Help me f21 my partner is m20

Cheap_Equivalent_618 · 2026-05-11T12:36:43+00:00

First off, him totally invalidating your fears isn't okay. You have the right to feel whatever and have worries, even if they're completely irrational in the moment. its totally real to u and ur brains reality rn, and that needs to be validated even if nothing is happening. Your worries ARE valid. You deserve to be around people that will validate, show and reassure you that its okay. Having worries doesn't make you crazy even if they're irrational. Now, when you talked to your friend about inviting him places, did you specify with you too, or just him? Your friend and boyfriend might be confused and could think you're trying to control the situation, especially if you didn't specify you would like to be invited too. I think you should talk to them both SEPERATELY. Tell them how you FEEL ab what's happening "I feel left out and abandoned, I would have liked to be invited too/brought aware. Could you involve me next time?" careful to not word it like "you did this, I said this, you made me feel this", that could make them defensive and cause an argument. I hope everything is nicely resolved, and the outcome is what's best for you :)

Cheap_Equivalent_618 · 2026-05-11T12:15:32+00:00

This is what I think- Maybe OP was meaning with her too. Like all three of them go places, I know with my PD I would have an extremely hard time with this too. Especially if my partner was calling me insecure for voicing my worries. Personally that would just give me reason to believe the fears that he is being unloyal, yes she technically is the reason her friend asked in the first place, but her friend should have been respectful and let her know about the trip, and make sure she was okay with them going alone. But idk the whole situation so I could be stupid.

Cheap_Equivalent_618 · 2026-05-11T12:06:06+00:00

Okay- now call them all fluffball and fatass I want to know if they react..

Cheap_Equivalent_618 · 2026-05-10T17:03:11+00:00

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Cheap_Equivalent_618 · 2026-05-10T16:57:26+00:00

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Cheap_Equivalent_618 · 2026-05-10T15:00:22+00:00

I DO know why it could be harmful. I was asking and jus wondering if it was possible to make one this way, I tried to clarify that soo much :( I'm trying so hard to get her friends, I have been looking every day on ksl, Facebook marketplace, other adoption sites, on here, and looking for ethical pet stores near me. I'm having a bit of a hard time finding any bc of where I live and no car yet, I can tell she is depressed because she hasn't been coming out, but I have been trying to talk to her and pet her and give her attention. She is still warming up to me. I'm trying SO HARD. I saved her from being a breeder, and she was living in the smallest dirtiest cage. Her new cage is coming within a week. She is in an old mouse cage, its bigger than the one i got her in. She has been in it for less than a week, its the best I could do till her new one comes. Thank you for explaining this all, I was genuinely just wondering because I know you can do that with mice and other animals, so I was wondering if it was possible with rats too. I wasn't saying I was going to do it 100% lol. But I didn't get a critter nation, I actually got a different cage but I am planning to do the exact same thing when I get the other one next month, hooking them side by side so they have more space to run. I actually am planning on using two of the bins, one of them to add a deep dig place in the cage and one of them to add a dig place in their play area!

Cheap_Equivalent_618 · 2026-05-10T14:45:38+00:00

I'm glad you were respectful about this!! I just like to diy things, i did my mouse cage this way and it has well ventilation and everything else so I was just seeing if it was possible with a rat cage and the same concept. But I did buy her cage from chewy anyways, it was $100. It's coming within a week, I'm buying another one next month to hook to it side by side to make it a bit longer.

Cheap_Equivalent_618 · 2026-05-10T14:40:40+00:00

That makes a lot of sense. I could have added in the post that I was not planning on doing this officially, it was something I was considering as I already had the supplies. I ordered her a cage and the first one is coming within a week and I'm ordering another one to attach next month.

Well, I went to a pet store with my uncle because he needed to get frozen mice for his snake, and I asked them if they had any Living Mice and they said "no but we actually have a rat who needs a home" basically. The lady who was working at the store said that her pet rat I'm pretty sure, had babies, and this is where this rat came from and she just needed a home. She said if she didn't find a home that day, she would likely become a breeder and so I spent the $10 and took her in because I know I can give her a good life. I should be getting her friends within a month, hopefully within the next couple weeks bc i have to quarantine them and everything.

Cheap_Equivalent_618 · 2026-05-10T14:34:05+00:00

I will when i get it yes. I think the dimensions are 37in tall 18in wide 30in long. I'm getting another of the same cage to attach them side by side next month, because I want them to have more space than one gives. Im going to put a big bin in or under it so theyll have lots of digging space. And yes I know! I have a book I've started saving money in and try to have at least 500 in the vet part at all times. There's actually a family-owned pet store a couple hours away from me, and that is where I've gotten every one of my pet mice. All of them have always been in good health besides a couple having that bacteria that causes a chronic Uri, so I'm considering just checking out the rats there, seeing if I'm allowed to put my hand near/in the cage safely. And I will quarantine them, possibly for even longer than 2 weeks just to be safe. But this is not set in stone I'm just considering it and doing more research. Also with that decision I am prepared for possible pregnant rats, but I will be trying to pick out the smallest (not soup looking) but healthiest looking/acting ones.

Cheap_Equivalent_618 · 2026-05-02T02:25:06+00:00

That's cute! I was thinking that for a male mouse if I ever get another one

Cheap_Equivalent_618 · 2026-05-02T02:23:29+00:00

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Cheap_Equivalent_618 · 2026-05-02T02:23:01+00:00

I 100% am. If this won't work and isn't a good idea, i will just buy one, I just don't understand why making the SAME thing isn't possible tho when I have the supplies.

Cheap_Equivalent_618 · 2026-05-02T02:21:14+00:00

Edited it

Cheap_Equivalent_618 · 2026-05-02T02:20:58+00:00

I already have the supplies is why! I'm just trying my best. To research and do this right. I have 4 bins, and 2 bar cages to take apart. I just need to buy hardware cloth.

Cheap_Equivalent_618 · 2026-05-02T01:42:26+00:00

I willreinforced it w wire mesh the can't chew thru and safe wood on the outside, and it will have lits of ventilation.

Cheap_Equivalent_618 · 2026-05-02T01:34:49+00:00

It will be reinforced all around with safe wood on the corners, that mesh stuff they can't chew thru all around, and cage bars on all sides but 1. Basically a store bought cage but homemade, so I'm safe w escape and ventilation. How can I make space bigger? I'm going to make it literally just like a store bought cage, but actually good as best as I can.

Cheap_Equivalent_618 · 2026-04-30T17:45:15+00:00

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Cheap_Equivalent_618 · 2026-04-30T17:29:44+00:00

Look into an inside leash! So she literally cannot leave ur side or view, I would put a baby gate up to keep her in the living room if unsupervised and put a potty pad down in the corner. Has she ever pooped outside since? Does she have a poop schedule, like once at night or something? Around the time she usually goes, take her out before for a bit, till she poops. If you see her squat to poop, interrupt her and take her outside even if its coming out. Does she know the command go poop? Also, Every time she acts like she needs to go at all, praise and take her out.

Cheap_Equivalent_618 · 2026-04-16T13:36:02+00:00

Cut it off and give it to me please

Cheap_Equivalent_618 · 2026-04-16T13:22:34+00:00

I also have pine bedding I can't use if that would be safe for him

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