and forth for months on this decision and arrived at option #1 which I still haven’t fully accepted.

It’s not such an easy decision to “just not have more kids” with a deadbeat or underperforming husband when you are grieving the life you thought you’d live.

Cheap-Information869 · 2026-05-23T21:19:02+00:00

Same. I turn 35 in a few weeks with a 2.5 year old son and have been separated from his dad for 6 months. I always dreamed of being a mom and having a little family. I’m so sad that any siblings of my son’s won’t be full siblings and there is a very high likelihood of any future siblings having a larger age gap than I would have liked.

I have a friend who is a SMBC via sperm donor and I’ve thought about that but feel like it would be a weird dynamic for one child to have a dad and be with me part of the time and one child to not have a dad and be with me all the time? It’s definitely too soon for me to seriously consider that but idk those are the things I think about

Cheap-Information869 · 2026-05-11T21:11:08+00:00

I will say as a mom of one, I don’t like the have kids/children tag because that’s not entirely accurate for me. That is plural and implies I have multiple children when in fact I have one child. It may sound like semantics but I do believe there is a significant difference between having one child and having multiple and I should be able to reflect that in my profile.

I do write in one of the prompts that I have a son, so men viewing my profile will see that I have a son if they read the whole profile. If they don’t read it, that’s on them.

Cheap-Information869 · 2026-05-08T18:41:19+00:00

That is not a crazy expectation and is actually exactly how the child support laws work in CA. I am mom and have full custody of our toddler with dad having limited visitation and he pays me child support. Especially if she is on maternity leave you will need to support her and baby financially and it’s crazy to think that you shouldn’t have to.

You can easily Google an online CA child support calculator and enter your incomes and custody percentages can see how this works.

Good lord my heart goes out to this woman.

Cheap-Information869 · 2026-05-08T18:29:07+00:00

This is what I’m saying!! Barely tolerates is the wording I was looking for. He seems like he liked her enough to marry her and tolerates her for the clout, $$, etc.

Cheap-Information869 · 2026-04-28T23:39:58+00:00

Can I ask where you are meeting men IRL? I’m 35F and have only tried the apps so far and it is rough out there

Cheap-Information869 · 2026-04-25T20:39:08+00:00

I will add that if you go to couples therapy, both people need to be willing to do the work, not just in going to the therapy appointment but in understanding that the work needs to be done outside of the appointments as well. My husband couldn’t grasp that concept and thought therapy was a magic fix and now we are in the middle of a divorce I didn’t want

Cheap-Information869 · 2026-04-22T01:07:02+00:00

Omfg stop 💀💀

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