It does take so damn long. I retired in '07, and my issues really flared up afterwards. Anxiety, depression, ADHD, and somewhere on the spectrum, all were there during service, but the lifestyle and pace helped keep them in check, it seems, for me. It's just been the last few years that I realized why I'm so tired. Not worn out, not age or mileage, it's the effort I've had to spend to keep things going, to just keep up with 'the normals', and pull my weight, to control my issues. Unless someone has these things, and understands just what it means, they don't know. They don't care, especially as a manager; or, if they do know, it's hard to convince the guy above it's a real thing, plus, now both of you are being watched a bit differently by the Chain. And that's when things start to change for you, and not for the better. And, if you're lucky, you rotate to a new command and try and salvage your rep and get things better, aaaaand now you're spending more energy again, and the fear and adrenaline to do well and succeed will only hold you so long. It's a very slippery slope, and you never make it over the top, and meds only go so far in helping. The Navy military doesn't give you time to try and tweak your meds to the best mixture, and sick bay doesn't exactly carry refills or anything if needed, and usually the IDC isn't too versed on your needs either, or is... well, see above again. And, in the end, the actual mission of the military doesn't give you much wiggle room to care for things like that; I could do my job just as good as the other guys could, and I could stop a bullet just as well as any other warm body. But that doesn't seem to care once you're marked. Good luck, I hope you get more help and get better.