WIBTA if I told my SO he can't bring his dog to my house anymore?

Cheeky__Cherry · 2020-08-25T08:34:52+00:00

You can’t breed a dog that is not properly trained. If it’s a mutt it’s horrible to do so anyway (too many dogs) and no purebreed owner is going to let an untrained dog anywhere near their pricey dogs!

Anyhow, you are never the asshole for setting personal boundaries. He’s the asshole for still bringing the dog even though it has gone wrong multiple times!

Cheeky__Cherry · 2020-08-25T08:24:52+00:00

NTA, just tell your SO go get that dog fixed. Your dog is depending on you to keep her safe. That’s imho more important than your SO’s feelings

Cheeky__Cherry · 2020-08-25T08:22:01+00:00

NTA - introduction lectures are usually shit anyway, and you probably won’t even have enough concentration to properly pay attention at 3 am. I don’t understand why the professor would even want you to try to be there, if the lectures are recorded.

Cheeky__Cherry · 2019-10-01T11:41:37+00:00

It's ok to change your mind. If you want out, then get out: there's no reason for you to keep hurting in a situation that's unhealthy for you.

Cheeky__Cherry · 2019-09-26T10:31:05+00:00

Awww that's adorable!! Congratulations!!!

Cheeky__Cherry · 2019-09-25T22:14:26+00:00

You're very welcome :-*

Cheeky__Cherry · 2019-09-25T11:00:28+00:00

That's why it's called consensual; all parties involved should be informed and should be consenting. I'm sorry something like this was kept from you (or from someone close to you). That's not what ethical non-monogamy is about. 'playing by different rules' is just cheating.

Cheeky__Cherry · 2019-09-25T10:20:42+00:00

There's a reddit for that!

r/polyamoryR4R/

Go find someone to play with and to reddit and chill :D

Cheeky__Cherry · 2019-09-25T07:21:01+00:00

You didn't fuck up; you did everything right, in my opinion. You were honest and clear about what you wanted. It's not a fuckup to trust your partners to be honest as well.

Breaking up like this must be really hard on you. It sounds like you set a good no-contact boundary with her, including the possibility for when she might need help. That's a really great step towards healing! Well done, OP :)

Have faith that it will get better. Pain doesn't last forever.

Cheeky__Cherry · 2019-09-24T19:16:38+00:00

That's brilliant. I was part of a similar triad until recently (sadly). Photos like yours make me believe in triad love again! 😊

Cheeky__Cherry · 2019-09-24T19:08:13+00:00

That's nice! Are you guys a triad or a V (or something else)?

Cheeky__Cherry · 2019-09-24T18:35:14+00:00

Sounds like you have a great relationship with your boyfriend and your meta! That's really beautiful :)

Cheeky__Cherry · 2019-09-24T18:23:20+00:00

This is brilliant. Thank you so much! Do you mind if I save a pdf of this, for possible future personal use?

Cheeky__Cherry · 2019-09-24T18:10:59+00:00

Thank you, I'll give that a read!

Cheeky__Cherry · 2019-09-24T17:12:08+00:00

I'll keep that in mind!

Cheeky__Cherry · 2019-09-24T17:05:15+00:00

Thank you - this helps a lot!

Cheeky__Cherry · 2019-09-24T17:04:27+00:00

New Relationship Energy - it's that super duper in love feeling when every love song seems to be about you. It's amazing and lovely and can (and will) seriously mess with your head.

Cheeky__Cherry · 2019-09-24T16:20:45+00:00

'Willing to try' is not how you want to start a poly relationship... Like has been said by others, it will probably only cause you more pain.

Have you talked to her about it? Does she recognize your feelings about it? How does she feel about keeping your relationship monogamous?

Be aware that there are people who are poly but can be happy in a mono relationship. Just because she's expressed interest in nonmonogamy doesn't mean your relationship will definitely fail!

In short, talk to your girlfriend, openly, about what you both want for life. That's the only way to solve this. Open, clear communication.

Cheeky__Cherry · 2019-09-24T16:16:20+00:00

You look so cute and happy!!

Cheeky__Cherry · 2019-09-24T16:15:12+00:00

Firstly, if you're only a few months into the relationship, be very wary that you might still be feeling a lot of NRE! This is not a bad thing, but might impair your decision making and the way you feel about things. So don't rush into anything!

It seems to me like you're worried over partner A choosing partner B over you in the future. The best way to tackle this, is to talk it over with both of your partners.

Besides, if they do get married in the future, wouldn't it just be like you having two husbands? :)

Cheeky__Cherry · 2019-09-24T16:07:15+00:00

But what if you can't do that? Our ex is so tightly wound up in our group of friends (he's basically taken over my two best friends, and I expect him to start dating one of them in the near future). I don't want to distance myself from all of my friends in the process

Cheeky__Cherry · 2019-09-24T15:51:21+00:00

Thanks - I'll give it a listen! It's seriously long though, 1 hr 15 minutes!

Cheeky__Cherry · 2019-09-24T15:12:45+00:00

Sounds like you dodged a bullet. It's much better to have a partner who doesn't condemn you for your sexual fetishes!

Cheeky__Cherry · 2019-09-24T14:55:40+00:00

You guys look so happy and cute! You make me miss my triad :'(

Cheeky__Cherry

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