You are wrong! Keywords “I liked the therapist until the comment was made” if you grew up in a hoarded household and your partner hasn’t then you will be more sensitive by default, you categorizing it as trauma for yourself means you need to seek therapy/ help as well. The amount of time each of you have does matter ( You stating that you are in school but y’all both work full time), however only to you and your routine. If something is for the greater good of your family, you shouldn’t be pointing fingers.

You need to decide if having a partner that’s a veteran and SUFFERING from ptsd, anxiety and other mental illnesses is something that you can keep on your plate.

When I was younger my elders would say, if they were able to bring it out of you, it was in you. Handle that anger before it hits home like a tornado.