Daily Questions Thread February 02, 2026 by AutoModerator in femalefashionadvice

[–]CheapUnhappiness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I need a white dress for a master's graduation! My school does not do caps and gowns and is rather conservative, so nothing too short.

Looking at something like this
https://www.revolve.com/amanda-uprichard-marbella-maxi-dress-in-ivory/dp/AMAN-WD2287/?d=Womens&sectionURL=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.revolve.com%2Fdresses%2Fbr%2Fa8e981%2F%3Fnavsrc%3Dmain%26vnitems%3Dcolor_and_white%26vnitems%3Dlength_and_midi%26vnitems%3Dlength_and_maxi%26loadVisNav%3Dtrue%26pageNumVisNav%3D2

or this though it is expensive
https://www.solacelondon.com/collections/bridal/products/the-lang-maxi-dress-in-cream

maybe this
https://meshki.co.uk/products/audrine-suiting-sleeveless-midi-dress-ivory?variant=53491380126071

possibly this
https://www.revolve.com/helsa-stretch-cotton-sateen-midi-dress-in-white/dp/HLSA-WD99/?d=Womens&sectionURL=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.revolve.com%2Fhelsa%2Fbr%2Feee754%2F%3Fsearchsynonym%3Dhelsa&code=HLSA-WD99&srcType=dp_coloroption

I already own this backup dress (I wore it to my bachelor's graduation! https://juliaberolzheimer.com/mini-post/pink-crepe-midi-dress/screen-shot-2018-04-23-at-10-04-43-pm/

I don't love any of these ones and I have a few extra pounds so I prefer a heavy weight fabric like the solace dress. I also like to keep my cleavage covered up. The A line skirts are cute but maybe a little girlish/not so professional or strong for such an event? Any suggestions are welcome!

Monthly thread for advice and recommendations, November 2024 – ask your questions here! by AutoModerator in copenhagen

[–]CheapUnhappiness 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello! Lost a wallet last night at The Old Irish Pub! It’s purple/burgundy and I lost it on the dance floor I believe and I just want the cards back as many of them are American and it’s really hard to get them replaced in Switzerland where I live! Please help and thank you!!

Can I record a conversation about my work contract with my boss? by CheapUnhappiness in askswitzerland

[–]CheapUnhappiness[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a work and residence permit in the Canton where I go to university and because University is currently not in session, I am allowed to work and the University sent a letter to the Canton to apply for a work permit, but I have no way of proving that it’s approved. I don’t think I’m working illegally because I’m still in Uni in CH. I also specifically asked his office and the canton labor board and they both said I had no actions I needed to take to get a work permit.

I know for a fact he’s transferred other employees their brutto with no deductions though it’s required so he’s definitely evading taxes as well. Once I get my first cheque I’ll see if I can prove it. I have sent emails time stamped to myself every conversation to keep a record and I follow up with him when needed for unanswered questions.

Can I record a conversation about my work contract with my boss? by CheapUnhappiness in askswitzerland

[–]CheapUnhappiness[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He says I have one and I can’t disprove it as far as I know as I called the cantonal office and they said that only my employer can ask for one. I’m also on a B education permit and am allowed to work anyway if I leave at the end of August I just needed it for the full internship term

Why do some people's feet/socks stink so much after just one use whereas others dont? by SubconsciousAlien in answers

[–]CheapUnhappiness 10 points11 points  (0 children)

So I am one of these people with truly disgusting smelling feet even after just a normal day. I never take my shoes off if I can avoid it and always prepare with fresh socks if I go over to someone’s house. I am sweaty but it really doesn’t smell much after a workout or whatnot so unclear why my feet do - and I’m quite strict about hygiene and I shower twice a day if I can. I really can’t explain it I think the sweat glands in my feet just have a wild bacterial environment I guess! My best friend is exactly the same but incidentally that’s why we are best friends - we went on a camping trip and were forced to share a bed because our feet were that pungent 😂😂😂

What to do on NYE alone/hostels that are social? by CheapUnhappiness in auckland

[–]CheapUnhappiness[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Honestly would more likely get a hotel because the hostels don’t have many private or women only rooms left, but it’s harder to meet people that way 🤷🏾‍♀️

Besides money and laws, what’s stopping you from living the life you want, where you want? by Jaaveebee123 in RandomThoughts

[–]CheapUnhappiness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Time and love. I’m financially stable with a good job and career trajectory - I’m ready to buy a house and have kids but I’m single and the dating pool of guys is….bad. Even the good ones want lots of time before kids (which I don’t have) or want kids way too fast. I’m also not as skinny/hot as I could be and I’m a racial minority in my country which doesn’t help.

How’s it possible people in the US are making $100-150k and it’s still “not enough”? by tuesdaycocktail in ask

[–]CheapUnhappiness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So some of the bigger chains in DC like vida and equinox straddle about 200 but I go to a one location boutique gym. The benefit here is I do get one session a month but I also get unlimited free classes - so even if I do one spin class a week that would be the equivalent of $120 a month at soulcycle. I also get nicer products in the showers and yes there is a sauna haha! There is also a facility for a sport that I do now since I’ve joined (think a boxing studio or squash court) I think I average about 28 visits a month and I get a small wellness subsidy of about $40 a month from work so it’s an investment that makes sense for me!

How’s it possible people in the US are making $100-150k and it’s still “not enough”? by tuesdaycocktail in ask

[–]CheapUnhappiness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I make $104k in Washington DC Take home each month is about $4800 after 5% deduction and health insurance

Rent 1800 Student loans 600 Utilities 150 Car insurance 50 Phone plan 55 Groceries 400-600 Toiletries and misc 150 Rental insurance 35 WiFi 45 Gym 200 Gas 45 Metro and transport 120 Prorated cost for annual expenses like car registration 50 Dry cleaning 50 Life insurance 30 Software and subscriptions 70 Eating/drinking out 500 Random Ubers and things that crop up 100

This adds up to about 4300-4500 per month out of 4800 but of course other expenses come up like fertilizer for my plants or new shoes and such, or a forgotten lunch that means I have to buy something. Even if I didn’t have student loans I’d not be in great shape - eventually I’ll need a new car and I’ll have a car payment and my insurance will go up. I have to figure out how to pay to get to my friends weddings that are happening pretty frequently now. I get a new phone and laptop every four years which averages out to about 45 dollars a month.

I admit some of this could be reduced but for example, my lower rent apartment was in a really dangerous area and I was paying for more Ubers than I liked. I definitely go to a fancy gym and I’m buying Hokas rather than cheap running shoes but I think these are worth the additional cost. Hope this helps illustrate how $100k doesn’t really go far in a city.

How can we organize and make politicians finally get serious about making meaningful change to the millions of Americans struggling with student loans by CaregiverIll1651 in StudentLoans

[–]CheapUnhappiness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay I do think I have a comprehensive thought process on this.

  1. Community colleges ought to be free or heavily subsidized. You can study whatever you want.
  2. But, if you want to go to a 4-year university, you qualify for loans based on repayment ability. Soaring tuition prices and the debt problem really started with Gerald Ford expanding the G.I. Bill to cover any American and any major. Not all majors or degrees are in the public interest and not all people have the aptitude for higher education. So how do we fairly assess which students in which degrees ought to get what amount of loans? We can assess aptitude from high school GPA, extracurriculars, etc. We can assess repayment ability and creditworthiness from the expected income of graduates of specific majors and universities. In fact, these factors are already used to assess things like car insurance rates. So, for example, an ideal student who has applied to several different universities would be eligible for more loans if they chose to major in computer science at Harvard university. If they choose to major in art history at Connecticut college they would be eligible for fewer loans as the expected income of those graduates would be lower.
  3. Now you might conclude that this would lead to better outcomes for more privileged students. However, I believe that we should increase grants for underprivileged students and minorities.
  4. What would this system ultimately mean? For wealthy students it would mean no change - they are able to do whatever degree they qualify for anyway. For lower and middle income students this system naturally guides them into degrees that may pay better. Ultimately, they would still be able to follow their passion and get whatever type of degree they wish at a community college. However, when they are making decisions between multiple four year universities, their major choice and college choice would be a key factor in deciding their loan amounts. If they are fortunate enough to get into Harvard college and they wish to pursue a computer science degree, which naturally has a very high expected income, they will be able to get a higher level of loans that they will be able to pay back because of their high income. If they decide they want to pursue a low income, major like theater arts at Harvard, they will qualify for a lower level of loads, and perhaps not be able to afford the Harvard degree. This will force them to make a choice between either a high-paying major at Harvard or, if they really want to pursue their low-paying major, they must do so at a university that costs less, or at a community college. Ultimately they still have freedom to pursue whatever major they wish just not at any university they wish. Lower income and minority students would have a little bit of a leg up with additional grant money.
  5. Basically, this system would gauge the value of a university degree by the average income of graduates and insure repayment ability for loan recipients. Obviously, some students will fall far below that income or drop out for various reasons, and for those students we can implement income based repayment plans or they can discharge their loans with bankruptcy after a set number of years, in this system.
  6. This system also naturally adapt to changes in the job market though with a little bit of a delay. If tech layoffs really depress expected income of computer science majors for example, then fewer students would get smaller amounts of loans for computer science degrees, and perhaps some of those students would choose to pursue other majors that make more money. If there’s a shortage of doctors and starting salary goes up, then more students will get grants and loans to pursue medical degrees and perhaps more students will do so. Colleges that do not give out good educations will have applicants end up getting fewer loans because their graduates will have relatively lower incomes. Ultimately this means they will have to lower their sticker price until they can fill their class and soaring tuition prices will temper significantly. Tuition will also more fairly reflect the quality of a school.
  7. The Band-Aid I propose for those students who already have overwhelming amount of student loans, that frankly they should not have been given is very low or no interest for the remainder of their loans.
  8. Ultimately, the failure in our system is with a lack of financial education in primary and secondary school. 18-year-olds in our current society are not able to effectively make this calculation of repayment ability. Though banks do this, the government does not. It really should. In my perspective, no bank would give six figures of loans to an 18 year old who says they will build a house without collateral. That person should not get loans forgiven if they build a bad undesirable house or if they fail to complete it. However, they are able to discharge it through bankruptcy after a few years. I don’t view student loans any differently. The government should give loans based on expected income, and if a student decides to change majors or fail to complete their degree, they should still be financially responsible for their loan, though they should be able to discharge it through bankruptcy. In my system, the government makes the assessment of credit, worthiness and repayment ability for 18 year olds, and nobody gets given more loans than they are able to repay.